If one day, your parents are gone and your siblings have a feud, you have to do the following 4 things
After the death of their parents at home, some siblings have drifted apart.
The relationship between siblings is largely influenced by their parents. However, parents are not all-powerful people and cannot think through. They love their children according to their own ideas, but it is difficult to satisfy each child.
Siblings may be reunited at home while their parents are alive, but when they die, they live separately and live separately, or they may even choose to cut off contact and never communicate with each other again.
There are some cases in history: during the Warring States Period, after the death of the monarch of Qi State, his successor Qi Xianggong became disgusted with Gongzi Jiao and Xiaobai, which led to the death of the two **. After the death of Xianggong, both Jiao and Xiaobai were eager to return to Qi to compete for the throne, and a fierce battle broke out in the end.
Also in history, during the Three Kingdoms period, after Cao Cao's death, Cao Pi succeeded to the throne and regarded his brother as a thorn in his side. Cao Zhi reluctantly wrote the poem "It was born from the same root, why is it too anxious to fry each other" to express his inner dissatisfaction and pain.
People are not sages, and the word "profit" often affects people's hearts. Favoritism in money, possessions, and affection can all become the fuse of discord between siblings. They are fighting not only for material things, but also for parental legacy, affection and respect.
It is worth pointing out fairly: if one day, your parents pass away and there are contradictions and conflicts between siblings, keep the following points in mind. Don't let your parents in heaven chill you.
First. The power of family affection has always been an undeniable existence. In the TV series "My Brothers and Sisters", a picture of a family broken up due to the death of parents and children scattered. Twenty years later, Si Tian is riddled with illness and longs to be reunited with her siblings, but misunderstandings and life differences make their reunion full of twists and turns.
In the end, it was the call of family affection and a ** meeting that contributed to this touching reunion. This family affection that blood is thicker than water is calling us all the time, awakening the responsibility and emotion of the family in our hearts.
Family conflicts are inevitable, but the key to resolution is always reconciliation. In real life, tomb sweeping, holiday reunions, birthday banquets or moments of celebration for younger generations are all opportunities for us to reconnect and resolve misunderstandings.
Brothers and sisters are like ten fingers on their hands, they may be of different lengths, but when someone is injured, the pain is the same. Why hurt each other instead of protecting each other's happiness?
Second. Family disputes often arise from the division of property and become the focus of irreconcilable conflicts.
On the issue of the division of family inheritance, conflicts often arise because of the real estate, land, and wealth left by the parents. There was a third aunt who passed away, and the money was only 3,000 yuan, but it caused a fierce dispute among the sons. Everyone argues that they are the most diligent in caring for their parents and deserve more distribution.
In the end, the young son took the initiative to give up and did not ask for a penny, and the dispute was settled. However, this battle for money has completely broken the brotherhood.
In fact, the families of these sons were quite wealthy and had a considerable amount of savings, but they lacked tolerance and generosity.
As the saying goes: "Since ancient times, no one has died, leaving Dan to take care of the sweat." "When individuals are independent and independent of their parents or siblings, they are no longer entangled in competing interests. Let go of self-interest and get along with others naturally there will be no more contradictions.
Furthermore, on the premise of not caring about the inheritance of the parents, it is also necessary to avoid disputes caused by "money exchanges" within the family. Be clear and clear when borrowing money, and be clear when refusing to borrow.
Third. The suggestion was to respect the principle of "elder brother as father" in order to establish a center for the large family.
In many extended families, once a parent dies, the family begins to disperse. This may be due to the lack of a stable "center". At family gatherings, there is no fixed place and no one to preside over them.
I know of an example of a brother-in-law who, after the death of his parents, gathered three brothers and decided together to establish a "family meeting house." They unanimously decided that a dinner would be held at the eldest brother's house on every important festival in the future, and this could not be absent. For the cost of these dinners, everyone took turns to share them.
The family has been very lively for several years. Usually, the concubines walk around each other, and the family makes glutinous rice cakes and steamed buns, and they will give some to other family members.
While the parents are still alive, they arrange how the children will be reunited. But once the parents are gone, the eldest brother will take on this responsibility, and it is also a matter of course.
Of course, if someone is particularly financially well-off and voluntarily takes on the role of "parent", this is also okay.
Fourth. The suggestion is to inherit the good family style and use the "rules" to manage the whole family.
During the Qing Dynasty, the Liu family of Dongwu in Zhucheng, Shandong Province, had been ordinary farmers for generations.
Liu Bixian was the first person in the family to study hard, and finally passed the Jinshi examination. In his later years, he formulated a series of family rules: "To be an official, you must be honest, accumulate virtue, do not be shown official position, do not build monuments to the world, be diligent and thrifty, and keep your funeral simple."
Due to the good family style, Liu Bixian's descendants have emerged for seven consecutive generations. Among them, 198 took the imperial examination and were admitted to high school, and 73 were **.
The famous writer Liu Yong is a descendant of Liu Bixian.
Even after several generations, some large families still have a deep friendship between them and are able to help each other. This is in stark contrast to brothers and sisters whose relationships have broken down and who have turned against each other.
After the death of our parents, we cannot afford to lose the house rules. We should remember the kindness of our parents and be grateful for the kindness of our brothers and sisters. Accumulate more gratitude and good deeds, so that the affection between flesh and blood will not fade.
Conclusion: I once heard a country proverb: "There are three unfilial pieties, and no queen is great." Although this sentence is straightforward, it profoundly points out the significant impact of children's unfilial piety.
The reason why parents look forward to their children's filial piety is not only for the care and care of old age, but also for the hope of seeing a harmonious and warm family.
Filial piety to one's parents does not only mean financial support, but also concerns for family harmony. This is something we should strive to practice.
Any parent is saddened by discord between their children. We don't want our parents to worry about our conflicts.
Conflict between loved ones only brings pain, and moving forward together is the eternal way. So, let's keep in mind the importance of walking hand in hand to create a harmonious and happy family together.