Why fall in love?
Because falling in love is to let us understand this person, observe this person, and see if this person is suitable for long-term and stable cooperation with us.
Therefore, the most important thing in love is observation.
We have to observe each other's every move to understand that the other person is different from us, and know that this person has many shortcomings, even if you like him, you must know that he has very shortcomings.
Can you accept these shortcomings for a long time?
You have to understand that the other person must have something that makes you unhappy, because he is a person, so he has shortcomings, and you have to learn to understand and compromise.
We like someone, we can't just like each other's merits, who doesn't like them?
We men are looking for wives, young, beautiful, and with a good figure, who doesn't like it?
The most important thing is that after we accept these advantages, can we accept his shortcomings?
What we get, we have to give. If you don't give, you won't get.
It's important to remember that there's no such thing as a free lunch.
In the process of finding a partner, we have to learn to accomplish our core goals, which means that the other goals are similar, or even unsuccessful.
This sentence is very important, people who don't know how to grasp the big and let go of the small, and don't know how to compromise are difficult to be happy.
For example, I like beautiful women, ok, then you can't ask too much of other aspects of beauty, you can't ask beautiful women to be gentle like water to you, you can't ask beautiful women to have a good character, you can't ask beautiful women not to spend money, don't like money, don't worship money. Because beauty comes at a price. In order to become beautiful, she spent a lot of money before she became a beauty. She needs makeup, she needs to buy clothes, she needs to take care of her body, and she spends a lot of money to have beauty. You don't want to spend money, you just want to enjoy the beauty of beautiful women, it's impossible.
Let's talk about the character of beautiful women, it's generally not very good, I also talked about it in the audio lesson, try not to marry a beautiful woman when marrying a wife, and you can also listen to it if you are interested.
I say these words to make everyone understand that we need to grasp the core goal, and if the core goal is completed, it means that other secondary goals can be completed or not completed.
Because people can only do one thing, ask for one thing, do more things, ask for more, we can't get anything.
Lao Tzu said, less is gained, more is confused.
You require girls to be beautiful, have a good personality, be educated, and have quality, then a beauty like you is too rare, and such a beauty is not something that we ordinary people can get. This is what a prince can match.
So, you choose your core goals, you know your core goals, you can know what you want.
When you know what you want and you accomplish this goal, then you will be happy and happy.
It's the same with girls looking for partners, you can't be rich and handsome. You can only pick one. Other places are pretty much fine, don't be too demanding. If you want a man to be rich, then you can't expect him to be tall and handsome. If you like handsome guys, then you shouldn't expect him to be rich too much.
Why is it so painful for many people to find a partner?
Because there are too many demands, too many desires, and if you can't get it and can't finish it, people will suffer.
Love needs to be compromised, marriage also needs to be compromised, and a beautiful life is compromised.
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