The fate of siblings is different, based on or supersuperstitious
Among the brothers,"Life is the best"It is often this person, this is not superstition, but well-founded.
Growing up in a single-child family, the post-90s and post-00s can find it difficult to experience what siblings live together. However, in contrast, most post-70s and post-80s have a deep understanding of how siblings get along in the family.
Although these siblings were born to their parents, their personalities were very different, some were like their fathers, some were like their mothers, and some were neither like their fathers nor their mothers.
Character largely determines a person's fate. Therefore, even children of the same family can have very different fates. Among siblings, some may have a better fate, while others may have a worse fate. So, which character is more likely to bring a good fate to a child?
These children usually have a higher status among siblings. It's not superstition, but it does have some basis.
i.Positioning and characteristics of children in different families.
In the book "Kids: The Challenge", it is mentioned:"Family horoscope"concept. Each child finds their own unique place in the family, like a unique zodiac sign.
A child's position in the family often influences the formation of their perceptions, and parents' reactions to their children also affect their behavior patterns.
With many siblings in the family, children do not always get along well and are more likely to compete with each other for more attention and affection from their parents.
Family with two children.
Before the second child is born, the eldest enjoys all the attention of his parents. He got all the pampering from his parents.
However, when a second child is born, the situation is reversed. The eldest son may miss the privilege of being an only child and feel beaten"Inferior"It's not fair for children to be excluded.
The eldest son needs some time to adjust to the new environment, and parents begin to place high expectations on the eldest son because they want him to help take care of his younger brother and sister.
At this time, older children will rediscover their purpose and regain the pampering and attention of their parents if they know how to take care of their younger siblings.
As a result, bosses are often placed in the role of caregivers.
The second type of people have never experienced the time when they were spoiled by their parents from birth, because there is always a brother or sister who is more capable than them in front of them.
Because older children are always clearer, stronger, more able to take care of themselves independently, and even good at reading and writing, second graders will feel incompetent, but because of their younger age, they will receive unconditional love from their parents. It's a feeling that even though I'm not as good as my brother (or sister), my parents still love me deeply.
The second is the caregiver.
In two-child families, the eldest son tends to be more caring, responsible, compassionate, and organized. The second child, on the other hand, tends to be easily dependent on others and is more emotional, sentimental, naïve and simple-minded.
Families with three or more children.
The big one hurts, the little love, and the middle one kicks with his feet", which describes the situation of a family with more than three children.
When there are only two children in the family, the eldest is usually very good at taking care of people, while the second likes to take care of the whole family. If a third child suddenly comes to the house, everything is completely different.
As for the second child, he was born in a much more difficult situation than the eldest child.
When all the pampering is transferred from himself to the second child, the second child suddenly finds that he has no ability to take care of the eldest and does not get more pampering from his parents as he did when he was a child.
They will find their place in the family through their own efforts. The eldest son attracts the attention of his parents through his role of caring for his parents, while the younger son can make his parents happy.
Can you get out of?
As often overlooked beings, they can emulate their elders and strive to become caregivers, or they can Xi learn from their younger generations and win back their parents' hearts with humor.
Or, get your parents to criticize you through bad behavior. After all, being criticized by parents is also a concern.
However, these actions are often ineffective.
Therefore, the old couple tend to be very aggressive, competitive, and quarrelsome. Deep down, they tend to think that their lives are up to me to create, and I have to make my own decisions.
They tend to have clear goals in life, are more realistic, have fewer fantasies, and think that actions are more useful than fantasies.
Although they are often overlooked, they do not have the exorbitant expectations of their parents and can therefore move forward without stress. Their motto is:"Don't show anything to your parents"。
In families with more than three children, the children in the middle are facing the same situation as the eldest and second, so the mental journey is the same as that of the eldest and second.
So, what will be the fate of these children when they grow up? Which child will have a better fate?
2. The influence of children's personalities on their adult destiny.
In two-child families, the eldest son is usually responsible and will take on the role of caring for younger siblings. When they grow up, these children tend to have the courage to take responsibility, be organized and planned. They are more likely to succeed on a secular level and are seen as:"Entrepreneurs"。
On the other hand, if children who are two years older are overly pampered in childhood, they tend to be more dependent, resulting in a lack of ability to take care of themselves and be good at caring for others when they grow up. These children, who were pampered in childhood, are unlikely to grow up to achieve significant social success.
In families with three or more siblings, it is often difficult for children in the middle to receive enough attention from their parents. As a result, they are often characterized by realism, a disdain for fame and fortune, a competitive spirit, and the belief that success can only be achieved on their own.
These children tend to be able to achieve extraordinary things in adulthood. They are convinced that success does not depend on others, but on their own efforts.
In conclusion, personality differences between different siblings in a family have a profound impact on their fate as adults.
Which child do you think has the best life?