Recently, a 29-year-old Anhui woman, after 50 failed blind dates, was given a "death gaze" by her father, who was waiting at the door waiting for good news with a grudge on her face. The woman herself didn't dare to get out of the car, and she didn't know if her father would let her into the house.
The life of the parents, the words of the matchmaker" has gradually evolved into "their own life, the words of the parents + the matchmaker".
In the era of free marriage, most of the success or failure of blind dates is in your own hands, but how to avoid the failure of 50 or even more than 10 blind dates?This article will support a few tricks to improve the success rate of blind dates.
Trick 1: Reduce expectations, don't expect that the blind date will be easy to succeed The general blind date success rate is not higher than 10%, if you don't come up with at least 10 people to prepare for the blind date, you just wait for 20 blind dates.
Lower your expectations, when you go on a blind date under pressure from all sides, you will subconsciously hypnotize yourself "this time must succeed", the truth is often the opposite, the more you care about the result, the easier it is to magnify some of the shortcomings that you don't care about.
Lower your stature and reflect on it, when you fall to the point of going on a blind date, it means that you are not so good, and you have changed from "I do" to "do you want to".
You can try to cut your requirements in half, then give a 20% discount, and then go on a blind date according to this standard.
Trick 2: Screening in advance, don't rush ducks to the shelves and be forced to open First of all, the first person to be screened out is the person who is not willing to come on a blind date, these people are forced to come by their parents, if you are also this kind of person, you screen yourself out first.
The second is to screen the basic appearance, height, and figure, if even these are unknowns, the more you chat online, the greater the probability of seeing the light die.
The third thing to screen is academic qualifications, family background, soft and hard power, these are essential, the most important thing is to be the family, don't wait until you talk about marriage to find that the gap is too big and cause strong opposition from your family.
Trick 3: When you finish A and then B, you have to forget A Socrates's story of picking up ears of wheat Needless to say, the blind date object is the ears of wheat. If you want to compare with A when you are facing B, and then you want to compare with BDCA that has been arranged in order when facing E, then you will always go on a blind date with colored glasses, preconceived ideas will overwhelm the balance of blind dates, and comparing with each other will make it difficult for you to choose, and you will be very picky about the chosen ears of wheat. Therefore, when facing the blind date B, treat it as if you are no longer possible with A, judge B with a new mentality to build a good feeling, and eventually you will find that you are tall among tall people, not tall among short people.
Trick 4: Buddha blind date, don't Taoist blind date. With the mentality of the Buddha trifecta "it's okay, yes, it's okay" to adjust the dialogue and feelings during the blind date, don't treat the peacock on the opposite side with the mentality of the Taoist trifecta "it's about your, it's about my, get out". The first time we met, there was no quarrel with the world. The second time we met, it was calm. The third time we met, it was uneventful. Properly restrain your subjective love and hate, time is the most effective criterion to test whether you are in tune with each other, feelings are accumulated little by little, and temper is also a little leaked!Finally, I wish everyone who is on a blind date can meet the other half of the third time, but nothing more than three.