Since the demolition of her mother's old house, Lan Xin (pseudonym) has fallen out with her mother's family.
She served her father for 5 years and should have received a share of the property, but her mother refused to give it to her!
On the day she got the house book, her mother was very proud and said: "You are the water that was spilled, there is nothing for you to do, you don't want to take advantage!."”
This is really ugly, what does it mean to reap benefits?
Lan Xin felt very insulted, her face turned red with anger, she was ashamed and angry, and left crying.
As the injured party, of course, Lan Xin couldn't bow her head to her mother, so she chose to treat it coldly, no longer took the initiative to send messages or call ** to her mother, and she didn't go back to her parents' house to visit her mother, and she didn't even show up on her mother's birthday.
Normally, the mother should take the initiative to give her daughter a step down, give her daughter a soft word, say a few kind words, even if she is really unwilling to give her daughter a house, it can't make people so uncomfortable.
However, the mother is also a stubborn temper, and the son persuades her to apologizeBut she said: "Let your sister die outside, love will not come!."”
Fortunately, Lan Xin didn't know that her mother was talking about her behind her back, otherwise she would really have to break off the relationship.
However, after not going home for a long time, Lan Xin was also very disappointed in her mother deep down, graduallyHer mother's home has become a place in her heart that has nothing to do with her, and she no longer recognizes that it is her home.
One weekend half a year later, her son went out to play, her husband went fishing, and Lan Xin watched a drama at home.
When her younger brother Lan Rui (pseudonym) and her sister-in-law suddenly visited, Lan Xin opened the door and saw her brother, feeling like a world away.
In addition to the accident, she also secretly guessed the reason - did her younger brother bring his mother's "holy decree" to tell him that the demolition had nothing to do with him at all?
Lan Xin invited her brother and sister-in-law to sit down, and several people drank tea and greeted each other for a while.
Then, the younger brother took out a paper bag of documents from his backpack and pulled out 3 copies of the real estate deed from it.
Lan Xin's eyelids jumped, and she suddenly became nervous!What does this mean?Could it be that my mother changed her mind and was willing to be nice to herself, and wanted to share her own house to mend the relationship?
Lan Rui said: "Sister, what happened to your father made you tired, and we always felt that what my mother did should not be. This time, the demolition is divided into 3 suites, one for each of our families, and a set for my mother to live in for the elderly, and then sell it for an equal share of money, what do you think?”
When Lan Xin heard this, she was a little happy and a little melancholy.
Obviously, this was her brother's idea, Lan Xin always knew that her brother was a sensible person, and it was normal for him to be able to administer justice, and Lan Xin was very grateful to him.
But at the same time, Lan Xin also understood that this matter had nothing to do with her mother, and her younger brother did not mention her mother at all, indicating that this was completely his own idea, and her mother did not feel guilty because of her partiality.
Lan Xin sighed, and was about to be relieved, after all, her mother's mind was too difficult to change.
She said: "Sister really didn't hurt you in vain, our family is just reasonable for you, you two will have a good life in the future, if you have anything to help, come to sister, as long as sister can help, she will definitely help!."”
After saying this, she couldn't help crying herself.
Lan Rui saw his sister crying, and he didn't feel good in his heart, but he was a filial son and couldn't criticize his mother.
To investigate carefully, Lan Xin's contribution is really a lot5 years ago, my old father suddenly fell ill and paralyzed, and there was no one in the family to take care of him at that time!
Lan Rui was originally studying in a foreign country, and he got married and had children in a foreign country, several hours away from home, and the two of them couldn't come back at all, and the child was also in high school, which was the most critical moment.
As for the old mother, she has back pain and leg pain, and she can't do heavy work at all, how can she have the strength to massage and turn over her wife?
It was Lan Xin who stepped forward and took care of her father.
Her husband is an honest technician, he is also very Buddhist, and he is very willing to spend money on his father-in-law, so the old man has not suffered any grievances in the 5 years he has lived in his daughter's house.
Lan Xin has paid so much for her parents, but her mother doesn't appreciate it at allnot only chilled his daughter's heart, but also made his son angry.
Fortunately, Lan Rui is sober enough, otherwise this incident will become a hurdle that Lan Xin will not be able to get over for the rest of her life, and it has always made her heartbroken.
Since then, the relationship between the sister and brother has become better and better, and the reason of the brother and daughter-in-law has also made the relationship between them closer, and they will get together every New Year's holiday.
Although Lan Xin is still reluctant to go back to her parents' home, she is not as depressed as before.
In fact, the mother of the two siblings is patriarchal, but she is more hidden.
When the sister and brother were growing up, they had no grievances, and the elder sister was not troubled by her mother everywhere, until it was involved in the distribution of her parents' property, and her sister was deeply affected, which hurt her very deeply.
1.A generation has a generation's ideas, and different ideas don't have to be rigidly integrated
In the parents' generation, patriarchy is a common phenomenon, and even in families with better economic conditions, parents are very likely to have hidden patriarchal thoughts.
Lan Xin's mother is such a personThe children were not wronged when they grew up, most of them because their families had good economic conditions.
In this case, the daughter trusts her mother with all her heart and is willing to give to her parents.
Lan Xin is willing to take on the responsibility of serving her paralyzed old father alone, this move is based on her trust and love for her mother's family, and it also shows that she was not wronged when she was growing up.
However, when the hometown was demolished, the mother's choice exposed her true thoughts and crushed her daughter's love for her mother.
The patriarchal thinking of the older generation is so unreasonable many times, obviously everyone does not worry about food and clothing, but parents still choose to favor their sons and do not treat their daughters as their own family, this practice is too stupid!
This is mostly due to traditional thinking and the atmosphere formed by the people around you.
2.It doesn't matter if parents are not sober-minded, the generation of children must be rational
It is often difficult for older parents to change their minds because they are not highly educated enough to think independently.
People in their 70s can't figure it out at all, and if they are asked to sort out their own ideas, they can't tell.
Even if they theorize and find out in the end that both men and women are the same and can earn money by their skills, they will say something in the end"Then I don't care, it's better to have a son anyway."
Therefore, the task of equality between men and women is left to the generation of children.
Children must be sober-minded, because the vast majority of people in modern society do not eat by strength.
In this era when girls can also make a lot of money,Respect your sisters, support them in their Xi and work, and don't suppress or ridicule themThat's what a good family member should do.
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