At the age of 55, he had a deposit of 100,000 yuan, and when he learned that he had died, he sighed that a woman has to be good to herself
Rural people regard savings as a sense of security, confidence and certainty for the future. In families with savings, they can remain calm in the face of unexpected situations. However, due to the limited income in rural areas, usually from farm work, small businesses, etc., accumulating savings requires little effort and thrift.
Diligence and thrift have always been the traditional virtues of the Chinese nation. Rural people pay attention to frugality in life, and use it to accumulate some savings through frugality. However, sometimes too much frugality can lead to over-giving, sacrificing quality of life and even affecting health and well-being.
Take 55-year-old Aunt Liu and her concubine as examples, both of whom are hardworking and thrifty people who are good at running their families. Although Aunt Liu only saved 100,000, her life was relatively happy. In stark contrast, because she was too frugal and endured all kinds of hardships in order to save money, she finally fell into an embarrassing situation.
The story of Aunt Liu and her concubine reflects that while pursuing frugality, we should also pay attention to the quality of life, and not neglect happiness and health for the sake of saving.
Narrator: Aunt Liu.
I'm Aunt Liu, and I'm 55 years old this year. There are three brothers in the family, and the husband is the eldest. Among them, the wife of the second brother has always compared me since she got married.
When she got married, she heard that I had two large wardrobes, and she asked for three. When I heard that my in-laws had made me six cotton quilts, she asked for eight, and she always had to live better than me.
My husband didn't read much, so he learned carpentry from his master very early. At the beginning, I was helping the master, and the money I earned was barely enough for us to live. Later, he studied for a few years and became a master carpenter in his own right.
My husband works very hard and is willing to endure hardships. In the hot summer, in the 35-degree heat, sweat soaked his back, he wiped the sweat casually, and then continued to pull the saw. In the cold winter, the river froze and his hands were covered with chilblains, but he did not rest and continued to work.
He used to say that he had to work hard to earn money so that my two children and I could live a good life, and that we couldn't work in the fields like he did.
Soon after we got married, we welcomed the birth of our son, the family was happy, and the in-laws were also very happy, and this generation finally had an eldest grandson.
My second brother's wife got married a year after us. She got pregnant soon after she got married, and she always talked to me that her belly was pointy, and it must be her son. However, unexpectedly, she gave birth to a daughter, and our family was very happy to have our eldest granddaughter. But she was not happy, we congratulated her, and she actually said that it was a fake. Since then, I haven't paid much attention to her and felt that there was something wrong with her thinking.
Later, I gave birth to another daughter, and I felt very satisfied with such a son and a daughter. When she had a second child, she gave birth to another daughter, and she was even more angry. It took five years for her to give birth to a young son, and since then, she has become swaggering and smug in front of us, and I can't help but laugh and cry.
My husband said that as long as I take good care of my two children and educate them well, I will be a hero to the whole family and make the greatest contribution to the family. He works hard outside to earn money, and I consolidate the rear at home, and the family's life will get better and better.
Usually, my husband is always very supportive of what clothes I want to buy, and when the colors are tangled, he recommends buying both.
On my 30th birthday, my husband gave me a gold necklace and said that I had worked hard for my family over the years.
My sister-in-law happened to see me wearing a gold necklace, and when I got home, I got into an argument with my second brother and asked him to buy her a thicker necklace for her. However, the second brother has average skills, mainly relying on farming to support the family, supporting a family of five, including three school-going children, and the living expenses are quite large, and the economy is tight.
The second brother explained the family's financial situation and said that he could not afford to buy a gold necklace. The younger brother and daughter-in-law refused to give up and insisted on buying it, but the second brother had to reproach her and accuse her of being a loser. According to rumors, the second brother actually slapped his brother-in-law a few times, which may be true, because the brother-in-law barely went out for the next week, and when she appeared again, her face seemed to be slightly swollen.
After that, my brother-in-law stopped the argument with me and began to remain silent. The second brother has struggled to support the family's expenses, especially the children's living expenses. In order to earn more money, my brother-in-law decided to go out to work and joined a nearby garment factory to work as a piecework. In order to create a better future for her children, she often works overtime, goes home to cook dinner for her children, and then rides back to work in the factory.
Her brother-in-law understood that it was not easy to earn money, so she began to live a frugal life, not buying new clothes and jewelry, and trying to save money. On the contrary, my family has always adhered to the concept of enjoying the moment, not wronging themselves, and living happily and contently despite limited money.
Two years ago, we bought a house for our son, paid a down payment of 400,000 yuan, and spent 200,000 yuan to handle his wedding. This has almost exhausted the family funds we have accumulated over the years, and only 100,000 savings remain. However, I have no regrets about it. Helping his son buy a house has relieved his financial pressure, and we are happy to spend on his son's marriage to satisfy him and his daughter-in-law.
Despite the reduction in savings, my husband said that he could work for another 10 years, so I should not worry too much. We believe that no matter how hard we work, we can make money.
The three children of my brother-in-law's family all performed very well, achieved excellent results in their studies, and were successfully admitted to university. Especially the youngest son, his grades were very good and he was successfully admitted to a major university. However, the tuition fees and living expenses of the three children almost crushed the younger brother and daughter-in-law.
In order to pay for the children, the younger brother and daughter-in-law can only work overtime and work harder to live a more frugal life. They usually only eat simple steamed buns and pickles, and never enjoy the taste of meat. The younger brother and daughter-in-law were even more reluctant to buy new clothes, and the clothes that they had worn for three years still remained unchanged. They leave every penny they save for their children.
Some time ago, I went to the city to take care of my pregnant daughter-in-law. However, what shocked me was that my husband told me that my brother-in-law had died suddenly. I desperately want to know what's going on.
My husband told me that my brother-in-law had been suffering from abdominal pain, but she chose to ignore it and continued to work. She even just took some painkillers and continued to work. Her eldest daughter was already working and willing to ease the burden on the family, but her brother-in-law rejected her daughter's proposal in order to save money for her son to buy a house and get married.
In order to save money, my brother-in-law did not go to the hospital for a check-up. Until one day, she suddenly fainted and was rushed to the hospital, where the test results showed that she had terminal cancer. Her brother-in-law was devastated, and she was worried about what would happen to her children when she died.
After chemotherapy and medication**, my brother-in-law's condition was barely maintained. After more than half a year, her body could no longer bear it. Last week, her condition suddenly deteriorated, and her brother-in-law was helped by her second brother to go to the hospital, but her condition deteriorated rapidly and eventually died.
In order to save money, the second brother did not find a vehicle to send his brother-in-law's body home. In the early morning, he quietly put his brother-in-law's body on a tricycle, covered it with a quilt, tied his legs with a rope, and dragged it home.
When we were sorting through my brother-in-law's clothes, we found two very new padded jackets. The eldest girl explained that she bought it for her brother and daughter-in-law, but her mother was afraid of getting dirty and decided to wait until the Chinese New Year to wear it. In addition, we also found a gold necklace, and the eldest girl cried, saying that it was bought by her brother and daughter-in-law with her first month's salary after working. Her mother cried when she saw the gold necklace, saying that it was a wish that had been fulfilled for more than 20 years. However, she was reluctant to wear a gold necklace, worried about being lost while working, and just opened the box every day to look at it.
The more the girl talked, we couldn't help but shed tears.
I didn't expect my brother-in-law to have such a hard time for so many years. At first, she probably just wanted to compete with me because of the young girl's competitive nature. However, as time passed, the grinding of life made her gradually let go of too much edge and had to bow her head and obey the arrangement of life. She worked hard for the sake of her children and her family.
The doctor explained that part of the sister-in-law's illness was due to chronic malnutrition, and that her diet lacked meat, vegetables and eggs, and was mainly based on pickles. On the other hand, because of the delay of the best time, the disease will be so serious and develop so rapidly.
In the end, in order to save money, the second brother, under the influence of the policy, did not hold a grand funeral. He just called back his three children, invited his mother's family, relatives and neighbors to attend, and then hurriedly handled the funeral of his brother and daughter-in-law.
After everything was done, soon the second brother and the neighbors got together to chat, and even talked about him being 53 years old and in the prime of life, and he could find another little daughter-in-law, and a group of people spent it laughing.
Looking back on my brother-in-law's life, I can't help but sigh, how should a person live in this life?She did not hesitate to endure hardships for the sake of her family, and finally died of exhaustion and illness, giving everything for the whole family, even her life. What did all this get in exchange for?
She had never enjoyed happiness in her life, and on the last journey, she did not even have a decent goodbye. She didn't wear her new clothes, she didn't wear a gold necklace, and she didn't have a day to live happily ever after. She was thinking about earning money to support her family, but soon after her death, her husband wanted to marry again.
What a sad and lamentable!
For women, it is important to be kind to yourself. Within the family's affordability, enjoy the food at the right time and don't grieve yourself. Don't make yourself sick because of excessive frugality, and the gains outweigh the losses!