Title: A man marries a foreign daughter-in-law, and the woman does not kneel during the make-up wedding, causing controversy: It's not okay to kneel?
As the saying goes, do as the locals do. In fact, in recent years, as the phenomenon of going abroad has become more and more common, this sentence has been more and more emphasized, and the purpose is to hope that everyone can respect other people's culture and customs and avoid causing trouble for themselves, which is also a kind of protection for their own personal safety.
As the saying goes, everyone is for me, I am for everyone, since we emphasize the local customs, then, foreigners come to China, should they also follow the local customs?Obviously, it is necessary, this is fairness, this is the respect for us.
If you are strict with yourself and lenient with others, in Sister Wen's opinion, it is "licking the dog".
Recently, a man in Henan held a wedding at home, although the wedding ceremony was very simple, but after all, it was also a wedding, and many people came to the scene. At the time of the wedding, the man knelt and kowtowed to the place to worship according to the rules, but the woman was a foreign daughter-in-law, but she did not kneel and kowtow with her husband, especially when the woman was still with a child, just nodding.
This phenomenon is somewhat abnormal, it stands to reason that although it is a foreigner, since it is married to the country, it should be followed by the local customs, which is the respect for folk culture, and it is also something that must be adapted to living in the country in the future.
What's more, in such an important occasion, if you can't do this, it will inevitably make people gossip and embarrass your in-laws.
Many netizens believe that this is indeed something that should not be.
After all, as the saying goes, it is natural to kneel to the sky and kneel to your parents. Nowadays, some people regard this as feudal dross and think that it is a manifestation of inferior roots. But then again, your parents gave birth to you and raised you, pulled you up, and kneeled down to shame your parents?If you feel ashamed to even kneel to your parents, then why don't you feel ashamed to eat your parents' clothes and let your parents support you?You can grow up drinking the northwest wind and be self-reliant!
For this kind of thing, this netizen said it very well:
Personally, I think that it is not a shame to kneel down to her in-laws at a woman's wedding, there is really no need to listen to what some resentful women on the Internet say can not kneel, get married and kneel to your in-laws, and not kneel relatives, what are you worried about, you don't kneel, your husband will always have a thorn in his heart, don't say anything that only kneels to his biological parents, women's kneeling parents-in-law, men's kneeling father-in-law, righteousness, this is a human ethics, and those who feel ashamed are uneducated.
And for this matter, it is actually not what everyone thinks.
The child next to the bride is actually born to the groom and the bride, but a few years ago, because of the epidemic, the two have been abroad and have not been able to come back or have a wedding. Now that I have come back, I decided to hold a make-up wedding, which is also a sign of respect for the woman.
Moreover, when the wedding was held, the bride was pregnant again, and it was inconvenient to kneel, so she did not follow her husband to kneel. It's not that the bride doesn't kneel, it's that it's inconvenient.
Therefore, let's not say that the bride is ignorant and does not respect customs or anything, but just that she has a personal reason, which cannot be forced.
Of course, it is really difficult to understand what we say about those who can kneel, should kneel, but do not kneel.
If the bride is embarrassed to kneel to her in-laws, then is it equally shameful for the groom to kneel to his father-in-law and mother-in-law?If you all think like this, then what kind of nurturing grace do you talk about, and what kind of family relationship do you talk about?
Why do some people feel that they are ashamed to kneel to their in-laws, but they think that it is right for a man to kneel to his parents-in-law?This kind of double standard is really unacceptable.