The ancients often said that "the grace of parenting is greater than the sky", and since ancient times, parents have been thinking about their children. If God's suffering can be replaced, I believe that many parents will not hesitate to bear it for their children.
However, in modern society, there is a term called "Chinese parenting". Why?Although they are all parents, everyone has different ideas. The love of parents for their children is something we will always remember. However, some parents feel that their children lack gratitude.
Parents pay in a debt-collecting way, and let their children fall ill but dare not see a doctor, and students understand the parent's nurturing grace and should be grateful. However, there are some things, if they are pushed too much, people will eventually rebel. Some parents are like debt collectors, as long as they pay for their children, they will emphasize it in every possible way and let their children remember it.
A typical example is when a high school student comes home from vacation, but is asked in advance by his parents what he wants to eat. He said he wanted to eat braised pork. However, at the dinner table, his parents asked him to improve by 10 places in the next exam. What is the point of singing the praises of parental love if all the efforts are made in this way and the children are asked to "pay back" in another form if there is any support in the family?
This is not an isolated case. Some netizens commented that "I feel like I am under the fence in my house". Her teeth have been broken for more than half a year, but she is afraid to go to the doctor because she is afraid of owing her parents' kindness.
Parents will blame their children for "why don't they go to the doctor". But once the children really go to the doctor, the parents will say: I spent so much money on dental care for you, and you will know how good we are to you when we are sick in the future. This complex family relationship makes children feel unable to make decisions when faced with needs, which increases the difficulty of communication.
However, for a person who is under the fence, how can he have the confidence to go to the doctor?These examples have reminded many people of a similar experience of their own, does "debt collection" pay really help family harmony?
The term "Chinese parent" is not unfounded. Although they are all parents, everyone has different ideas. Parents' love for their children is always in their hearts, but some parents feel that their children lack gratitude.
Debt collection "pays, makes children sick but dare not see a doctor."
Students understand that their parents are nurturing and should be grateful. However, excessive urging may lead to rebellion. Some parents are like debt collection, as long as they pay for their children, they will emphasize it in every possible way and let their children remember it.
A typical example is when a high school student comes home from vacation, but is asked in advance by his parents what he wants to eat. He said he wanted to eat braised pork. However, at the dinner table, his parents asked him to improve by 10 places in the next exam. What is the point of singing the praises of parental love if all the efforts are made in this way and the children are asked to "pay back" in another form if there is any support in the family?
This is not an isolated case. Some netizens commented that "I feel like I am under the fence in my house". Her teeth have been broken for more than half a year, but she is afraid to go to the doctor because she is afraid of owing her parents' kindness.
Parents will blame their children for "why don't they go to the doctor". But once the children really go to the doctor, the parents will say: I spent so much money on dental care for you, and you will know how good we are to you when we are sick in the future. This complex family relationship makes children feel unable to make decisions when faced with needs, which increases the difficulty of communication.
However, how can a person under the fence have the confidence to go to the doctor?These examples evoke many people's memories of similar experiences, and do "debt collection" pay really help family harmony?
The reason why parents become "creditors" often includes two points: The word "creditor" is, as the name suggests, the party to whom the debt is owed. Why are some parents called "creditors" today?Because many people find that their relationship with their parents is similar to that between a creditor and a debtor.
Well, there may be two reasons why parents become "creditors". First of all, parents regard their children as the result of their hard work, and pay a lot of money and effort for this.
Parents seek something in return, forced to let their offspring know about their hardships and hardships. However, their failure to realize that their children may be afraid of any contribution from their parents makes it seem that all the help provided by parents in the early stages of their children's lives has been labelled as "cost".