The principle of wooden barrel teaches us: we are all a wooden barrel, if we want to fill enough water, it depends on the short board of our wooden barrel, only to make up for the short board, until the short board is as long as the long board, the barrel can be better filled with water.
In this way, you will find that once the child's grades are biased, parents are very anxious, worried, and anxious, and will try their best to help their children improve their grades, and strive to improve the results of each subject. Before the "double reduction policy", various K12 Xi classes were overcrowded, and the children shuttled between various Xi institutions from the beginning of the year to the end of the year, from weekends to small long vacations. I am afraid that my child's grades will be biased.
Now, due to the implementation of the "double reduction policy", it is not possible to make up Xi classes in a big way, but some will also quietly make up classes or ask for private tutors if conditions permit.
So what's the point?There are probably three of the following situations
1.A very small percentage of children have indeed improved their grades through Xi, and their efforts are visible;
2.A considerable number of children can only submit to the majesty of their parents, passively accepting the well-intentioned arrangements of their parents, but there is almost no change in their grades;
3.There are also some children who directly confront their parents, develop a more serious state of school boredom, and even evolve into some more difficult psychological problems.
However, this principle is anachronistic or rather one-sided when applied to personal growth and children's education. It can only make children lose their own value;Focusing on shortcomings will only make children lose their core competitiveness in future life and work.
Some parents may not agree with my point of view, listen to me.
First, each child has different personality characteristics, talents, hobbies, strengths, personality differences, growth environment, family education, parent-child relationship, parental relationship, etc. Therefore, children's education and training must be different from person to person, and they must be taught according to their aptitude
Second, in each class, there are only some so-called top students who really have outstanding grades, most of which are 70% middle and middle, mediocre and ordinary. There is also a small part of the so-called scumbags. This is the law of society, the law of nature, that is, the way of heaven. Of course, it does not mean that the child's grades are not good for the time being and choose to lie flat, but there are several core problems that parents need to fully understand (which can be understood in other articles).
It is the long-cherished wish of parents to hope that their sons will become dragons and daughters will become phoenixes, and it is understandable, but we cannot regard Jackie Chan and Jackie Chan as a fluke, let alone cultivate and educate children with a speculative mentality.
Third, the barrel principle of education requires children to grow up in an all-round way, but almost the entire society and parents mistakenly believe that it is an all-round development of morality, intelligence, physical fitness, art and labor. The physical fitness and athletic ability of today's children must be visible to the whole society. We have a very intuitive understanding of youth quality growth training camps and military training. Junior high school and high school, especially the graduating class, almost no physical education classes, ** classes, etc., all subjects that block the high school entrance examination have to give way, is this really good?Everyone.
Fourth, the "Warring States Policy" says: The love of parents and their children is far-reaching. Of course, a child's grades are a very important factor, but it is more important to cultivate the child's true ability. There is still a long, long time between knowledge and ability, and what shortens this distance is the reasonable education and guidance of parents. Eagle Quality Education believes that the new barrel principle is truly suitable for children and the real principle for children to win in the future. The so-called new barrel principle: that is, the long board of each barrel is pulled out separately to form a new barrel, and each barrel only needs to lengthen its own long board.
Specific application: Every child has a special advantage (I am born to be useful), and I always believe that every child has the most powerful place. As a parent or education practitioner, we must be good at discovering, discovering and even cultivating children's unique abilities and advantages in a directional way, and then continue to strengthen the cultivation of this advantage until this advantage is cultivated into an irreplaceable trick, proficient and professional. When a child grows up and joins a team, he only needs to form a team of each child's tricks, and this team is the perfect team, that is, the bigger new barrel.
What can adapt to the changes of the future times is the new barrel principle: as long as you have a longboard and make the longboard to the extreme, you will have a foothold and create different life possibilities. In the era of the rise of the individual, you don't need to be a bucket at all, what you have to do is to find your long board, and take your own board that is long enough, and other boards of the same height, to form a new bucket - to show your own strength, and some people who are as good as you, division of labor, to create results. You don't have to know everything, you just need to master it and make the most of it. Therefore, you should pay attention to your child's longboard, rather than struggling with how to make up for your shortcomings every day.
Besides, people have a very limited amount of time in their lives, so why should they focus their precious energy on things that they are not good at?Your child's shortcomings will always be other children's strengths, and when you encounter problems, you can ask these people for help.
After reading this article, I wonder if it has given you a new direction in children's growth and educationI wonder if it has alleviated your anxiety?