Autumn and Winter Check-in Challenge
Introduction:
Mr. Yang Jiang once said: "The most wonderful scenery in life is the calmness and calmness of the heart."
We had been so anxious for recognition from the outside world, until the end we found outThe world is its own and has nothing to do with others. ”
I am 53 years old, retired for three years, and like to be alone, but I am said to be: a person who has no social interaction, a person who is withdrawn and eliminated by society.
In fact, after retirement, the old man who really lives happily,It is to be able to enjoy the joy of the crowd and entertain yourself.
After retirement, I don't want much, I have a house to live in, and I have a retirement salary to get.
Even if one person drinks tea, it can be drunkTranquility after the bustle, unrestrained comfort.
After retirement, some people like to be alone, and some people like the joy of being together with a group of people.
No matter what kind of life you like, as long as you are happy, how you want to live is your own business.
Don't care about other people's eyes and evaluations, be freeLive as much as you want
1. Live yourself, don't be nosy, just be yourself.
Before I retired, I always thought that others were good to me, and giving me a smile was to treat each other sincerely and give my sincerity and honesty.
It took a little sadness and loss to knowSome smiles can't be taken seriously, and some sincerity is just superficial
Kindness should be given to the right person, and a smile should be given to the deserving person.
From the initial pleasing personality, I slowly looked inward and found a lifestyle that suits me.
From the initial reluctance to refuse other people's requests, to now being able to express their wishes directly.
Whoever makes you uncomfortable, tell the other person directly, instead of being ambiguous and putting yourself in a dilemma.
After retirement, the most important thing is to live yourselfTake care of yourself, don't worry about things, and be the best and most true self
In the face of those who are careful about you, just know it, just be estranged, communicate indifferently, and don't have to pay sincerely.
Any kind of relationship,Only by sincerely going both ways,Otherwise, you don't have to deliberately maintain it, just get by.
I used to think that everyone looked up and didn't look down, it was too bad to give people face, and they were wronged, and everyone was okay.
Now learn how to say what you want, say hello when you meet, and don't have to make deep friends.
Life is short, the rest of life is precious, and there is no need to waste limited time on unworthy people and things.
Always think about others, who have considered your feelings. Know how to think about yourself and stop consuming yourself
When I really lived for myself, I realized that it was really cool to focus on being myself, and other people's idle affairs had nothing to do with me.
2. You can live as happy as you want, and you don't have to explain to anyone.
In the past, I was just too serious and took anything other than anyone else to say.
I remember that my sisters who first learned Tai Chi with me always said that they wanted specific passwords for boxing.
I began to summarize the running route of each style, as well as the relationship between the "hand-eye-body method", and wrote a whole diary.
When I sorted out the things and typed them out on the computer, I found that I was serious.
Isn't that what people think is what you should do?You teach us boxing, it's your responsibility.
They also accused me in person of not being responsible enough for them to learn boxing, as if they couldn't learn it, or couldn't do it well, which was my fault.
Later, I learned to be "mellow" and no longer took anyone so seriously, on the contrary, they thought I was really good at teaching.
The essence of human nature is really unclear, when I took the initiative to quit and handed over the team to a capable sister.
Some people say that I am high, and I have everything to say. I just like to do boxing alone, and I prefer to be alone.
In the past, I was always kidnapped by others, and I had to go when I got there, and if I didn't go, others would say that you took a shelf.
After exiting, enjoy the time alone, feel the beauty of Tai Chi in the boxing alone, and carefully ponder the mental method of **.
You don't have to explain to anyone, you can quietly cultivate your body and mind in your own world and do what you like.
I want to go boxing at what time, go out to work out at what time, it's up to me.
I'm socially afraid, and I'm already clumsyAlways take other people's words seriously, tired of yourself, and always misunderstood.
I learned to be alone, I enjoyed being alone, and I felt that my life was really comfortable, and I could live as happy as I wanted.
3. Be a transparent retiree and enjoy your own time alone.
Márquez said: "Life has never left a solitary and independent existence. ”
After I retired, I slowly understoodThere are many things in life that are not understood by others, and there is no need for us to explain more.
Those who understand you don't have to explain, and those who don't understand you, explanations are useless, as long as we are comfortable with ourselves.
We don't look at other people's eyes, and other people's evaluations are arbitrary, and follow our own hearts.
After retirement, be a transparent old man and enjoy your own alone time, although it is dull, but it is very fulfilling.
Solitude is a way to reconcile with life. Walking alone is a seclusion of the soul, and the true freedom comes from inner peace.
Whether you live well or not for the rest of your life does not depend on the level of retirement salary, the ability of your children, and even more so your connections.
Those who live comfortably and happily are mostly old peopleHave a healthy body and a calm and calm state of mind to enjoy life.
After retirement, be a person who lives transparently, don't care about other people's eyes and evaluations, just be yourself quietly.
Conclusion:
Rousseau once said:"The more many things a person can let go, the richer he becomes. ”
For the rest of my life, walking and walking, living and livingIn the end, they are all lonely travelers, and no one can escape the fate of loneliness
Learn to enjoy solitude, let go of all the hustle and bustle of the world, and prosper alone in your own world, and you are a rich person.
In life, you can live as happy as you want, and enjoy life as you want, so it's good.
Author: Huagui Zen Heart.
Follow my words and go into your heart. You have a story, I have tea, and we can talk about the rest of our lives together.
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