Text: 360-degree psychology understands love and understands you better.
Hello teacher:
It's been more than a year since then!Let's get straight to the point!
I've been separated from him outside of marriage for almost three years, and I really broke up twice for a long time, the first time we went outdoors to play in the snow, and I saw him share his ** playing in the snow to a woman, so I messed with him and scolded him for being very unpleasant, so we broke up.
This time we were separated for three months and then reunited for three months, and it was he who came back to find me, and I also knew that he had no such relationship with the woman. The second reunion was after eight months of separation, he came back to me, and called ** and ** private message me, and the attitude was very sincere and touched me, I said that in order to show your sincerity, you transfer 1,000 yuan to me as sincerity money, he transferred 2,000, and said that there is so much, knowing that he has no money, and the financial power is in his wife, seeing that he is more willing than ever before for us to be together again.
After being together, I proposed that I didn't want him to play with the two classmates and mothers in his daughter's class, I didn't want my man to always play around women, because in the eight months we were apart, I knew that he often ate and drank with them, camped outdoors together, and all three people went with their children, my niece and his daughter were in the same class, and I had another mother's WeChat, and I saw her often posting.
He blocked and deleted their WeChat for me, and swore by his whole family that they were just friends who could chat and have fun, and said that they would be with me in the future, and felt that my friends and I were sincere, generous, and comfortable with people, and after getting along for a long time, I felt that they were too pretending and stingy, and they didn't say anything about their own affairs, and he said everything in front of them, just like a person performing, they were not sincere, so they didn't want to play with them.
In the four months of reunion, he has been better to me than before, with companionship and emotional value, but we still quarrel often, often I don't believe him, I always feel that he has added back the WeChat of the two mothers and will play together, and he took screenshots to confirm it for me before it subsided.
Just last week, we were walking together, and I casually asked, did you add them to WeChat?He said no, and when he got home, I saw one of the mothers in the circle of friends posting the same content in the circle of friends as he posted the day before, I immediately asked him, he didn't admit it, said that people stole pictures, I said WeChat no, who stole whom?I asked him to go to my house immediately to make it clear, he came, I asked him to open WeChat to add the list, it was the mother who added him again, the day before he went to deliver (he is in the wholesale children's shoes business) and asked them where they were, so we took them to play together.
Do I mean to deceive people like this?I don't mind you still do this, how did you promise when you looked back to me, and then he deleted the mother's WeChat, and asked me not to care, okay day, the next day when I think of this, I always say that he is not adding WeChat to take people to play.
He explained that I still had a bad attitude towards him, which completely provoked him, he beat a few ** to scold me, and drove quickly to my community, called me downstairs, and cried and scolded me a lot of ugly things after seeing me, and I persuaded him to go home.
In the afternoon, I called ** and apologized to him, saying that it was my own problem, and I said a lot, although he was still angry, he was reconciled. The next day we went out with my girlfriend. I thought this time was over, who knew that he sent the circle of friends to play in the evening, I saw that the mother liked him, and he also liked the circle of friends sent by that mother, and he didn't like what I posted, and completely provoked me again, I scolded him and asked him to return the money to me, before lending him 20,000 yuan for urgent use, scolding him for being a waste dog, and everyone in the future **, scumbag, speech is not a word.
I scolded very badly, he was so angry that he said that he came to me at the school gate, saying that he would take them to play once after he got back together with me this time, and that not playing with them did not mean that he was an enemy with them, and he would still say hello when he met, and call those two mothers to confront him, otherwise I would always suspect him.
At that time, I was scared, and the next day, I relented, communicated with him, and broke up again as before, this time after eight months of separation and four months of reunion. Teacher, after listening to me say so much, do you think it's my problem?After he returned the money to me two days ago, he said that they would be okay in the future, and he went back to play with them.
I said that I deleted WeChat, and he said that it was not necessary, not an enemy. You said that it was him who resolutely broke up, and it was he who came back to ask for peace, over and over again, will he come back to me like before in the future?Do I still want to accept him?
My reply: Answer your question directly, he will come back to you, you can't be separated. The two of you are a perfect match, how can you separate, you need this kind of toss from the other party, and the other party also knows that you can't do without him, so even if it's uncomfortable, it's definitely going to be together.
You ask me, is this a polygamous man, some men cheat, but don't just deduct the label of a polygamous man, just like some occasionally have sexual relations, you can't say that people are polygamous, and the demand for sex is originally diverse. A real polygamous man, one of the obvious characteristics is that you meet this one, he is not worried that you know that he has a lot of partners, and he blatantly tells you that he has many partners, and makes these women know each otherThere are also disputes and contradictions because of him, and men enjoy the process of being robbed by women, which is the biggest sign of polycouples, that is, to let their women know each other, without shying away from it, and deliberately cause conflicts.
Your relationship, the man is in front of you, go out with other women, and know that you know each other, so what, you can't do without him, and other women can't do without him, he enjoys the process, although it's uncomfortable, don't you all need this man?
So, next time you come to it, I guess you will continue to tear up, and then say, do I still want to continue with the other party?My answer, of course, is the same:Of course it continues. Otherwise, life would be boring.
About author:360-degree view of psychology, psychological supervisor, counselor, psychology lecturer, gender relationship research scholar, emotional writer, deeply engaged in the field of psychology for more than 20 years, focusing on the improvement of women's wisdom, gender cognitive cultivation and intimate relationship building, to improve the modern men and women's sense of belief and cooperation in love and marriage for the concept, based on improving the quality of marriage between Chinese men and women, is committed to making China's marriage and family relations more stable, so that the modern society between the sexes can be healthier and long-term development.