In the long passage of time, middle-aged women may suddenly realize that the romance they once fantasized about did not come true, but the reality is a complicated chess game.
As cartoonist ** Yong said:"There is no reason to get married, but you will learn a lot afterwards
After the age of forty, the children are growing up, the husband is busy with his career, and the unspeakable secrets in the marriage are gradually revealed.
At this moment, a woman may no longer be just a wife and mother, she is also an independent individual facing life choices.
The biggest tragedy of a woman over forty is not the failure of marriage, but the loss of these three major retreats.
The first retreat lost - the support of the mother's family
A woman who was abandoned by her mother's family is like wandering when she walks to **The maiden family used to be a strong backing for women in the feudal period.
Parents always say:"The woman who marries out, spills the waterBut in modern society, the status of the mother's family is not as good as before.
The support of her mother's family is an indispensable part of a woman's lifeThe marriage may be stable, but the mother's family is still a strong backing for the woman
If a woman is divorced, her mother's family also has a room for her to settle down.
In the movie "My Grandmother", the heroine returns to her parents' home after the divorce, and despite the hardships of life, her mother's company allows her to find a new beginning.
When a woman's small family is difficult to support, her mother's family is her solid backing.
If a woman loses the support of her mother's family, her life will become adrift, just like losing the strength to support her
The second way out of loss - the troubles of children who are lost
A woman who has raised a loser, no matter how rich she is, can't keep it
Children are the most important support in a woman's life, and when children begin to fail, the pressure in marriage will become enormous.
The spoiled children have little ability to do anything other than ask for money from the family when they grow up
As the ancients said:"A loving mother raises a failed childIf a woman is unable to guide her children properly, it will be difficult to reconcile the ups and downs in life.
A mother's responsibility is not only to give birth to children, but also to shape an independent and responsible child
If the children fail, the mother's life will be hopeless, and the marriage may fall into discord as a result
Between husband and wife, the responsibility for the education of their children is shared, and women should understand this and not let the failure of their children become their biggest tragedy.
The third retreat to lose - the woman who lost herself
The woman who lost herself has no one to love when she whispers
In marriage, a woman's gentleness and concession are expressions of love, but this does not mean that it is okay to keep your voice down and lose your independence
A woman who has always humbly loved a man will only contribute to the arrogance of the man
Women are soft, but they should also know how to overcome rigidity with softness.
If a woman loses her dignity, it will be difficult to maintain a healthy relationship, even if she is loved.
To quote a quote from writer Zhang Ailing:"Like a person, you will be humbled to the dust, and then blossomThis statement is not entirely true, a woman's humility only fuels a man's arrogance.
Women should retain a share of their dignity and leave a way out for themselves, not always ready for divorce, but the more they live, the more confident they are.
Self-awareness
In middle age, a woman needs to start thinking about the rest of her lifeThere are too many unknowns in marriage, and fate is always up and down.
Women must take it upon themselves and don't hand over the power to others
Walk around with your mother's family more and leave the feelings of your brothers and sisters;Know how to be filial to your parents, don't treat yourself as an outsider.
Educate your children well, spur them to be independent as soon as possible, and have the ability to support a small family.
Live with dignity, don't rely on others for your fate, and don't live like a vase.
Leaving yourself a way out is not to be ready for divorce at all times, but to live more and more confidently
A smart woman who works and earns money while running a houseEven if you have tens of millions of assets in your marriage, you can't sit back and enjoy it.
Although you don't make a lot of money, you can spend it generously, so that even if there is a change in your marriage, you can stay away from hunger
A family cannot always be inferior. Husbands and wives are equal, and women are dignified.
When people reach middle age, they should start thinking about the rest of their lives, and don't wait until they are sixty years old to find themselves empty-handed
There are too many unknowns in marriage, and time can push us forward inadvertently.
When a woman is middle-aged, she should no longer be just a simple wife and mother, but an independent individual who thinks about the rest of her life.
Middle-aged women, like captains in life, hold their own rudders
In the ocean of marriage, don't get lost in the tide, and don't completely block your retreat.
The support of the mother's family, the correct guidance of the children, and the preservation of their dignity are the three major retreats of women in middle age
Let us stop leaving our fate to others, but live more confidently and independently in the process of thinking about the rest of our lives.
Life is like sailing, middle-aged women are their own captains, and it is up to them to decide where to sail
Regardless of the tragedy of the past, the future is still the story of our own control, so that we can meet a new start in life with a stronger and more independent attitude in middle age.
Because of women, if someone loves them, they cherish them, and if they don't love them, they love themselves