For men, physiological liking is very cheap, because the threshold for a man to have a physiological need for a woman is very low, and a man who has been really single for three years will even like any woman on the street.
So, don't think that a man has a physical liking for you, that is to love you. Liking may be really liking, but the premise of liking is that you can meet his needs, when he needs you, you really like you, when he doesn't need you, that is, he really doesn't like you. People's needs will change, so liking is like a gust of wind blowing and it will be gone. Like it, it's driven by dopamine, and to put it bluntly, it's to satisfy your own desires. According to psychologist Sternberg's love triangle theory, love needs three elements, passion, intimacy, and commitment.
A man approaches a woman to address a personal need, while a woman approaches a man to address a personal need. It's just that the needs of men and women are completely different. Men's needs are very simple, that is, to solve physical needs, while women's needs are more complex, including material, spiritual, and love. Men have a good impression of women because of their looks and figures, while women have a good impression of men because of their appearance, personality, and economy. When each other can meet their respective needs, the exchange of values is invisibly reached, so that feelings arise between men and women, and then their respective needs are obtained through feelings.
If one of the parties is unable to meet the needs of the other party, or both parties are unable to meet their respective needs, the relationship will come to an end, and only the relationship that can meet each other's needs can last for a long time. Therefore, the essence of the relationship between men and women is to meet each other's needs.
And love requires not only physical passion, but also spiritual intimacy and single-mindedness to each other. Love needs dopamine, but it also needs to be destroyed. And Cui Canshu is the element of true love, and two people must achieve a state of spiritual intimacy and commitment to single-mindedness in order to produce Cui Canshu. When you are truly in love with someone, when you are with them, you must not only be passionate, but also have a sense of comfort, trust and peace. When two people are together, even if they just hug and chat, even if they just stay together quietly and do nothing, there will be a tacit understanding and pleasure that is not embarrassing. That's where inducing labor comes into play.
People who can make you feel excited but can't reassure you often can only provide you with psychological like, but not psychological comfort. A person can only let you produce dopamine, then your feelings for him must not be love, just a kind of desire, only let your brain secrete both dopamine and hypnotic people, that is to say, only the person who makes you have psychological thoughts and needs, and makes you psychologically comfortable and happy, you will really fall in love with him, and this can not only make you excited, but also make you feel at ease, relatively speaking, it is more worthy of your love.