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Wen Feiyu. 
Psychologist David Sieber says in The Truth About Selfishness: "It is the 'virtuous selfishness' that defends the self that is the key factor in making people happy." ”
You don't find that people who are actually selfish have a better life, while those who are honest always have a bad life.
When people live, we have to be selfish, in fact, for ourselves, but we can't be indifferent and ruthless, when we should be selfish, be selfish, don't live too honestly, learn to think about ourselves, in fact, in order to make our lives better.
Many honest people, always in order to cater to others, in order to please others, let themselves live a very aggrieved life, and always can't refuse others, so that they live a very tired life.
People are too honest, and they always work hard for a job, thinking that as long as they are a little more diligent, then they can even get a raise, but many people are busy working because of this, but they can't take care of their bodies, and as a result, there is no change in their work, but even someone else has a raise.
Therefore, I tell you not to be too honest, just because of the reality of people's hearts.
1. People, don't be too honest, just get a salary.
Do you always don't go to eat because you don't finish a little work, do you often hold back even if you are anxious because of work, do you often stay up late and work overtime because of work, do you always be called because of work, even if you call in the middle of the night, you still get up to pick up** and so on.
I remembered that my husband mentioned that such an incident happened in his unit, that is, one of his colleagues always did not go to the toilet because of work, and was always in a state of holding back for a long time before going in a hurry.
Suddenly, one day, my colleague fainted in the toilet, because he was bleeding when he went to the toilet to urinate, and he fainted in pain.
Therefore, people really can't be too honest, the workload is about the same every day, you always take your life to change jobs, there is only one consequence, the work is still there, but the life is gone, so what should I do?
We are just here to work, just to get a salary, when it is time to rest, to rest, when it is time to work, to work hard, people have three urgency, if you don't take yourself seriously, then who is expected to treat you well?
We have to be selfish to ourselves, take care of our body, only when the body is good, can we ride the wind and waves, at work, we also have to manage our body well, don't honestly bow your head and do it, and don't participate in group activities, Others are resting, you are still doing, so you are not tired, who is tired?
When people live, they should be responsible for their own bodies, which is the highest way to live in life.
Second, people, just do your best, don't be too honest.
When I think of a friend, he is just too honest, other friends ask him for help, he always will not refuse others, even we can't look at it, tell them not to tell him to do things at every turn.
Sometimes when he made a mistake, his friends started to blame him, saying how he had helped him, and he didn't say anything, and said sorry to others.
People really can't always help with everything, even if they do it well, in the end they can't get a word of thanks from others, then others are consuming your honesty.
It is a virtue to choose what is good and do what is good, and it is also a kind of wisdom to stop in moderation.
You don't always honestly take other people's affairs on yourself, you have to tell yourself that everything depends on your own ability, what you don't have the ability to do, what you don't want to do, you can actually reject others, don't embarrass yourself.
3. People, don't be responsible for things that are not your responsibility.
Many honest people always take the blame for others in the workplace, or clean up the mess for others in life, so they will make themselves suffer everywhere.
In fact, life is one's own and has nothing to do with others, and life is also other people's and has nothing to do with oneself.
People live, don't be too honest, you have to keep your own boundaries, keep your bottom line, live a sober life, don't meddle in things that are not your own responsibility, and you can't let others easily put the responsibility on your head and ask you to take the blame.
When you meet someone who has done something wrong, he deliberately pleases you, asks you to help, and deliberately blames you, just wants you to take the blame, he will shake things off, if you are honest and silent, know that you didn't do it yourself, and don't dare to defend yourself, then others will bully you once and countless times, always unscrupulously bullying you.
Writer Oscar Wilde said, "It's not selfishness to live the life you want, it's about asking others to live as you want." ”
When people are alive and facing others, they can help if they can, don't help if they don't want to help, don't be too soft-hearted, don't be too cowardly, always respond to other people's things, and they are easy to be bullied and deceived by others.
The top wisdom in life is to know how to live for yourself, live a "kind" life, and don't be too honest, then we can all live our lives well in the end.
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