Introduction: The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in life is often a delicate and complex science, and everyone writes their own chapter in this relationship network. Zhiling's married life was supposed to be as happy as a fairy tale, but she was deeply troubled by some seemingly minor problems. The subtle interaction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law tugs at the strings of family harmony, and also reveals the direction we need to work hard in communication and understanding.
Zhiling's married life was not as happy as she expected. Although her husband is the only child in the family and is pampered by her in-laws, this pampering has become a heavy pressure, which makes Zhiling feel miserable. Even with Zhiling, their wedding house was bought in the same community as her mother-in-law, so Zhiling's friends are very envious of her, and she has a mother-in-law who can take care of them at any time. But this kind of life is miserable for Zhiling.
My mother-in-law lives in the building next door, but she knocks on the door of Zhiling's house almost every morning. It's a beautiful name to make breakfast for them, but for Zhiling, who likes to sleep lazy, this breakfast is often a nightmare for getting up early. Whenever the mother-in-law walked into the kitchen of Zhiling's house, the thumping sound was like a harsh symphony, the peace of the morning was instantly broken, the mother-in-law was always Xi to tell something loudly, the whole house was filled with her voice, but Zhiling was tossing and turning on the bed, unable to enjoy a moment of tranquility.
When the couple leaves the house in a hurry to go to work, the mother-in-law will start to help clean up at home. Although this is a kind effort, my mother-in-law always has a different way of tidying up, so that every time Zhiling and her husband come home, they always find that their things are "missing".
Whenever the couple came home, they often found that the items that were neatly placed on the table were gone, and they were carefully packed up by the mother-in-law to an unknown place. Zhiling and her husband have to work hard every day to find the remote control, keys, and even the books they just bought. Sometimes they can't find it, and they have to call my mother-in-law in the middle of the night: Mom, did you put my cosmetics in **?This kind of ** makes Zhiling always feel like a child who needs to be taken care of by her mother-in-law, rather than an independent adult.
The mother-in-law always responded with an innocent face: "Oops, I misplaced it when I was tidying up, right?".Don't be angry, you see if it's in the cabinet in the study. This made Zhiling feel both helpless and dissatisfied.
Usually resting at home on weekends, Zhiling often likes to order takeout, however, whenever the takeout is delivered to the door, her mother-in-law always can't help but complain, thinking that the food outside is not clean, and it is not as healthy as burning it at home. This.
And whenever her mother-in-law watched Zhiling not doing housework or cooking at home, she couldn't help but complain, "Why can't a girl do any housework when she gets married?"Then he took the initiative to cook for them. Every time my mother-in-law brings out a meal, it is always difficult to swallow. Therefore, whenever she finished eating her mother-in-law's cooking, Zhiling always silently took out her mobile phone and secretly sent a WeChat message to her husband: "Next time, let's order takeout." ”
However, her mother-in-law doesn't seem to be aware of her cooking skills, and she expects Zhiling to praise her skills every time. Although Zhiling felt a little embarrassed, in order to protect her mother-in-law's face, she always tried to smile and praise a few words. And the mother-in-law said proudly: "Isn't it much better than the food outside?"This kind of scene made Zhiling really cry and laugh, and could only euphemistically say, "Well, it's really delicious."
Later, Zhiling and her husband had a quarrel over some trivial matters. Unexpectedly, the mother-in-law always stood by her son's side without hesitation, supporting her son and blaming her daughter-in-law, revealing her partiality for her son.
This made Zhiling feel quite frustrated, because in the eyes of her mother-in-law, it seemed that her son was always right. After every quarrel, the mother-in-law always taught Zhiling in front of her husband, and her words were full of exhortations such as "You have to be more accommodating to him" and "Women, learn to be tolerant", and the fault of her son is often downplayed by the mother-in-law.
The mother-in-law's meddling and favoritism towards her son made Zhiling feel very insecure. She feels that her status in her mother-in-law's heart will never be as good as that of her son, and no matter what happens, her mother-in-law will stand by her son's side at the first time. This made the relationship between her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law even more strained, and Zhiling began to feel that this state of life was a huge burden.
Despite Zhiling's attempts to resolve the issue through communication, her mother-in-law still frequents their home. In order to maintain her and her husband's private space, in a fit of anger, Zhiling decided to change the door lock at home.
The mother-in-law was puzzled by her daughter-in-law's change of door locks, and she felt that it was a distrust of her. Zhiling angrily said that her mother-in-law's frequent visits made her feel very uncomfortable, and she wanted to have some private space for herself and her husband.
The mother-in-law confidently said that this was her own home and did not understand why the locks were changed. She thinks that as a mother, she can come and visit her son and daughter-in-law at any time. In a fierce quarrel, Zhiling insisted on her position and asked her mother-in-law to come less in the future.
However, the mother-in-law disagreed, believing that this practice was too much. In the process of arguing, Zhiling finally compromised and handed over the keys to the house to her mother-in-law. But this did not change the Xi of frequent visits by my mother-in-law.
Over time, although the mother-in-law still sometimes goes to Zhiling's house, the mother-in-law begins to realize that her actions may affect the lives of her son and daughter-in-law. She gradually reduced the frequency of frequent visits, and the relationship became estranged as a result. Perhaps it was the conflict between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law that made them feel tired and no longer forced each other's understanding.
Conclusion: In this family story, we may be able to discover some small conflicts in life, often hiding deeper communication problems. Everyone has the right to pursue their own happiness, but understanding and tolerance are also the cornerstones of a good relationship. May every family grow together in understanding and untie the knot in communication. Because only in mutual understanding and respect can we find a more harmonious and happy life.