In this rapidly changing world, we often face challenges and difficulties. However, in this complex society, there is one quality that we should all adhere to, and that is kindness. However, both Haruki Murakami and Wang Xiaobo once said that kindness is not an easy thing, and excessive kindness will only make you worthless in the eyes of others. Therefore, we need to grasp the scale of kindness and not let our kindness become a burden to others.
In our lives, we often come across people who need help. However, we must be clear that not everyone needs our help. Sometimes, our excessive kindness only fuels the dependency of others and makes them unmotivated. Just like Guan Yuqing, she blindly helped her younger brother Guan Zhenlei, but in the end, she made him lazy and repaid virtue with resentment. Therefore, we need to learn that the heart of Our Lady overflows, but that "the mud does not hold up the wall" in almsgiving.
At the same time, we must also understand that "stretching your hand too long" and helping others make decisions is also an irresponsible behavior. We cannot interfere in the lives of others because of our own good intentions. Sometimes, our intervention only complicates things. is like Lu Keying in "Under the Warm Sun", she blindly forgave Song for his only mistake, but made him even more unenterprising. Therefore, we need to learn to "get to the point" and not interfere too much in other people's lives.
Finally, we also need to understand that forgiving others for their mistakes without a bottom line is also an irresponsible behavior. We can't give up our bottom line because of someone else's request. Sometimes, our tolerance only makes those who don't value us more unscrupulous. As Picasso said, "People have no bottom line, and they will endanger infinitely." Therefore, we need to learn to refuse the unreasonable demands of others and stick to our own bottom line.
In this world, kindness is a cherished quality. However, we must grasp the scale of goodness. We need to learn to say no to people or things that don't deserve our help, while also sticking to our bottom line. Only in this way can our kindness be of the greatest value.
In the process of doing good, we also need to pay attention to some issues. First, we need to learn to distinguish between right and wrong. Sometimes, things that seem good are actually harmful. For example, it would be irresponsible to encourage a person who has no self-control to continue to indulge in the game or to indulge a lazy person to continue to do nothing. Second, we need to learn to measure our abilities. Sometimes, we can only do what we can, and we can't overpromise or exaggerate our abilities. Finally, we need to learn to weigh the pros and cons. Sometimes, we also need to consider our own interests and feelings in the process of doing good.
In short, kindness is a precious quality, but doing good also requires a good grasp of the scale. We need to learn to distinguish between right and wrong, to measure our abilities, to weigh the pros and cons, and so on. Only in this way can our kindness be of the greatest value, and at the same time, it will not become a burden to others. In this complex society, let us face the world with a kind heart, but we must also learn to master the scale of kindness.