Who is the hottest this year?
Dong Yuhui is definitely on the list, and now he has not only become a senior partner of Oriental Selection, but also serves as the vice president of New Oriental Cultural Tourism.
In fact, before he had such results, he also had a long time of anxiety.
At that time, he was not famous, there were not many people in the live broadcast room, and no one bought goods, and the comment area was full of complaints about Dong Yuhui's appearance.
During that time, Dong Yuhui felt lost for a while, and even wanted to give up the live broadcast and find a new job as a teacher.
He sold goods live during the day, and at night, he couldn't sleep with anxiety, and ran around Zhongguancun alone in the middle of the night.
This state of affairs lasted for a long time, until one day he complained to his colleague, who said, "You tell your students all day long that you can find hope in despair, and your life will be brilliant in the end." Then why do you say so much truth, but you can't do it yourself?”
Dong Yuhui suddenly realized that he chose to continue to stick to his post, and a few months later, he exploded on the Internet.
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In fact, only by surviving the moment when no one cares about it and holding back the anxiety in his heart can a person reach the peak of life and usher in the spring blossoms.
Dong Yuhui once said:"Pain is right, anxiety is right, the essence of pain is your dissatisfaction with the status quo, and the nature of anxiety is that you grow too slowly. ”
Therefore, instead of falling into mental internal friction, it is better to choose to face anxiety and be the master of emotions.
Anxiety is a litmus test in life.
The essence of a person's anxiety: not being able to keep their own rhythm
Have you ever found that most of life's anxiety comes from comparisons.
Because if there is a comparison, there will be a gap, and if there is a gap, there will be troubles.
The more you compare yourself to others, the more likely you are to be anxious.
My friend Lolo is a particularly anxious person.
When her colleague finished her work one step ahead of her, she panicked and quickly crackled on the keyboard to end today's work
When her friends bought a house and a car, she lost sleep for several nights, and finally took out a loan to buy a car regardless of her financial strength
Seeing that others had an annual salary of one million because of job hopping, she was anxious about her future, worked for 5 years, and changed several jobs, but the salary became lower and lower......
In the end, not only did she not do her job well, but she also had a debt of more than 100,000 yuan.
In the final analysis, Luo Luo disrupted his rhythm in the comparison with others again and again, resulting in nothing in the end.
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In fact, everyone has their own unique shining point, you envy other people's high salary, and others envy your leisure ......
Therefore, we don't need to envy others, let alone compare ourselves with others, because what you have, others may not have.
As Mo Yan once said in "The Late Bloomer":"I used to be anxious that I didn't have a good life with my friends, so I kept imitating and chasing others, and finally I was exhausted. In fact, there is no need to compare in life, keep your own rhythm, move forward step by step, life will slowly become clear, and your life will be envied by others. ”
Anxiety, in the final analysis, is not keeping your own rhythm.
Zhang Songwen, who became popular this year because of "Hurricane", has been filming for many years, and he didn't become famous until he was 46 years old, and he finally waited for his own time zone;
Chu Shijian planted Chu oranges at the age of 75 and made a comeback, he said that he had experienced decades, and when he entered his seventies and eighties, he was a little patient.
Instead of being anxious about other people's lives, it is better to grasp your own pace.
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Your anxiety and pain are the driving force for life's counterattack
In this life, people will encounter countless problems, and they will often have anxiety.
It seems that every age has a corresponding anxiety:
Teenage years, anxious about schoolwork;In his twenties, anxious about work and getting married;In his thirties, anxious about the house of the child;Forty-something, anxious and unemployed;In his fifties, he was anxious to care for the elderly and see a doctor.
Most people's lives are spent busy and busy with one new anxiety after another.
In fact, the impact of anxiety depends on how you look at it.
If you think that anxiety is positive, then it will motivate you to change yourself more positively and make your life go more and more smoothly;
If you think that anxiety is negative, the anxiety will spread infinitely and your life will gradually spiral out of control.
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In a speech, Dong Yuhui shared a story:
When he was in college, there were only two boys in the class, and the other boy needed to take a leave of absence all year round because of poor health.
So, as the only boy in the class, whenever the English teacher asked a boy, he consciously stood up and answered.
But Dong Yuhui was born in the countryside and speaks English very badly. Every time he finished answering, the whole class burst into laughter, and he could only sit in his seat with an embarrassed face and look at the teacher in embarrassment.
At that time, the English teacher commented on his spoken language: "Dong Yuhui, I can clearly hear from your accent that your hometown is **."
During that time, he was very anxious when he was a child. But in order to change the situation, he worked hard every day to practice his listening and speaking.
Later, the teacher asked him to answer the question.
After he answered this time, no one in the class laughed at him, and even the teacher expressed amazement at his progress.
So, the best way to get rid of anxiety is to face it head-on.
Think, only difficult;Do it, there is an answer.
What you are anxious about, you should do, and you should seriously solve the problem, not worry about it.
If you are afraid of studying, you will study, if you are afraid of work, you will work, and if you are afraid of something, you will solve something.
Even if it's a little smaller, you just have to go in the direction you want to go, and just go all the way.
Even if you fail in the end, it's better than staying where you are every day, pacing back and forth anxiously, but not daring to take a step forward.
The more powerful the person, the more they will take advantage of anxiety
Powerful people are often anxious.
They often take the initiative to put themselves in an existential crisis, forcing themselves to become masters.
Ren Zhengfei is a person who is anxious all the time, and even his business philosophy is the philosophy of suffering management.
Not only is he anxious, but he also transmits this sense of anxiety and insecurity to everyone at Huawei.
When Meng Wanzhou was trapped in Canada, someone once asked Ren Zhengfei: "Your daughter is trapped in Canada, and some large international companies are sanctioning Huawei, is it the most dangerous time for Huawei?"”
After listening to this, he replied calmly: "I don't think this time is the most dangerous time for Huawei, but the best time for Huawei." ”
Then he said: "When Huawei was growing the fastest, everyone made money. I feel that this team is slacking off and lazy, and this team no longer has the will to fight back then. But when Meng Wanzhou was stranded in Canada, I felt that the spirit of Huawei had returned. ”
Therefore, really powerful people can always realize the crisis at the first time, and then take the initiative to let themselves stay in an uncomfortable circle and constantly break the circle.
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At the age of 35, it was the first period of a person's career development, but now, it has become a mid-life crisis for many people.
In the Internet giants, countless middle-aged people are dismissed every year. They have a glorious resume in the past, but they are repeatedly rejected because of their age.
There is a classic line in the movie "The Shawshank Redemption": "Danger is a fact, fear is a choice." ”
No one can escape a midlife crisis.
At this time, we need to learn to live with anxiety rather than eliminate it.
Turn this anxiety into motivation and let yourself have irreplaceable abilities.
If you are worried about losing your job, then enrich yourself and improve your ability;
If you are worried about your child's future, then learn to guide your child from now on and be a role model for your child.
After all, life is a marathon, not a 100-meter race, and moments of anxiety are just a rest stop in the journey where you can continue to set off with a full tank of fuel.
Dong Yuhui once said: "Awesome people never make too much preparation, start first and then adjust their breathing, take off first and then adjust their posture." ”
Don't always be anxious, run first.
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Li Shanglong once said: "We seem to be busy, but in fact we are anxious. So how do you beat anxiety?The best way to beat anxiety is to do the things that make you anxious. ”
I think so. Anxiety can be scary, but the adepts tend to take advantage of it.
Constantly improve your level of coping with anxiety and constantly tap your potential to achieve a better version of yourself.
At this stage, you will have a magical power, and without supervision, you will work hard to cross high mountains and then climb higher peaks.
As the saying goes, what can't kill you will eventually make you stronger.
May we live with anxiety and learn to use it to become a better version of ourselves.
Author: Ji Xiaonian.