Children have poor self-control and lack of concentration, and the training method is very simple, and it will not take long to see the difference.
Chatting with my girlfriend today, my girlfriend said depressedly that I was interviewed by the teacher alone today, and it turned out that my best friend's eldest baby Ding Ding was always inattentive in kindergarten and always distracted in class. Even when eating, you have to play while eating. The teacher said that the child's self-control is too poor, and if he does not correct it, it will be very troublesome after school in the future.
Playing while eating, playing with mobile phones, watching TV, eating snacks without moderation, looking around in class, these conditions of children are all manifestations of poor self-control. In the face of the baby who has no self-control, the mother said heartbreakingly, why are the children of other people's families who have good self-control, and their own children only know what to do every day in their own roars?
Is poor self-control really innate?What causes poor self-control in children?
One,The influence of the surrounding environment
Children especially like to watch something vivid and more graphic, such as cartoons. But when children enter the campus, they are basically faced with boring words every day, and naturally they can't arouse any interest. At this time, the child's attention is not able to concentrate, and he always likes to do something irrelevant to him, which is what we call the child's poor self-control.
II. II. IIParents don't lead by example
Parents always ask their children to stop watching TV or playing with their mobile phones when their children are about to learn Xi or should do something, but parents themselves always play with their mobile phones and watch TV in front of their children. This kind of behavior will make the child feel very unbalanced, and the child will think: why can't mom and dad do it themselves?
Although parents may feel that they are tired after a long day, playing with their phones and watching TV are relaxing, but children may not think so.
It is best for parents to control themselves in front of their children, especially parents who love to play games, to set a good example for their children, which is also a quality required to educate children.
Psychologist Dr. Kelly McGonigal also wrote in his book "Self-Control" that self-control can be improved through training. So, how should parents beTrain your child's self-controlWhat about it?
1. There are rules in life, so that children can have clear boundaries
When educating children, don't use too many rules to restrain children's exploration behavior, but some necessary rules should still be there, such as requirements for snacks, electronic products, work and rest time, etc. When establishing rules, you must discuss and discuss with your child, and he will be more willing to implement the rules that he says by himself.
Once the rules are set, parents must adhere to the principles, and the tone and emotions can be very gentle, but the attitude and position must be firm. With proper discipline, children will gradually change from self-discipline to self-discipline, knowing when and how long they should do something, and self-control will be developed.
When children engage in focused and self-controlled behaviors, parents can give encouragement and praise, which can more effectively explore children's potential and reinforce children's good behaviors.
2. Respect the child and allow appropriate relaxation
Studies have shown that there is a limit to human self-control, and the brain will find a balance between drudgery and finding simple rewards, so if people are asked to do two things in a row, each of which requires a lot of self-control, then the second thing tends to be done worse.
Therefore, instead of letting the child exhaust his interest in learning Xi in the sea of questions, you might as well allow the child to arrange his own time, as long as he does what he should do well, he can allow the child to relax appropriately, so that the child can enjoy the sweetness of high self-control and high efficiency.
3. Timely reminders to make children responsible for themselves
Regarding self-control, if ** always feels that the child is still young and can be forgiven for anything, then it is difficult for the child to form a Xi of self-discipline.
If you want your child to understand that the stakes are not realistic, parents may wish to start by giving them a gentle and firm reminder to learn to be responsible for their own actions.
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