Life is precious, and we only have one time.
If you don't know how to manage well, when you get old, you will recall the years of your life, and you will be sad because you meet people who don't work hard.
Whether a person is happy mainly depends on two points, the first point is personal choice, whether there are regrets, if it is a person with a clear conscience, even if life is not satisfactory, it has the same meaning for his own existence;
The second point is the choice of partner, married life occupies 2 3 of life, how a woman is in the second half of her life, it is related to herself, but also to the men around her.
Just like Sheng Shulan in "Do You Know" is noble and virtuous, after marrying her husband Sun Xiucai, she naturally has to cherish and love husband and wife, after all, in that era, such a woman was enough to become a qualified wife.
It's a pity that Sun Xiucai has a bad character, as Sheng Minglan said, the lowest level of character is shamelessness, even if Sheng Shulan is married well, she doesn't get preferential treatment. For a woman, the second half of her life is not only up to herself, but also the choice of her partner.
You can't wait until you experience marriage to know what kind of person your partner is, even if the other party is well disguised, there are traces of your true character, and to judge whether this man's character is good or not, it will be clear if you have a meal together.
People with a selfish personality behave like this when they eat:
Eating at the table inevitably needs to take care of everyone's feelings, and the right way is to order when everyone arrives, so as to ensure that everyone present can satisfy their appetite and enjoy a feast.
But there are some men in life who don't care about these things, and only order their favorite dishes to eat, so that the others present look at each other and don't know what to do.
My ex and I had similar awkward moments.
After falling in love, in order to let the friends around them know that they have a boyfriend, they set up a bureau in the name of their boyfriend.
When choosing a location, my boyfriend chose his favorite restaurant that he often went to, which is understandable, as long as everyone can eat happily.
Unexpectedly, before my girlfriend came, my boyfriend began to order by himself, all the heavy tastes were the dishes he liked to eat, without taking into account the needs of others, I kindly reminded that the other party objected: Isn't eating to eat what you like?
It made sense, but I didn't think it was appropriate, and after my girlfriend arrived, I had to place a new order from another, and the party was very embarrassing, and I broke up with my ex not long after.
People who don't know how to care about the needs of others may not be bad, but if they still need time to grow, love needs a mature person to operate, and they need to understand and care for each other, if a man does not have such a consciousness, he will inevitably eat the bitter fruit of love.
Eating at the same table can test a person's character, be able to control their desires in front of their favorite dishes, and share them with everyone, such a person is undoubtedly selfless and willing to have a spirit of cooperation, otherwise, it is another judgment:
It is selfish and undesirable to pile your favorite dish in front of you, regardless of whether others eat it or not.
My best friend once shared with me the story of her and her boyfriend.
The first time I brought my boyfriend home to meet my parents, I thought they were both mature enough to take their relationship to the next level.
The best friend's parents were very enthusiastic and directly invited the boy to eat out, and there was a dish on the table that her boyfriend particularly liked to eat, and as soon as it was served, her boyfriend immediately pulled more than half of it to his plate.
When I got home, my parents immediately objected to the matter between my girlfriend and my boyfriend, and the reason for disagreeing was that my boyfriend behaved impolitely at the dinner table, didn't know how to take care of other people's feelings, and was very selfish.
Even if you can do everything to accommodate before getting married, when the day starts to become dull, you will inevitably ignore your best friend's feelings and let your best friend be wronged.
A man who only cares about his likes and dislikes rarely considers things from the standpoint of others, however, what is needed in marriage is to care about the feelings of his partner in any situation, and if he lacks such ability, he will not be able to get along for a long time.
Eating and sleeping are traditional, but with the change of the times, eating and sleeping have become a way of emotional communication, willing to take into account the feelings of the people around you when eating and sleeping, you can spend time chatting with your partner, communicate often, and it is easier to keep your emotions fresh.
If a person only eats the food in front of him when he eats, does not care about the people at the table, and rarely communicates, it will undoubtedly make others feel uncomfortable, either because of his own personality problems, or because of the lack of etiquette, in short, exposing his personality is not the best choice for a spouse.
I used to have an online relationship, and I chatted very happily, and I felt that my relationship could go further when I chose to run. After meeting, I found that the other party was no different from what I imagined, and I was happy, so I made an appointment to go to dinner together.
Unexpectedly, the boy ordered his favorite **, waited for the food to be served, lowered his head to play with his mobile phone, the food was served, and he ate it, I looked at him with a mouth full of oil as if he hadn't eaten for a long time, and he lost his appetite all of a sudden.
Feeling my eyes, he didn't mind, and casually picked up a piece of meat from the remaining plates and threw it into my bowl, and the like value dropped to 0 in an instant, and we didn't have a follow-up story.
When eating with strangers, you should pay more attention to basic table manners, which are too casual, and it is easy for others to feel uneducated and have a bad character.