"My ability is to inspire the people around me," Schwab said, "and the greatest asset I have is appreciation and encouragement, and I bring out the best in them in this way." --The weakness of human nature.
This passage is a passage when I was reading a book, and I suddenly had some experience.
Why is praise and encouragement so powerful?
Why do I often hear some experts say that it is not more about criticism, but about praise and encouragement, so that children are more confident and motivated?
We still have the old rules of thinking in terms of emotional truth**.
In fact, the above praise and encouragement can be attributed to recognition, that is, the recognition of others for themselves, not their own recognition of themselves.
The opposite of recognition is non-recognition, and non-recognition is the so-called negative emotion.
As I said in my previous article, negative emotions have power, they have the power to make people act, but positive emotions, that is, the opposite of negative emotions, basically do not have this power.
So recognition, praise, and encouragement are positive emotions, which can only make people feel happy for a while, and basically have no other use, so why are praise and encouragement, recognition still full of power?
Read on!
First, let's think about why others don't like to be criticized, because it can bring negative emotions to others.
At the heart of the definition of emotional truth is the fact that all people are weakening the negative emotions generated by their various realities.
And criticism and the like directly bring negative emotions to the other party, and of course others will be unhappy and resist.
And praise and encouragement, recognition, these are positive emotions, directly give the other person positive emotions, others will of course be happy, happy.
Here I ask the question, that is, do you think it is better to praise and recognize, or to criticize?
This needs to be situational, for the long-term development of the individual, criticism to negative emotions is more beneficial, because stress, pain will make people grow.
Similar to what I used to say when I was a child, ** strips make good people.
And for people who are adults, qualitative, and have a certain ability to resist pressure, this is not divided into men and women, young and old, and there are many children who are extremely mature in themselves.
For these people, praise, encouragement, recognition is better.
I'll explain it again:
It is for these people who have experienced social beatings, understand that they are actually lonely, painful and can really help themselves, understand the basic operation of society, and understand the other side of the world.
Encouragement, praise, and recognition have tremendous power to have things that money can't, to diminish the negative emotions that arise in real life such as their lives, thoughts, dreams, etc.
These people are generally people who have been out of society for a few years and understand that they are actually very ordinary people, people who can't live the life they want.
And criticism needs to be given to people who live in fantasy and fantasy, such as those who earn 3,000 and look down on those who earn 10,000.
And why recognition, praise for some people, that is, people out of society will have the ability to weaken negative emotions comparable to money, we will carry out the next article**.