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Recently, Wong Kar-wai's first TV series "Flowers" exploded, and Ma Yili's Lingzi left a deep impression, and this role once again proved Ma Yili's acting skills.
Ma Yili in life was once called "Commander Ma", and she felt as strong as the proprietress Reiko in the play.
Many people use "perfect" to describe their impression of Ma Yili, so what does she think of herself?
In the studio of Phoenix.com, Ma Yili answered this question, and between the conversations, he revealed a kind of calmness and calmness.
When the moderator mentioned that the partners who often work with her describe her as "perfect", her answer is both truthful and distressing.
She said: It's hard, so I don't want to be a perfect woman, and I don't like the word "perfect" very much right now. Because it itself represents a kind of non-acceptance, I need to accept, I need to accept others, I need others to accept me. What you need most is to accept yourself. So, I'm not a perfect woman.
She went on to explain: I'm not the kind of person who doesn't carry my phone when I work, I carry it in my pocket when I work, because I will tell the director that my reality does not allow me to leave my phone there and not look at it, and I have to take out my phone after shooting a scene, because this is my reality.
I am even on the scene of filming, I have to read the email from the school at any time, I often miss the ** from the school because I am filming, for example, the ** call from the infirmary, saying that the child has a fever or is sick, etc., the nature of my work is that I am not a round-the-clock mother, I have my own work to do.
Well, I'll also tell my work team, I'm sorry, I'm not a full-time actor, I have to be filming and constantly dealing with all kinds of family problems, this is very realistic, so, I'm not a perfect person.
In the eyes of many people, Ma Yili seems to have always been a "perfect" representative: outstanding acting skills, successful career, and the character of a big woman in Shanghai.
But behind this glamour, the effort and pressure she has put in, I am afraid that only she knows best.
The "perfection" she pursues is not external praise and achievement, but inner peace and self-sufficiency.
Ma Yili admits that she doesn't like the word "perfect" very much. Because in her opinion, behind this word is an attitude that does not tolerate flaws and failures.
True perfection is not external perfection, but inner wholeness and acceptance.
She needs to accept her own imperfections, as well as the imperfections of others. This kind of acceptance is a deep understanding and tolerance of self and others.
She said, "I'm not a perfect woman. ”
It's both her self-knowledge and her self-acceptance.
She acknowledges her imperfections and accepts them.
In her world, there is no absolute perfection, only relative reality.
She is a living person, with joys and sorrows, successes and failures, as well as bits and pieces, and she is powerless.
Her perfection lies not in the evaluation of the outside world, but in her authenticity and openness to herself.
Ma Yili's work attitude also reflects her authenticity and calmness. She's not a workaholic, nor is she an all-around mom.
She acknowledges her limited time and energy, and is open to her imperfections.
Family and career are two important fulcrums in her life, but they are not a perfect balance.
Sometimes, she needs to oscillate between work and family, and sometimes, she needs to compromise between ideals and reality.
She said: "I even have to read emails from the school at any time when I am on the scene of filming. ”
Behind this sentence is her concern and worry as a single mother.
She couldn't do it perfectly, but she tried her best to be the best she could. She does not pursue external perfection, but only inner truth and calmness.
Ma Yili's story teaches us that perfection is not a standard, but an attitude.
Everyone has their own imperfections, but it is these imperfections that make up our unique color of life.
Only when we accept our imperfections can we truly feel the beauty and richness of life.
In this era of pursuit of perfection, perhaps we should all learn from Ma Yili's attitude: do not pursue external perfection, but only pursue inner truth and calmness.
Ma Yili used her courage and wisdom to tell us not to be fooled by superficial perfection, but to be brave enough to be ourselves and live our lives. Only in this way can you leave the most beautiful scenery in the journey of life.
Because in this world, no one is perfect. Only those who dare to face their true and imperfect can live the most authentic and wanton life.
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