9 year old son who is tired of school, collapsed mother, and 1 noble man crossed us

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A mother who has collapsed for many years for her children's education, how did she make her whole family happy through heart cultivation?Let's listen to the story of Yuxia:

Hello everyone, my name is Yuxia, when I wrote this article, my heart was extremely emotional, because the previous 10 years have experienced all kinds of ups and downs, and I will share my bitter journey as a mother.

I used to be a very irritable and irritable mother, my husband was a truck driver, he went out early and returned late, every day was very hard, every time he came home, I complained to him about how bad my son was, the child was disobedient, didn't want to go to school, didn't do homework.

At that time, I was very resentful when I saw my mother-in-law every day, thinking that she only thought about playing mahjong every day, and did not do housework or help with the children, and often had quarrels with my mother-in-law.

As for my children, I am even more miserable.

Let me share how my 9-year-old son tortured me to death.

Once my son sat there and didn't do his homework, I couldn't help beating him up because of my short temper, and I cried and beat him, thinking that this child was too annoying and grinding.

I worked hard to raise him and let him study hard, but he just wouldn't do his homework.

The situation in our house basically every night is:

I was so sleepy that I went to bed and stopped accompanying my son to do his homework, but my son sat stupidly and sat until more than 2 o'clock in the morning, and when I woke up and found that he still hadn't written a word, I was angry again and beat him again.

Once, when the school started, the new schoolbag and book cover were not wrapped properly, so he lost control of his emotions and tore up the new books directly.

When I saw that this kid had torn up all the new books, it was incorrigible, and there was no hope for anything in my life.

As a mother, I didn't want to buy him books, I thought that this child was useless, what to learn, what to learn, the books were torn, and this attitude was like this for the rest of my life.

Then he told the child's father what happened, and the child's father was even more annoyed when he heard it, saying that he couldn't learn well in this school and went to a private school directly.

Later, I asked someone to transfer my son to another school, and when I was transferring, the teacher called me to the school and said that the child had taken money from his classmates.

I didn't believe it at the time, and then I repeatedly pressed the child and scared him into sending you to the police station if you didn't tell the truth.

That's it.,The child still didn't say anything.,Later, the teacher let me see the ** he shot.,It's the morning when the teacher asks the child.,The child admitted that he took the money to buy things with his classmates.。

Here's the thing, student A should give the money back to student B, but student A didn't want to return it to student B, and he saw that student B had put the money in the hole in his desk, so he encouraged my son to take it out and buy something to eat together.

My son really took it, and I now reflect that I only cared about grades and did not educate my children's character to let my children have this kind of evil behavior.

The child's father does not have a good word for the child, as soon as he opens his mouth, you are wasted, you are finished, and there is no hope.

As a result, the child's father felt that the child had no merit.

Originally, the child's father worked hard every day to support his family, but as a wife, I didn't create a warm little home for him, and I disliked him for lying down and not working, complaining about the hard work of taking care of the child, and venting his grievances.

Our whole family is in this state of negative energy, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is tense, the relationship between husband and wife is to look at each other and hate each other, and the parent-child relationship is "enemies".

Later, I tried to transfer my child to a private school, and then I was even more devastated, and my child's Xi grades plummeted, and he couldn't keep up with the class.

I was often criticized by the teacher, and I finally stayed up after class to play with my classmates, but I was sued by my classmates to the teacher because of the fight.

I really don't know how to face the teacher, and the most I say is:

The child's foundation is poor, please ask the teacher to take care of it.

Our family lived like this every day, staying up until one or two o'clock in the morning, three or four o'clock in the morning.

I also know that I can't beat my child, and I can't always nag my child's father, but I feel uncomfortable, sometimes I lock myself up, beat myself, and slap myself.

I was so uncomfortable, I hated it so much, I hated myself for being incompetent, and I couldn't even teach my children well.

My son's grades have been declining under the pressure of school and me, and sometimes there are basically blank papers in a class paper.

Mathematics will also be for him, so why not write it?

In fact, it is the child who has no strength and no motivation to write.

Eventually, the child got tired of school, and he didn't go to school at all, and several times I sent him to the school gate, and he just stood at the door with his head down, and I wanted to kneel down and beg him to go to school, but he just didn't go to school.

I discussed with the child's father that it would not be possible to go on like this, let alone talk about the Xi of school, and the child's mind would not be healthy.

Pity the hearts of parents all over the world, going back and forth to change schools, it's really a toss-up.

Isn't it really too painful for everyone to listen to me tell the story of our family?

Next, I would like to share with you how our family came to life

In fact, in recent years, I have been paying attention to the knowledge of parenting, and I accidentally got acquainted with the family education course, and I studied family education for 2 years before.

Because of many reasons, I can't absorb and apply the course content well to life, and I can't practice it in life.

Because of my own inertia, I lay flat and didn't want to study, feeling that this life was like this, and my life was like this.

I added them to WeChat, chatted with them, and in May, a senior recommended Mr. Shuxi's trial course.

I really didn't listen to it at the time, and my anxiety made me feel that it was useless to learn anything, so I stopped, stopped learning Xi, and lay down, and my son was like that.

Later, I saw that the little friend in the group shared his transformation story, so I chatted with them, and I added Star Senior, Fire Phoenix Senior, and Aoxue Hanmei several seniors.

I tried to help me through chat, but they all recommended Mr. Shuxi's class with me.

In fact, I didn't want to learn Xi in my life, but so many classmates recognized this teacher, and these classmates were really reborn, and the family and education were so good, I was moved.

I want to be like them, with a happy little family, well-behaved, sensible and studious children, who no longer suffer every day.

Later, I chatted with Sister Aoxue, and she kept encouraging me:

Don't give up on yourself and your child, the child is still so young, give yourself a chance, you understand my experience, I can empathize with your pain, your son's situation is exactly the same as my son's.

After listening to the ** course, my heart that has been irritable for many years has calmed down a lot, and many obsessions in my heart have been solved.

I've learned:

Everything is empty, but cause and effect are not empty.

A mother in pain can't raise a happy child.

Education is not about yelling, scolding, or blaming, but about awakening children through probation, so that children can feel love, and children are taught to love first.

Cultivate children's gratitude, humility, respect, responsibility, altruism, tolerance, kindness, and compassion.

I bought the course on August 20 and have been studying it for more than 3 months now, now let's talk about the changes in our family during this time.

After entering the training camp, I obediently did as I was told, and strictly followed the guidance of Teacher Shuxi.

First of all, I was much more patient, and when I understood that the energy of parents determines the energy of children, I vowed not to hit children again.

Then I was much more stable and soft-spoken to my child, and when I was gentle with my child, I found that he was willing to talk to me.

The first thing I said when I received my child after school was no longer to ask about Xi, but to talk to him about what happened at school, ask him about what he was happy about today, and if not, then talk about what he was unhappy about.

I am willing to listen to my children no matter what they say, and when I learn to listen, my children have changed a lot.

For example, in the past, if he said which way to go, he would lose his temper and be very emotional, but now if I go over, I say what should I do, son, and he will say then let's go this way.

And the child also met a very good teacher, very responsible, here I really want to thank Teacher Shuxi.

But I didn't know how to communicate with my child's teacher, so when I was desperate, I went to consult Teacher Shuxi.

It was Teacher Shuxi who taught me how to communicate with the children's teachers and how to ask the children's teachers to encourage the children.

Because of this, when the child's teacher understands the child's situation, there is no yelling, only encouragement, and with the teacher's encouragement, the child's learning Xi advances by leaps and bounds.

From more than 20 points in the mathematics test when I first entered the school, to now I have scored more than 80 points in several units above 70 points.

Since I practiced meditation, my child's homework has never been as good as before, and my son is making progress every day.

I couldn't have imagined this before, and I thought I'd be like this for the rest of my life.

I am grateful for the teachings of Teacher Shuxi, and I am grateful for the guidance of Sister Aoxue, if it were not for Teacher Shuxi, I would not have been able to awaken at all.

Thinking back to the past, I was really too ignorant and ignorant, obviously I was selfish and resentful, but I blamed my husband all day long, complained about my mother-in-law, and yelled at my children.

As a result, the whole family was restless, and he felt more wronged than Dou E.

really responded to what Mr. Shuxi said:A mother in pain can't raise a happy child.

After cultivating my mind with Teacher Shuxi, as my personality became softer and more tolerant, I became more and more grateful.

I am filial to my in-laws bit by bit to be a grateful example for my children, sympathetic to my husband, let him work with peace of mind, and as I change, my two children are becoming more and more grateful.

And all this changed because after I learned Xi with Teacher Shuxi, I woke up, and then led the whole family to change.

I know that there are too many mothers like me who have broken their hearts for their children, and even lost their heads, I have also suffered your hardships, and I have tasted your grievances.

I use my experience to tell you:

Parents are the roots, and children are the fruits. You cut off the roots, can this tree be good?Can it grow fruit?

I used to think about how family education teaches children, but after listening to Teacher Shuxi's mind training camp, I knew:Children are our teachers, and children are here to be parents.

We see that the problems in the children are nothing more than the shortcomings of the parents.

The child is the copy, the parents are the original, we don't change the original, just changing the copy really has no effect.

I hope my story will be helpful to you, and I look forward to us learning and Xi with Teacher Shuxi, and I am grateful to the "benefactor" Teacher Shuxi who saved me and my children!

Relief from worries

Painful mothers can't raise happy children, and parents must first get their temper and character done before they want to educate their children.