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Is it a manifestation of unsociability in the circle of friends for three days?
Netizens. 
Question from a netizen: When I was applying, the interviewer asked me a question that caught me off guard:
Why is your circle of friends only visible for three days?”
Since then, I've always kept thinking about it, is it a problem for the circle of friends to be visible for three days?Does this mean that a person does not fit in?
Psychologist of this issue.
Moe Owner: National Psychological Counselor.
Psychological counselor, please answer:
Meng Lord: Since the official launch of the circle of friends in 2012, everyone's circle of friends has gradually been filled with all kinds of "familiar strangers", including customers, peers and other pan-working relationships, as well as merchants, intermediaries and other service personnel, as well as game netizens and other ......people who have never met
The circle of friends is no longer a simple circle of friends, but a huge and complex social circle, what content we post in the circle of friends, who to see, is no longer a simple thing, but a complex social behavior.
The current visible range of the circle of friends is divided into: all, half a year, one month, three days, you can also choose to block them all, or not send them at all. There are three main reasons why the circle of friends does not want to be seen:
1. Self-protection: Believing that showing oneself may bring potential risks such as exposing privacy and leaking information.
2. Social anxiety: I am worried that the circle of friends I post will be evaluated or ridiculed by others, and even bring some unnecessary trouble.
3. Hide the past: If you don't want new acquaintances to know about your past, you may feel that your past self is not good enough, or you may simply not want to be known too much.
And there are three main reasons for being willing to share the circle of friends:
1. Self-presentation: I want to show my life, hobbies, work results, etc.
2. Like to share: willing to share your feelings and experiences with others.
3. Social needs: want to connect and interact with others in the circle of friends.
In fact, most people are in the middle ground and will not choose to be fully visible, nor will they be completely blocked. For example, if you see it for three days, you don't want to show too much, but you still have a little desire to share.
Of course, in the eyes of a thousand people, there are a thousand reasons to choose to be visible for three days.
For example, some people have two mobile phones, one is cold, and the other is swiping, or they don't say a word in the circle of friends, but they have broken thoughts on other social platforms.
Since the launch of the "three-day visibility" function in 2017, 200 million people have chosen to be visible for three days by 2022. To judge whether a person is gregarious or not is too underestimating the complexity of human psychology.
So, how do we post a circle of friends better?
Now there are always two opposite suggestions, one is that as members of society, we should carefully create a character in the circle of friends, and the other is that we don't care about other people's eyes and show our true selves.
In fact, the composition of the circle of friends is so complex that it cannot be simply applied in one way.
Anthropologist Robin Dunbar proposed the "Rule of 150" – the number of people whose human intelligence allows humans to have a stable social relationship is about 150. But now the number of people in the circle of friends has far exceeded that number.
Just as we couldn't be friends with everyone we knew before, we can't build stable social relationships with everyone in our circle of friends. So you might as well divide it into three circles according to different psychological distances:
The first circle is where you can show your true self, such as a circle of confidants and friends.
The second circle needs to create a persona here, such as a pan-work circle with colleagues, customers, and peers.
The third circle is to be a vague passer-by, such as a circle of service personnel such as merchants and intermediaries.
How complicated is real social networking, how complicated is the circle of friends, let's manage our own social networks with our hearts!
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