The wonderful costume drama ".Know it or notIn it, the plot of Minglan returning to the door has given us a lot of inspiration and wisdom. When Minglan first married Gu Tingye, because of his troubles, Minglan was tired and tired every day. Cui's mother noticed Minglan's condition, so she discussed with Fang's mother to ask the old lady if there was any good way. However, after hearing Fang's mother's relay, the old lady could only shake her head, she felt sorry for Minglan but couldn't meddle in the private affairs of her daughters-in-law. When Minglan returned to the door, her grandmother asked euphemistically: Uncle, how are you treated?Minglan replied: "It's good", and then the grandfather and grandson exchanged some household matters, and the old lady explained some precautions for Minglan in the house. In the end, the old lady told Minglan that husband and wife should not get along too virtuously, virtuous is just a superficial thing, and if you really do it all according to virtuous standards, you may regret it for the rest of your life. Because a man is your support for half your life, even if you don't like him, catch him and don't give other women any chance. Don't put up a high shelf, even if your husband doesn't put a lot of effort into it, have the ability to catch him. The essence of the old lady's words can be summarized as follows.
First of all, virtuous is not your hole card, and you will be defeated miserably by virtue of virtue alone. In ancient times, virtuous was always regarded as the first criterion for a good wife, and even women themselves agreed and always moved closer to the direction of virtuousness. If a woman is not virtuous, both family members and outsiders will worry that she will not be able to find her in-laws in the future. For example, Pin Lan, the granddaughter of the Sheng family's big house, is very lively and does things that less traditional women should do, but she lives happily and is not disliked because she is not virtuous. On the contrary, her sister Shulan is very virtuous, but after marriage, she endured the sarcasm of her in-laws and had no children for three years. Her virtuousness was not valued by the other party, but was bullied even more by the other party. Therefore, virtuousness must appear alongside other qualities, such as virtuousness and wisdom, so that you can know how to protect yourself;Virtuous and temperamental, able to turn the other cheek when your interests are violated;Virtuous and edged, so that you can be inMarriageto maintain independence and dignity.
Secondly, grabbing the heart of a husband is not an easy thing to do, and it may even be a lifetime thing. Whether you like your husband or not, as long as he is the object of your choice, try to catch him. This is not to be his slave, but to guarantee his own interests and dignity. Your husband is your lifelong dependence, and his good or bad for you directly affects your quality of life. So even if you don't like him, try to make him treat you well and not give other women any chance. This requires a certain amount of wisdom and skill, not to put on a high shelf, but to take the initiative to get close to him, understand his needs, and manage your with your heartMarriage
In the end, the old lady told Minglan that even if you become a virtuous wife, don't do it all according to virtuous standards. This is because virtuousness is not perfect and does not solve all the problems you face, it is just a superficial thing. If you are too virtuous, you may lose yourself and you may regret it for the rest of your life. So, don't take virtue too seriously, maintain your personality and independent thinking, and don't give up your principles and bottom line in order to please others.
In short, the plot of Minglan returning to the door gives us someMarriageWisdom and inspiration in life. MarriageIt is a complex relationship that requires the efforts and wisdom of both parties to operate. Virtuous is justMarriageIn some cases, other qualities are equally important, while maintaining one's own independence and dignity. Whether you like your husband or not, try to capture his heart and work for your own benefit and happiness. BecauseMarriageIt's a lifelong thing, and you can't give up your principles and bottom line because you're virtuous.