Xu Ziqi's mother has been planning her daughter's future since she was a baby. She looks forward to her daughter being able to marry into high society and live a privileged and comfortable life, and this wish has become her biggest wish in life.
In order to achieve this goal, the mother began to deliberately nurture her daughter. She decided to send Xu Ziqi to an aristocratic school, so that she could be accompanied by the children of rich families to learn aristocratic skills such as piano, chess, calligraphy and painting, and equestrianism.
The mother strictly restricted her daughter's range of friends, refusing her to associate with ordinary friends, fearing that her daughter would be "badly influenced".
Slowly, Xu Ziqi gradually accepted the notion that he had to marry a wealthy family. Her lifestyle was very different from that of ordinary people, and the education and life guidance she received were all designed to shape her into an elegant lady with an aristocratic temperament.
The mother even pushed her daughter into the entertainment industry in the hope that she would gain greater popularity and connections in high society. However, the sunshine behind the stage cannot hide the fact that the mother tightly controls the direction of her daughter's life.
Xu Ziqi began to be confused and suspicious, when she found that the two subjects had failed to pass her mother's "assessment" one after another. She was confused about how she could win her mother's approval and didn't know what she was supposed to be.
She has been bound by the framework set by others for years and has lost her true self.
The mother's constant expectations and demands on her daughter caused Xu Ziqi to lose the ability to make her own choices. She is forced to play the image of the "perfect daughter" in her mother's heart, and as a result, she gradually loses control of her life.
We should understand and love when we look forward to being a mother, because everyone needs to find their own living space.
The mother was anxious because she had been proposed to marriage many times.
Xu Ziqi fell in love with actor Hong Tianming when he was 17 years old, and the two fell in love. For her, this is the first time she has experienced the restlessness of love, and it is also the first time she has felt the sweetness and bitterness of youthful love.
However, the mother strongly hindered the development of the relationship.
's mother thinks that Hong Tianming's family background is not good enough and he is not worthy of being a son-in-law. Therefore, she did not hesitate to separate the lovers and decided to send Xu Ziqi to the United Kingdom to continue her studies, ruthlessly cutting off this beautiful first love.
Xu Ziqi met the rich second-generation Huo Qishan in the UK, when she was 24 years old. Huo Qishan is handsome and golden, which once made Xu Ziqi's heart move. However, the good times did not last long, and in the end, Huo Qishan chose Zhang Ziyi, giving Xu Ziqi the experience of falling out of love again. Exactly 7 years have passed.
Mother Xu is very anxious and anxious about the failure of her two relationships, and she decides to turn to a feng shui master for help. It is said that the feng shui of the ancestral tomb of the Xu family is not good and needs to be relocated. In order to let her daughter find a good home as soon as possible, Mother Xu did not hesitate to move the location of the ancestral grave.
Unexpectedly, Xu Ziqi met Li Jiacheng in the same year in the United Kingdom, the son of Lee Shau-kee, the richest man in Asia. When she saw the last chance coming, Xu's mother immediately urged her daughter to accept the Li family's pursuit, and finalized the marriage between the two a year later.
For many years, the mother has been expecting her daughter to marry into a wealthy family, and this setting has made her daughter lose the right to make her own choice. In order to achieve this goal, the mother did not hesitate to change the feng shui and force her daughter to accept her arrangement.
We should dissolve our anxieties with love and understanding, rather than imposing personal expectations on others, and let life bloom freely.
Establishing a strong position needs to be achieved by having children.
Xu Ziqi finally entered the palace of marriage in 2007, when she was 24 years old and tied the knot with Li Jiacheng, the son of the richest man. For her, this not only meant a dream come true, but also marked the beginning of a new chapter in her life.
She quickly embarked on the road of childbirth and complied with the request of her father-in-law, Lee Shau Kee. In just two years, she gave birth to two daughters in 2007 and 2009.
The Li family was not satisfied with this result, and what they wanted was a boy who could inherit the family business. However.
Fortunately, it wasn't until 2011 that she finally gave birth to the Li family's son. This news undoubtedly made Lee Shau-kee's father-in-law extremely happy. To celebrate the birth of his eldest grandson, Lee Shau Kee generously rewarded his daughter-in-law and gave generous gifts to every employee of the company.
In 2014, Xu Ziqi welcomed the arrival of the fourth child again under the expectation of his father-in-law. The birth of four sons and two daughters cemented her position as a kuotai in the Li family. However, behind all this, she had to give birth to children in exchange for her family's favor and recognition.
However, when Xu Ziqi thought that her life could finally become stable, she found that her husband Li Jiacheng was looking for a third party outside. This is undoubtedly a double blow to her emotions. Despite this, in order to maintain the family, Xu Ziqi still chose forbearance and tolerance, and she had to continue to play this seemingly happy family drama.
Xu Ziqi sacrificed his life and lived in the shackles of other people's expectations. We should support each other and make progress together, rather than forcing others to achieve their dreams, and it is more important to give understanding and space.
The desire to be free from shackles and to find one's true self.
Under the expectations of his mother and father-in-law, Xu Ziqi sacrificed his youth and life. Now, as her children get older, she finally has time to think about what she really wants.
Xu Ziqi realized that for many years she had been confined to the limits set by others, and had to play the role of "perfect model" in the eyes of others. She longs to free herself and rediscover her true self.
Xu Ziqi began to develop a strong interest in philanthropy, and she hoped to fill the emptiness in her heart by helping others. In addition, she enrolled in a series of personal growth courses in an attempt to regain inner peace and strength.
Xu Ziqi gradually realized that the external glory and wealth brought by dedicating the first half of her life to others could not fill the emptiness in her heart. She is no longer satisfied with this passive and selfless life.
Now, Xu Ziqi finally recognizes what she really needs - she is eager to take control of her own destiny. She is determined to live the life she wants in the days to come.
Everyone aspires to be understood and respected, and should have the right to choose their own path. We should not let the expectations of the outside world become a shackle that binds us. While caring for others, let's also give them space and support, because living our authentic selves is an inner need we all share.
Xu Ziqi's life experience does give us a lot to think about.
Instilled from birth with the idea that they must marry into a wealthy family, children are severely restricted, including the range of friends and lifestyle, and all learning is aimed at this goal.
This is bound to seriously distort the young soul's understanding of herself and the world, causing her to gradually lose herself.
Anxious about her daughter's repeated failed marriage proposals, the mother began to rely on Feng Shui for good luck. However, this reliance on superstition to ensure results only deepens the evasion of reality and attempts to rely on external forces to interfere in the lives of others.
Raising children is a personal choice for each individual and should not be seen as an expected burden. When we live under external pressure, it can be difficult to regain inner peace and strength.
Everyone needs to be understood and cared for. We should support our families in pursuing their own lives, rather than imposing standards on them. Because finding inner peace and living out our true selves is our common essential need.
In life, there is no such thing as right or wrong, but you need to be brave enough to be yourself, and even lose yourself. We may be able to meet the expectations of others, but in the end, we have to live meaningfully. Let us respect and support each other, you take your Yangguan Road, and I take my single-plank bridge.