Hi guys!Today I want to share with you two stories about **, these are some of the feelings I have recently gotten in the fragments of reading, don't be in a hurry to criticize, listen to me slowly, there will be unexpected gains.
1: Let's meet the first woman, her name is Shuko Katagiri, from Junichi Watanabe's ** "Lover". Shuko falls in love with a married man, Tono, and is willing to start a relationship with him, even**.
However, when the man offered to give her money every month, she refused, and even more excessively, when he also asked to marry her, she chose to break up.
Some people may say, this Xiuzi is too stupid, now there are so many women who are willing to become men's **, either for money or to be able to be legally with a man one day, since Xiuzi loves this man so much, why did he suddenly turn ** when he was about to kick the door?
But I like Xiuzi's rationality and intelligence, she is only willing to be a lover, and does not want men's money, she knows that true pure and extraordinary love should not be built on money, this is her self-esteem as a woman, of course, after accepting a man's money, she can no longer go to or marry other men.
When it comes to marriage, Shuko has her own opinion. She believes that the relationship between lovers is indeed unstable, but it represents a beautiful existence, forgetting the trivial things of life, being considerate and comforting each other, and a rare meeting allows each other to show their beautiful qualities.
Marriage is a kind of security, with this kind of security, you will lose your sense of urgency, revolve around your husband and children all day long, and when the children grow up, you just breathe a sigh of relief, and you are already an old woman, which is the case in most marriages.
Xiuzi doesn't care about men's money, and she doesn't care what others say about her, she cares about whether she can be free and independent as a modern urban woman and not be swayed by men, and it is because of her independence and sobriety that she can accurately see through men's minds.
For example, Tono was obviously tired of his wife, so he sought a divorce while looking for Shuko to be his lover, but he didn't dare to admit his despicable behavior of cheating, and put the responsibility for the divorce on Xiuzi, always saying to her, "I divorced because of you." ”
See?The man is really a bit cunning and blames two women for his betrayal - the wife is not good enough, the lover is too pestering, and he himself is just a middle-aged helpless victim, if you cooperate with him, then you are purely fooled.
Shuko finally chose to break up, because she saw through the cunning, weakness and hypocrisy in Tono's mind, and suddenly, she was completely disappointed in this man, and it turned out that she was the only one who was truly independent and had the courage to take responsibility.
In an extramarital affair, the question is not whether you dare to cheat, but whether you dare to face it openly, and since you have done it, you have to admit it, and be willing to pay for it, instead of covering up your mistakes with beautiful words.
Therefore, the perspective of the book "Lover" is not only limited to extramarital affairs, it shows the patience, complexity, sacrifice and entanglement of modern marriage through Xiuzi, a participant outside of marriage, and also allows us to see women's pursuit of self-independence and spiritual freedom.
Now, let's meet another woman, her name is Katie, the heroine of Maugham's "The Veil". Initially, Katie is portrayed as an ignorant, vulgar, frivolous woman.
When she was young, she mingled in social circles, relying on her beauty to attract one man after another, pursuing shallow pleasures, until she grew older, and found that she had not yet married, in order not to be teased for her late marriage, she casually married Walter, who was pursuing her at the time, although she did not love him.
After marriage, in order to find true love, as well as to satisfy her vanity, Katie betrayed her husband and had a relationship with another married man, Tang Sheng, although Katie's husband was intelligent, talented, admirable, and very good to her.
It stands to reason that Katie isn't the kind of woman I admire. However, as I continued to read The Veil, I grew more and more fond of Katie.
She is simple, sincere, passionate, and never hides her life. For the betrayal of the marriage, Katie feels that she is just cheating, it is not a big deal, the past is gone, she will not put the blame on anyone, she is willing and has paid for her mistakes.
Katie doesn't dwell on this all the time, she accepts her husband's unforgiveness and social blame, I think many men will do the same thing as her, but far less brave and open than her.
Katie, while vain, is not hypocritical. She confronts her desires, acknowledges the filth in her humanity, and tries to seek salvation from her desires and move towards a brighter humanity. Recently, I was watching "Goodbye Lover", and although I didn't like a lot of Huang Zhizhong's remarks on the show, I liked what he said when he summed it up.
Huang Zhizhong said: I always feel that what marriage really deals with is not love, but one's own desires, being together because of desire, being separated is also because of desire, and in relationships, desire is fragile and cruel.
Some desires need to be fulfilled by others, and some need to hurt others to be satisfied, and although others always say that desires are immoral, desires exist no matter what.
This quote completely says what I like about Katie - her ability to admit, accept and face the mistakes of her desires, and I think she is really brave and has a wisdom that she didn't realize before: to face up to the inferiority of human nature in order to overcome it.
In the end, Katie completes her redemption, shedding the veil of hypocrisy and possessing compassion, compassion, and humility.
Instead of drowning in hypocrisy, we should be honest with ourselves, which is the only way to redeem ourselves, and those mistakes that Katie has made and suffered are not meaningless, because they lead to inner peace.
OMG!She actually shared her love with 13 boyfriends, ruining her three views.
It doesn't matter, what if you make a mistake?The point is do you dare to admit your mistakes?The key is whether you are willing to take off the veil of hypocrisy and stop making excuses for your mistakes
So, let's take that path to inner peace together!
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