Our marriage was once so happy, as if the sun was shining on every corner. My husband and I met in college, and we fell in love and got married. But soon after we got married, my mother suddenly asked me to give her 3,000 yuan a month for living expenses, citing her lack of money.
At first, I didn't care. As a daughter, I owe it to my parents. However, as time went on, my husband began to question my "household expenses". As a result, we had an argument, and our happy marriage was in jeopardy.
When explaining to my husband, my mom insisted that it was the way it should be, and that she needed the money for her living expenses. I started to find myself in a dilemma and couldn't choose. The husband is extremely disappointed by this, believing that marriage should be based on trust and understanding, rather than fission due to external pressure.
To solve the problem, I started digging deeper, trying to find out why my mom needed the money. In my conversation with my mother, I learned some shocking facts. It turned out that her early investment failures had led to financial crisis, and her request was to make up for the losses.
When he told his husband the truth, his anger and disappointment reached their peak. He thinks that I should have told him sooner rather than hide the facts. The cracks in our marriage widened, and we were in an irreparable situation.
Caught between mom and husband, I felt exhausted. I knew I had a tough choice to make. Do you choose to support your mother, or do you choose to maintain your marriage?
In a late-night conversation, my mom and husband expressed their bottom lines at the same time. My mom insisted that she needed the money, and my husband insisted that he couldn't accept such a marriage. In the moment when tears blurred my eyes, I made a decision.
The haze of divorce hangs over my life, but I don't choose to stand still. Starting anew, I worked hard and hoped to improve my life through my own efforts. But in the bottom of my heart, I still feel the pain of the breakdown of my marriage and the self-blame for my past choices.
Time flies, and one day, I decided to sit down with my mom again and talk about the problems between us. I wanted to understand why she needed the money so badly and if there was any other solution. This time, we were open and honest with each other, and the communication between mother and daughter seemed to have eased somewhat.
In my conversation with my mother, I learned that she was investing out of concern for my future. She wanted to be able to provide me with a better life, but it backfired. At this moment, I understood her distress and felt guilty about my decision.
Mom also began to reflect on her past choices and realized that her decisions may have weighed heavily on my marriage with my husband. She apologized deeply for this and expressed her understanding and support for me. I was relieved by all this, and the relationship between mother and daughter gradually repaired.
After coming out of the gloom of my marriage, I re-examined my purpose in life. I decided to focus more on my career and learn to manage family relationships better. Perhaps, the twists and turns of life have made me stronger, and I have also learned to cherish the happiness in front of me.
I have learned a lot and grown a lot through the twists and turns of my marriage and family experience. Perhaps, everyone will experience different ups and downs in life, but the key is how we face and cope. To start over is not to forget the past, but to face the future with a more mature mindset. I believe that there will be better times waiting for me in the future, and I will be stronger to face the ups and downs of life.