Article First Release Challenge Just now, a netizen asked, what should I do when I am in a bad mood?
In the past few days, I have copied the book "Cognitive Drive", and I happened to see this problem. Zhou Ling said: "When you are in a bad mood, take out a pen and paper, or use a mobile phone or keyboard, and write down your feelings. ”
I now realize that this method is very good!
In the past, when I was in a bad mood, I would write a diary, I would go for a run, I would hide under the covers and cry secretly, and when I was the most stupid, I would find someone to talk to.
Now when I'm in a bad mood, I don't talk to anyone anymore. Because if you confide in your relatives, you are actually transferring your negative energy to your relatives.
No matter how justified and wronged you are, whether it is comforting you or blaming you, it will actually make your loved ones suffer from your negative emotions.
Your negative emotions can infect and affect the mood of your loved ones. Making a loved one feel bad is bringing a bad magnetic field to one's loved ones.
If you love your loved one, of course you want her well. Therefore, it is better not to confide in your loved ones about negative emotions.
Confiding in acquaintances and friends will make you feel more uncomfortable.
It's cool to talk for a while. After talking, there is regret.
No one will empathize with your pain. Not many people really wish you well, either.
When others listen to you, they only satisfy their curiosity and will not really help or comfort you.
On the contrary, your confiding has become the talk of others, and your bad luck has become a lever for others to attack you in the future.
Your sadness may be just a momentary emotion. Once you've calmed down, you'll be fine.
Once you confide in an acquaintance, it will disturb your emotions a second time and make you more sad under the spread of others adding fuel and vinegar.
Therefore, when you are in a bad mood, it is most irrational to find someone to talk to.
People who don't exercise regularly may not have this experience.
Someone once had a similar divine summary of running:Running three kilometers is a cure for all kinds of unhappiness;5 km** for all kinds of internal injuries;After running ten kilometers, my heart is full of openness and kindness.
Runners will have this experience, that is, when they are depressed or unhappy, they go for a run, so that they can run out of breath, run all over sweat, and no matter how unhappy they are, their emotions become less important.
Haruki Murakami said: ".The dopamine produced by the body when running is second only to falling in love.
So, if you're in a bad mood, go for a run.
However, when you are in a bad mood, using running can only relieve your emotions and stop you from falling into negative emotions of sadness. Running can only calm you and calm you. But it can't make you grow.
When I used to be in a bad mood, I really wanted to talk to someone, but when I was told that I couldn't say it, I kept a diary. I didn't know there would be such a benefit to writing it down.
However, if I am in a bad mood and write it down, I will not be emotionally impulsive, and I will not say angry things or do something radical.
Writing it down will release your anger. You can also calm yourself down in the process of writing. Sorting out what happened, the act of "writing" is like a bystander, listening to another self. You don't have to worry about someone laughing at you, and you don't have to worry about your secrets being revealed.
In the process of writing, your sanity will come back online, and you will no longer let your emotions control your thoughts and actions. Write it down, you don't have to care about the writing, as long as you know the words, you can write.
You can write down your emotions and think whatever you want. You don't have to worry about what others will think of you, and you don't have to worry about your writing not being beautiful enough, just write down what you want to say in your heart at that time. You don't even have to revise it, you don't have to check it. Just write like that all the time. Write down your heart with a pen.
Write down your emotions and feelings, even your anger and grievances.
When you're done writing about your emotions, you start writing about what happened, why did you have such troubles?
When you start to sort out the cause and effect of this matter, you will start to reflect, what did you say in this matter?What did it take to get to where we are now?
Everything we experience every day is actually the result of our own choices.
You start to reflect that if you didn't think that way, didn't say that, didn't do that, the result is definitely not like that.
Finally, you can write down your own reflections. If something like this happens again, shouldn't I think differently?Shouldn't we be more thoughtful?Then, the current result will not happen, and you will not be unhappy.
Therefore, when you are in a bad mood, take out a pen and paper, or use a mobile phone or keyboard, write down your inner feelings and thoughts, and then through calm reflection, you can not only prevent yourself from doing things that you regret because of emotional impulses, but also allow yourself to avoid similar things from happening next time you encounter the same thing.
Write it down!When you're in a bad mood, writing it down will ease anxiety and insecurity and will make you grow.