Now that the Cold War has begun, it's a good idea to reflect on what problems exist in the way you get along with her. If you can't get the feedback you want, then you don't have to do that. Trying to please your partner will only make people feel that you are doing it for granted. Naturally, others will not look at this matter from the heart, and once you raise your dissatisfaction, it will be seen as what you are doing just to get feedback from others, rather than sincerely wanting to do it. Then it will cause trouble in your relationship, and from the point of view of courtesy, she should indeed give back to you. However, from the perspective of love, being good to her and her family can only show that you love her. Once you start asking for feedback, it means that the love has changed.
In a relationship, you should follow your heart more and do something, rather than doing something with a purpose. Especially if you don't do something willingly, you need to weigh whether you want to do it or not. It's very difficult to tie a relationship by pleasing you, and it's like you're wishful thinking. And your other half is sitting back and enjoying it, and over time you will be pampered and proud. Even if you are giving, if you don't do it, you will usher in her dissatisfaction. Not to mention wanting her to give back to you, she can enjoy this treatment without doing anything, so what is the need for her to do those things.
Therefore, many times it is the wrong way you treat her that makes you feel wronged in this relationship. If you don't want to please your partner, don't do it, so as not to worry about not getting your ideal feedback. The two-way relationship can last for a long time, and blindly giving in exchange for only doubting life will be true. Take advantage of the current cold war and adjust your state. Re-establish a new way of getting along with each other, and stop doing things that move you.