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01 Don't seek one heart, but seek heart
In "The Legend of Zhen Huan", when the nobles first became favored, they talked with Jinxi's master and servant in the broken jade pavilion and discussed their dreams.
Zhen Huan: "When I went to Yimei Garden that day, I actually had three wishes, but the last one didn't have time to say. ”
Jinxi: "The slave listens." ”
Zhen Huan: "The third wish, I wish to have one heart, and the white head will not be separated." But I, a heart-wrenching person, is the most unhearted person in the world. ”
Jinxi: "Then retreat to the second, not one heart, but one heart." ”
In the early harem life, Zhen Huan's state was relatively free. She was not bothered by the emperor's "fish and bear's paws".
Perhaps, she has long realized that the emperor is not just her.
As a result, she is rarely jealous of others and rarely suffers from insomnia.
On the contrary to her, Concubine Hua, who seems to be arrogant and domineering, lives a miserable life.
Concubine Hua couldn't see this relationship clearly, she suffered from gains and losses, and she couldn't accept the emperor's favor for other women at all.
From beginning to end, she loved the emperor with all her heart, trying to get the same emotional feedback from the emperor.
However, this is just wishful thinking.
It was precisely because Concubine Hua couldn't accept this reality that she eventually became a victim of love and men.
In the play, in the end, Concubine Hua learned that it turned out that it was the emperor who designed to use Huan Yixiang to make her unable to get pregnant;Concubine Hua's first miscarriage was also instructed by the emperor to give Concubine Hua the abortion pill.
Knowing everything behind this, Concubine Hua could only end up in resentment and kill herself.
Before she died, she watched a good drama n times, and Concubine Hua shouted with all her strength: "Your Majesty, you hurt Shilan so hard!.""Concubine Hua, she can be said to be the woman who loves the emperor the most in the whole play, but she ended up like this, which is embarrassing.
This scene made me feel distressed to watch. Concubine Hua's move seems tragic, but it is actually extremely bleak.
If I could, I would like to ask her: Is it worth dying for a "fratern" and cold emperor?
Therefore, her failure was not lost to Zhen Huan, but to a wrong understanding of love and men.
02Learn to keep yourself and avoid losing yourself
In fact, not only in the harem, but all the men in this world, in their lives, are destined to not be able to treat a woman wholeheartedly.
Even if it's not small.
3. There is no cheating, no betrayal, in a man's world, a wife can only be a part of their life. Quite simply, men need to take care of important roles such as their own development, children, career, parents and friends.
A woman cannot be their only bond forever.
Since we can't get single-minded love, we should understand that the sun will still rise and life still needs to go on.
We can only retreat to the second, not asking them to be single-minded, but asking them to be able to treat them with heart. We don't have to be too strict with men only having themselves in their hearts, as long as they can give us a warm little corner in their hearts, it is enough.
In the process of falling in love, we must learn to keep ourselves and not give our all and eventually lose ourselves.
Therefore, women should be like Zhen Huan and use their hearts to understand the nature and reality of men.
In this way, we can be more comfortable and calm. It is possible to maintain one's own happiness and understand the unique needs of men.
03Protect yourself and stay free and independent
What should we do when we have problems in a relationship?
Zhen Huan, as the big winner in the end, taught us: when it comes to falling in love, we must find a correct balance.
First of all, we should learn to protect ourselves, and in love, not to give up our freedom and independence.
Secondly, we should treat each other with our hearts, seek a balanced and mutually helpful way of getting along, and maintain our own independent thinking and attitude. These are all essential factors for building a successful love foundation.
We should be like Zhen Huan and maintain a peaceful, rational, tolerant and warm heart in order to make the wisest choice in love.
In love, we might as well be more understanding, less demanding, and treat each other with our hearts, so that we can be happy in the relationship.
At the same time, we should also maintain our independence and freedom, do not give up easily, and do not let our feelings become the whole of our lives.
In addition, in love, we must also learn to convey emotions and learn to communicate with others.
The reason why Zhen Huan can survive in the harem is not only because of her wisdom, but also because she is good at getting along with other women.
Being good at communicating, expressing and listening is also an important factor in enhancing the stability of a relationship.
Therefore, to create a good relationship environment, we need to actively understand each other's needs, expectations, and feelings.
In short, in love, we can learn from Zhen Huan's wisdom and gain more lessons to build a healthier and long-term relationship.
These key factors include freedom, intentions, transmission, and tolerance, which are all essential basic elements to build a successful relationship.
In "The Legend of Zhen Huan", Zhen Huan not only has to face the complex political struggle of the harem, but also the jealousy and hostility from other concubines.
She always remained calm and rational in dealing with these difficulties, and at the same time learned to protect herself.
This reminds us that in love, women also need to learn to balance and protect their own interests, not to compromise too much, or to put themselves in a passive state.
After watching "The Legend of Zhen Huan" again, I realized that Zhen Huan was the most sober woman in love
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