"You all go away and leave me alone. "I just don't go to school, I don't go to school, I don't like school, I don't go to school, I don't go to death." A shrill cry came from her daughter's room.
My daughter, who had a lot of fun on the weekend, woke up after a sleep, and the whole person was like crazy, locking herself in the bedroom and yelling that she didn't want to come out, let alone go to school.
When my child first entered junior high school, I took my child with me in order to educate him well. When the children were young, the father and I had to go out to work, so we had to ruthlessly leave our two-year-old daughter with my grandparents.
I am usually busy with life, and only during the Chinese New Year, I take a few days to go home for a few days to see the elderly and children. When my child was young, when my father and I left, we walked secretly, not daring to let the child see it. No parent can bear to watch their children cry heartbreakingly.
The children are growing up day by day, and they are becoming more and more alienated from us. At that time, I just thought that the child had grown up and sensible, and I didn't care. Later, with my younger brother, I was even busier. Busy with life, busy with my younger brother. I became less and less interested in my daughter, and the time to talk to my daughter became less and less, and then even if I and the child's father wanted to talk to my daughter**, the child was no longer willing to answer.
Ten years later, the child's grandparents said that the child was older, and they couldn't control the child anymore, so let us take the child to our side and educate ourselves.
In this way, we went through the transfer procedures for my daughter, who had just entered the first year of junior high school. However, not long after the start of school, one day, the child was reluctant to go out of the room after getting up, and his father and I were in a hurry. After persuading for a long time, the child finally opened the door. However, the next scene stunned me, and the child knelt down in front of me and said that he would not go to school again.
I was so angry and anxious that the child's father picked up the broom and was about to pick it up on the child. I reacted and quickly stopped.
This kid has been stubborn since he was a child, and I'm really afraid that something will happen. I pushed the child's father out of the room and pulled the child up. I sat down and asked the child why this is, it is the age of going to school, what can I do if I don't go to school at such a young age?
The child said, "You can do anything, but you just don't want to go to school." If you can't learn, the teachers here are more strict, unlike the school in my hometown, it doesn't matter if you learn or not. Transferred to the new class group, everyone was learning Xi, and no one was playing with her. She couldn't study on her own, so she didn't want to go to school.
After listening to the child's words, I really want to slap myself twice, for so many years, the child's father and I have neglected the child's growth. When the child is older, it is too difficult to educate her well.
It's too late to bring the child to you now. Looking at my son who has been growing up by his side, he is very self-reliant and excellent in his learning and Xi life. Looking at my daughter, I really hate myself. If it was difficult to take the child with me at that time, it would not be where it is now.
The child's father is not good at talking, and when he sees the child like this, he feels uncomfortable, smoking one cigarette after another. In the end, I compromised with the child's father, and if I don't go up, I won't go on, at least the child is still there.
When the child is young, parents always feel that the child is small, and it does not have much impact on the child to be raised by the elderly. However, the emotional needs of children are neglected.
I once had a friend who grew up with my grandparents when I was a child, and later returned to my parents, but I was always not close to my parents, watching my younger brother and his parents have fun, I felt like an outsider, and I never found the feeling of home.
When he grew up, although he was kind to his parents, he was always emotionally detached. The sense of security in his heart made him feel that he was unsettled, and his heart was always empty.
As a parent, you often have to face the contradictory situation of living and raising a baby at the same time. Sometimes it's even hard to choose, but if you can bring your child with you as much as possible, you can raise it yourself. If you don't want to give your children more company, after all, there is no parent who doesn't want their children to grow up better and become useful people.