When I read Zhou Bingyi's affectionate "kiss" in a foreign country in "The World", I was very confused, because in his married life, he was so perfect that it can be said that he was the most ideal husband.
However, this husband, who was so flawless, had an unusual romantic encounter in his life, and it was not out of emotion or etiquette that he kissed another young and beautiful woman affectionately in a foreign country".
His heart began to waver.
Cai Xiaoguang has four lovers in his life, but deep down in his heart, what he really loves is Zhou Rong. Although his feelings for Zhou Rong may seem a little absurd, there are also sincere emotions in it.
Zhou Bingyi has a deep affection for Hao Dongmei, and he has endured a lot in this marriage for Hao Dongmei, and he has given up a lot. Even if Hao Dongmei's parents were later rehabilitated, he often gained much more than he lost.
After the death of his father, Zhou's father, Zhou Bingyi said to his younger brother Bingkun: "Among our three children, your nurturing grace to your parents is the most worthy. Today, I've become an inverted son-in-law, but that's not what I expected.
When Zhou Bingyi said this, his heart was filled with deep shame and sadness. Despite the seemingly brilliant nature of his life, he actually spent a long time under the protection of others.
He has always been able to endure this dissatisfaction well, and his disguise is quite good. Never in his life did he let his wife feel his displeasure. He really gave a lot for his wife, but also a lot.
Express emotions to someone.
Zhou Bingyi and Hao Dongmei are classmates, and the two have known each other since childhood. Zhou Bingyi is a very popular and outstanding student in the school, not only excellent academically, but also very handsome. Such male students usually attract the attention of many girls, and Hao Dongmei has always had a crush on Zhou Bingyi.
Hao Dongmei and Zhou Bingyi were both keen to read those world literary classics that were once banned, and during that time, they often chose to share ** literary topics in the Zhou family.
At that particular moment, Zhou Bingyi, Hao Dongmei, Zhou Rong, Cai Xiaoguang and Zhou Bingkun, who was secretly listening in the corner, were immersed in all kinds of literary creations in the small room of the Zhou family, delved into the fate of the characters, and deeply admired those outstanding love and courage.
Those days were the most memorable moments in their lives, but Zhou Bingyi didn't realize Hao Dongmei's love for him at that time. At that time, Zhou Bingyi devoted himself wholeheartedly to his studies.
Later, Hao Dongmei couldn't suppress her secret love, so she took the initiative to express her feelings to Zhou Bingyi in her freshman year of high school, but Zhou Bingyi thought that this friendship was more precious than the friendship between male and female classmates. He said that he has no requirements for love, as long as he can make the other party feel happy, it is the greatest happiness. He felt that in the relationship between the daughter of a deputy governor and the son of a construction worker, love seemed too lavish, while true friendship was more pragmatic.
Therefore, during that period, Zhou Bingyi did not have a deep affection for Hao Dongmei. He firmly believed that due to social and family differences, there could be no true love between them. He regarded Hao Dongmei's confession as a friendship that was deeper than that of ordinary classmates.
Has the quality of kindness.
However, what factors contributed to the love affair between Zhou Bingyi and Hao Dongmei?
Zhou Bingyi was very calm in the face of Hao Dongmei's confession, because he thought about a lot of things, but more importantly, he didn't have any emotions for Hao Dongmei.
At that stage, he felt that although he came from a family of construction workers, he was already confident about his future in high school. He firmly believes that he should be the kind of man who is different, and no matter how the times change, he must not only show outstanding talent among his peers, but also always maintain the quality of kindness.
So, he began to work hard to find a way and method to make himself a good man. He firmly believes that such a man will definitely be loved by outstanding women, and in Hao Dongmei's time, he can't even judge whether she is outstanding or not.
Later, he took Hao Dongmei to his home - a light word film. Since then, Zhou Bingyi realized that Hao Dongmei was an extremely kind woman, and it was also that time that he strengthened his determination to protect Hao Dongmei.
At that time, Hao Dongmei was only the daughter of the provincial governor, and she was taken care of by ** servants when she was young and lived in a small bungalow.
It was a cold winter, and she was doing handicrafts in the snow with her father, her mother helping and her father sitting there, smoking a cigarette. After her first trip to the light word piece, she shed tears on the way home and expressed her emotions to Zhou Bingyi:
Zhou Bingyi, from this day on, I will be extremely uneasy because our family of three lives in that small western-style building located in a separate compound. In that small bungalow, my chef and aunt each had their own room, which was really speechless. We are really sorry for you, let me first apologize for bowing deeply to you for my father!”
Zhou Bingyi was deeply moved by Hao Dongmei's words, because since they were children, no one felt sorry for them because of the dilapidated light characters, and they never felt that anyone should care about them in particular.
Hao Dongmei's words made Zhou Bingyi think deeply for the first time, some people really take a certain responsibility for the kind of life of the mountaintop cave people that many people experience.
Zhou Bingyi shared these situations with his sister Zhou Rong, and Zhou Rong made the following remarks:
Brother, please love her deeply!Please love her with all your heart and take up your duty to protect her. I really hope that one day she will be my sister-in-law, and I feel like the two of you are a perfect pair.
She possessed the deep compassion of Lady Stowe, which was most valuable to women, and secondarily to her mind.
I hold the opposite view with her, and that doesn't mean I'm not a good person. People in our family are very kind, and following my parents, I even began to worry about whether my younger brother would behave stupidly in the future because he was too kind.
Dongmei is a woman who has both a good heart and does not do stupid acts. I'm not saying she lacks thinking, but she does have her own thinking, it's just that when it comes to comparing herself to others, she may be slightly inferior to me.
As for you, my dear brother, you have the 'Mirière complex' in your heart. Did you know?If you had been born in Europe in the eighteenth or ninth century, I guess we would have had a bishop in the future. Imagine the harmony that would have been if the lay Bishop Mirière and Madame Stowe had become husband and wife!”
These remarks of Zhou Rong promoted the development of the relationship between Zhou Bingyi and Hao Dongmei to a certain extent.
During that period, Dongmei's parents had already been suppressed, but Dongmei often appeared in the Zhou family later, and her relationship with Zhou Rong was also quite harmonious. Therefore, Zhou Bingyi and Hao Dongmei gradually came together and began their relationship.
Her gentleness is like flowing water.
Subsequently, Hao Dongmei and Zhou Bingyi often gathered at Zhou's house to share ** literary topics. They chose to lie on the kang in the room, under the cover of the curtain, and speak freely in the field of literature.
Regarding Zhou Bingyi's relationship with Hao Dongmei, Zhou Rong once told Zhou Bingyi that she felt that his relationship with Hao Dongmei was a little regretful.
Zhou Bingyi originally thought that what Zhou Rong described was the difference between the disciples, but he believes that this difference has now disappeared, and it can even be said that it has been reversed.
However, Zhou Rong expressed this opinion: "Am I really that cheesy?I'm talking about passion!True love needs to be nourished by passion, which should persist between lovers, and it is only in old age that it gradually transforms into tenderness.
So far, I have only seen the tender side of your relationship, but I have not yet realized that the passion has been ignited.
Perhaps, between you and her, the tenderness of love alone is enough. In that world, you can never predict what will happen to you. Perhaps, it is only after you enter middle age that you begin to pursue each other's passions, but who knows for sure?She's a very thoughtful woman. Women's way of thinking is not the same as that of witches, nor does it mean that they necessarily have the superpower to predict the future. ”
Zhou Rong did describe the incident. In Zhou Bingyi's life, he didn't have much enthusiasm for Hao Dongmei, but was full of tenderness. The way he gets along with Hao Dongmei runs through their lives. When Zhou Bingyi mentioned the harmonious relationship between them in his later years, I thought that their relationship was more like "respecting each other".
If Zhou Rong first saw them together, it may be because they were still young and had more worldly dogmas, so they suppressed their passions. However, later Zhou Bingyi joined the Corps, while Hao Dongmei went to the countryside in a village near Zhou Bingyi's Corps, and they were together from their teens to their twenties.
Even in his twenties, when he was full of energy and enthusiasm, Zhou Bingyi's attitude towards Hao Dongmei had never been unusual, and their relationship was so simple that it didn't look like a romantic relationship.
For so many years, Zhou Bingyi has never tried to put his hand into her arms, nor has he ever unbuttoned one of her clothes.
In a TV series, Zhou Bingyi and Hao Dongmei walked out of a scene in the woods. Zhou Bingyi hurriedly buttoned Hao Dongmei's clothes, but he didn't notice that the buttons were wrong. Eventually, a passerby secretly told Hao Dongmei that his clothes were buttoned incorrectly. At that moment, thoughts flew between them, and Hao Dongmei's face showed a shy expression, and they looked like a pair of lovers.
However, in the original work, this situation never appeared before they got married, and they didn't even experience a real kiss.
In the original, the intimacy between them is depicted like this:
They also kiss occasionally, but it's just a simple lip-to-lip contact. Somehow, at that time, her lips never opened, and he often only tasted it, and the so-called deep kiss was unprecedented between them. ”
Throughout their lives, they have been so gentle and calm in their way of getting along. If Zhou Bingyi is really such a person, then that's it. Because he gave up a bright future for Hao Dongmei, and also gave up his house for Hao Dongmei, he indirectly became the son-in-law of the inverted door. What's more, for Hao Dongmei, he also endured the fate of having no son in his life.
From his behavior, we can clearly feel his deep affection for Hao Dongmei, but with the appearance of a woman, my impression of Zhou Bingyi's affection for Hao Dongmei has changed, and that woman is Olia.
After years of married life, Zhou Bingyi, a usually plain person, kissed a woman affectionately.
This woman is not his spouse Hao Dongmei, but a romantic encounter he has experienced in a foreign country.
The woman's name is Olya, and she met Zhou Bingyi during a business trip to find a way to save the military factory. During that time, Zhou Bingyi constantly searched for solutions at various drinking banquets, but unfortunately, he developed a stomach ulcer after accidentally getting drunk, which led to him being hospitalized alone in a foreign country**.
Olya is not only a young and beautiful **, but also has a gentle and considerate character. Although she was once divorced, she is still single, which is a big attraction for many men. For Zhou Bingyi, this is also the same situation. Together, the two have worked together in many fields such as literature, life, philosophy, and politics, and they talk about everything. Later, Zhou Bingyi learned that Olya's maternal grandfather was a retired veteran Russian officer.
When Zhou Bingyi is in trouble, Olya asks her grandfather for help. Because Olya's grandfather intervened and helped Zhou Bing** solve the problem, Zhou Bingyi was full of gratitude to Oria, which was also the reason for his affectionate kiss in a foreign country."
In fact, the real focus is not on the kiss, but on the kiss abroad, which is also a diplomatic etiquette. The real focus was on that kiss known as the "Deep Kiss". Zhou Bingyi did not just have a simple romantic encounter with Zhou Bingyi, he had sincere feelings for that deep kiss, but this emotion and impulse were not reflected in Hao Dongmei, on the contrary, it was a romantic encounter that happened abroad.
Zhou Bingyi is a down-to-earth man, he will never give up Hao Dongmei because of Olya, nor will he give up everything because of his domestic reputation, family and social status.
Despite this, his affectionate kiss with Olya in a foreign country was witnessed by everyone and reported in the newspaper. In the TV series, the unexpected encounter between Zhou Bingyi and Hao Dongmei is unknown, and it was Hao Dongmei's mother who suppressed the incident and issued a warning to Zhou Bingyi. In fact, in the original book, Hao Dongmei was also the first person to learn about it, and she asked about it directly in front of her husband.
However, Zhou Bingyi's reply made her feel extremely heartbroken.
Can you help me think about it, if I can't get something done, can I still go back to the factory?If I wanted to accomplish that, could I refuse her enthusiastic help?I know what's going on in your heart, you want me to say that she's hot on me for shaving, and I don't really feel emotionally at all, I'm just using her, right?
But that's not the truth, the truth is that I'm like a person with nowhere to go, and her help makes the whole thing dangerous. So, my dear, I must confess that I have been moved by true feelings because of gratitude. If I don't admit this, but instead say that the person who helped me with my work is shaving his head and picking his head hot, you are very happy, but I am also too mean, right?”
Zhou Bingyi's words were full of firmness and confidence, which made it difficult for Hao Dongmei to refute, although she understood it somewhat, but she did feel a deep pain in her heart.
Zhou Bingyi confessed his feelings for Olya and confessed the deep affection between them. Despite this, Zhou Bingyi has always insisted that it is just a farewell etiquette. He drank too much and pretended to have a stomach ache. Hao Dongmei understood his disguise, but also felt helpless. In the end, Hao Dongmei's mother took action against Zhou Bingyi, and the matter passed like this.
Hao Dongmei's mother repeatedly emphasized that she was out of consideration for Zhou Bingyi's career and hoped that Zhou Bingyi would accept it willingly. However, Zhou Bingyi only had one romantic encounter with Olya in his life, and he decided not to see her again in the future.
Hao Dongmei is a down-to-earth woman, she can't always hold on to this matter, and she even feels that she is a little derelict in her responsibility, because Olya did provide great help to Zhou Bingyi, and Zhou Bingyi also contributed to the revival of the military factory this time.
At this moment, I feel some sympathy for Hao Dongmei. Her husband did not show such enthusiasm for her in his life, but abroad he had an affectionate kiss with a woman whom he had known for a few days, and he confessed his true feelings for her.
In Zhou Bingyi's life, he has never had such sincere feelings for Hao Dongmei, and the relationship between them has always maintained a state of "tenderness like water". There are many different faces of love in this world, but in my opinion, Zhou Bingyi and Hao Dongmei's lives lack that kind of passion, and something seems to be missing between them.
Zhou Bingyi's affectionate kiss in a foreign country made me realize that Zhou Bingyi was not lacking in passion, but he was not Hao Dongmei.
I recall this saying: It's not that you don't feel warm, it's that the person who gives you warmth is not you.
In the past, I always thought that Zhou Bingyi loved Hao Dongmei deeply because he was an impeccable and good husband. But as time went on, I began to think that he could be called a good husband. However, the woman he may love most is not Hao Dongmei, and Hao Dongmei is just his wife and life partner. However, she was not the woman he loved the most in his heart, nor was she the woman who could make him kiss passionately.