Yang Lei appeared on the stage of the Spring Festival Gala for the 8th time in 2004, and cooperated with Guo Donglin and Guo Da to perform the sketch "Good People Are Not Discounted", which brought joy to Chinese people around the world.
Yang Lei was on her way home, and after the performance, she received a ** from her husband Dai Zhicheng.
Yang Lei mistakenly thought that her husband was eagerly waiting for her to come home for a reunion, with a happy smile on her face. However, Dai Zhicheng's words instantly made her heart fall like ice: "Let's divorce!."”
Yang Lei felt completely lost, she couldn't believe her ears. On this day of family reunion, his own home is actually going to break down?
She asked reluctantly, "Why is that?"”
Dai Zhicheng said indifferently: "You are a wonderful woman, and I am not a bad person. However, good women and men together do not necessarily make a good couple ......”
Yang Lei didn't know at the time that Dai Zhicheng had fallen in love with another person.
The two divorced 22 days later. In addition, half a year later, Dai Zhicheng and Yang Lei's close friend and Hou Yaowen's ex-wife Yuan Yin got married.
Betrayed by both her lover and friend, Yang Lei could not bear the blow and fell into depression, her face was covered with dark spots, and her career was in jeopardy.
19 years have passed quietly, how is Yang Lei living now?
Yang Lei was born in 1963 in an ordinary family in Xi'an, Shaanxi, and has 3 older sisters, she is the youngest child. As a child, she became interested in acting after watching a movie.
Yang Lei was successfully admitted to the Gansu Provincial Drama Theater in 1981 with her outstanding performance, and then entered the Xi'an Drama Theater three years later, becoming one of the youngest and most potential actors in the theater.
Yang Lei is highly regarded by the leaders here, and she has starred in outstanding drama works such as "Gold", "White Rain" and "Yue Fei", which are deeply loved by the audience and recognized by industry insiders.
In the drama troupe, Guo Da is a professional actor for the male lead, while Yang Lei almost always plays the female lead. They often perform dramas together, and they have a tacit understanding.
Yang Lei and her partner Guo Da won the first prize in the professional group at the first Shaanxi Provincial Drama Sketch Grand Prix in 1987 with the play "In Front of the Delivery Room".
At that time, it happened to be Mr. Zhao Lianjia of ** TV station, who was there to select the program of the Spring Festival Gala.
When I saw the sketch "In Front of the Delivery Room", I felt that the performance was very exciting, so I finally decided to arrange this sketch on the stage of the 87 Spring Festival Gala.
After the Spring Festival Gala, Yang Lei won the recognition of the national audience with her witty and humorous performance. On the plane back to Xi'an, many passengers recognized her at a glance and warmly referred to her as "Chunfang" or "Liangfen".
In that era when there was a lack of comedy actresses, Yang Lei dared to pretend to be ugly and had no idol baggage, so she quickly became a well-deserved sketch queen.
Yang Lei was the first female sketch actor to appear on the stage of the Spring Festival Gala, when Song Dandan, Cai Ming and Gao Xiumin had not yet become famous.
In 1988, Yang Lei appeared on the stage of the Spring Festival Gala again and cooperated with Guo Da to perform the sketch "It is Difficult for Qing Officials to Decide Family Affairs", which was also warmly welcomed by the national audience.
Yang Lei then performed "Changing Rice", "Little Nine Old Music", "Riverside Rendezvous", "Three and a Half Sentences", "Looking for Focus", "Dream Fulfillment", "Good People Don't Discount" and other programs at the Spring Festival Gala, New Year's Day and Lantern Festival Gala.
Every year on Chinese New Year's Eve, audiences across the country will stay in front of the TV, eagerly waiting for Yang Lei's sketch performance.
It's a pity that Yang Lei disappeared from the TV screen after acting in "Good People Don't Discount" in 2004.
Many people are curious, why does Yang Lei no longer come out to act in sketches?
It was all about her failed marriage.
During the rehearsal of the Spring Festival Gala in 1988, Yang Lei met Dai Zhicheng, who was still an unknown junior in the cross talk industry at that time.
During rehearsals, Yang Lei was able to meet with Dai Zhicheng almost every day. Dai Zhicheng is humorous and funny, he always takes the initiative to chat with Yang Lei, the two get along very well and soon become friends.
Dai Zhicheng was born in Tianjin, three years older than Yang Lei. Although there has been no one in the quyi industry in the family for generations, in Tianjin, the birthplace of cross talk, Dai Zhicheng has had a soft spot for this art since he was a child.
When I was 7 years old, I appeared on the cross talk stage with my classmate Liu Huan.
After graduating from junior high school, Dai Zhicheng joined the Tianjin Quyi Troupe and received the guidance of the famous cross talk artist Li Boxiang, and began his professional cross talk career.
After the Spring Festival Gala performance, Dai Zhicheng did not become popular. However, this did not affect the relationship between him and Yang Lei, and the two often met when performing with the troupe.
They gradually became good friends who talked about everything, and this was after a period of interaction.
In view of the conditions at the time, Yang Lei did not look down on Dai Zhicheng, so the two did not develop into a couple.
Dai Zhicheng always jokingly said to Yang Lei: "You have a successful career now, you should seize the opportunity to find a partner." Be careful, when you're older, no one will want it!”
With a serious attitude, Dai Zhicheng once introduced a person to Yang Lei, but Yang Lei said that she was busy with work and had no time to find a love partner.
Unfortunately, in the end, it was not realized, and in the blink of an eye, Yang Lei was almost 30 years old and was still alone.
Dai Zhicheng has also been single, what a coincidence. The friends around me thought the two of them were a good match, so they matched them together.
In the end, Dai Zhicheng bravely took a big step forward and took the initiative to pursue Yang Lei.
Yang Lei actually doesn't want to find an insider, she hopes to find someone who is about 10 years older than herself, more mature and stable.
Yang Lei was moved by Dai Zhicheng's sincerity.
Dai Zhicheng married 37-year-old Yang Lei in 1997.
They have always had a good relationship after marriage, and Yang Lei actively used her interpersonal relationships to fully support Dai Zhicheng's career development.
Jiang Kun found Dai Zhicheng as his regular partner, and the two became frequent guests of the CCTV Spring Festival Gala, and also won the "Outstanding Actor Award" issued by the Ministry of Culture.
However, Dai Zhicheng did not neglect Yang Lei in the slightest because he became famous. In the eyes of outsiders, Yang Lei and Dai Zhicheng are definitely a model couple with great affection.
Every day, Dai Zhicheng prepares warm water and squeezes toothpaste before Yang Lei washes so that she can brush her teeth.
Yang Lei, a native of Xi'an, loves all kinds of noodles such as meat buns, while Dai Zhicheng Xi hard in order to pursue food, and cook Xi'an's special cuisine in pure fire.
For many years, the two have been married but have never had children, and Dai Zhicheng has taken care of Yang Lei as his daughter. Every time, I will use the title of "baby, baby" to call Yang Lei.
Yang Lei lived a carefree life during the years when she was pampered by Dai Zhicheng. Because Dai Zhicheng once assured her: "No matter what you become, I love you deeply." ”
Everyone thinks: "Those who are favored have a fearless self-confidence." ”
The same is true for Yang Lei, Dai Zhicheng has never made her anxious about her appearance, so she eats as much as she wants, resulting in her weight increasing to more than 160 pounds at one point.
Dai Zhicheng never mentioned Yang Lei's figure, and Yang Lei took it for granted that no matter what she became, her husband would always support her.
Yang Lei sighed: "In those years when we were together, he really cared for me. I was so happy that I felt like the happiest woman in the world. ”
I used to think that all women could get divorced, but I definitely wouldn't!
In 2003, Yang Lei found that Dai Zhicheng did not seem to care about her as much as before, and often quarreled with her over trivial matters. She didn't think much about it, mistakenly thinking that this was the so-called "seven-year itch", and it was natural that she would be emotionally tired.
In the 2004 Spring Festival Gala, she didn't expect that after performing "Good People Don't Discount", there would be an unexpected beginning.
Yang Lei was confused, she didn't understand why Dai Zhicheng abandoned her so ruthlessly. Does he really have another woman out there?
Yang Lei thought left and right, and the shadow of a person suddenly appeared in her mind, but she immediately ruled out this terrible thought.
There's a difference between them, so there's no way he's going to do something like this!
The person Yang Lei has in mind is not someone else, but her close friend Yuan Yin, who is the wife of the famous cross talk artist Hou Yaowen.
Hou Yaowen's second wife was Yuan Yin, and he gave birth to an eldest daughter with his first wife, Liu Yan, but eventually divorced due to a long separation between the two places.
In 1993, the original heroine could not continue to star in "Special Police" for various reasons, and at this time actor Wang Kuirong recommended Yuan Yin, who had just graduated from Beijing Film Academy.
In the play, Yuan Yin and Hou Yaowen have a lot of rivalry scenes. Due to the age difference of 20 years, Hou Yaowen has the attitude of promoting the younger generations and cares for Yuan Yin very much.
Yuan Yin quickly fell in love with him after the filming, and the two soon fell in love.
Although Yuan Yin's parents firmly opposed her dating a man with a big age difference and did not agree to their marriage, Yuan Yin still secretly took out her household registration book and got married to Hou Yaowen.
The wood is already in the boat, and Yuan Yin's parents can only accept this fact.
After marriage, Yuan Yin was favored by Hou Yaowen, and even if she didn't work, Hou Yaowen was able to ensure that she lived a decent life.
In 1998, after Yuan Yin gave birth to her daughter, Hou Yaowen took more considerate care of their mother and daughter, and never treated them badly financially.
Unfortunately, due to the needs of work, Hou Yaowen often needs to perform in various places, and he cannot always be with his family, which makes him feel guilty.
Hou Yaowen and Dai Zhicheng are neighbors in the same community, and in terms of generation, Hou Yaowen is Dai Zhicheng's elder. Out of this relationship, Hou Yaowen entrusted his wife and daughter to Dai Zhicheng and Yang Lei to take care of.
It is hoped that when Yuan Yin is not at home, if she encounters any difficulties, the couple can lend a hand.
Yang Lei was kind-hearted and agreed without hesitation.
Since then, Yuan Yin and Dai Zhicheng have often gone to take care of and visit Hou Yaowen in his absence. Over time, Yang Lei and Yuan Yin formed a deep friendship that they talked about everything.
Hou Yaowen never imagined at that time that the actions he took to love his wife would play a role in luring wolves into the house, so that Dai Zhicheng could strike first.
Yang Lei later realized that her husband Dai Zhicheng was particularly concerned about Yuan Yin's affairs, and rushed over almost as soon as he needed it.
Yang Lei also realized that there was something unusual about the situation, but she didn't pay too much attention to it. She always thought that the two were far apart in age after all, and although Yuan Yin was still young, she was Dai Zhicheng's aunt after all, and it was impossible for her to behave improperly.
It wasn't until Dai Zhicheng filed for divorce from Yang Lei that Yang Lei suddenly understood.
Dai Zhicheng has always been very good to her, so Yang Lei is reluctant to divorce, after all, "one day husband and wife for one hundred days".
She asked her friend Li Jindou to mediate, hoping to persuade Dai Zhicheng to change his mind. However, Li Jindou told her: "Sister, there is no hope." I think he's gone mad and his heart has changed completely. ”
Yang Lei looked at Dai Zhicheng, who had made up her mind, as if she had never met him. The man has completely lost his sanity ......
Dai Zhicheng's next actions once again changed Yang Lei's opinion of him.
22 days later, Dai Zhicheng and Yang Lei filed for divorce and received a divorce certificate, ending their seven-year marriage.
On the day Dai Zhicheng received the certificate, he moved all his belongings, and even the mop was not left to Yang Lei.
Soon after, Yuan Yin and Hou Yaowen also ended their marriage and formed a new husband and wife with Dai Zhicheng.
Yang Lei fell into deep depression because she could not bear the despair caused by the double betrayal of her lover and best friend. Despite the rush in her heart, her self-esteem prevented her from crying to the man who abandoned her.
The pent-up emotions that had accumulated in her body eventually turned into toxins and exploded all over her face. As a result, her face was filled with toxins formed by those suppressed emotions.
A dark spot suddenly appeared on Yang Lei's face.
Yang Lei's face was darker than Song Xiaobao at that time, and friends described her as as black as the bottom of a pot.
She went to the hospital to see a doctor, who told her that it was entirely due to psychological factors. Fortunately, the toxins react to the face, and if they react to other parts of the body, it can lead to serious illness and even life-threatening.
Only when she is able to adjust her mindset on her own can the doctor provide an effective ** method. Heart disease requires heart medicine.
Yang Lei looked at the almost "disfigured" face in the mirror, she didn't dare to go out at all, let alone go to work.
Even because of the fear of worrying his parents, he did not dare to go home to visit them during the Chinese New Year for 3 consecutive years.
During the divorce, Yang Lei lost more than 30 pounds, tossing and turning all night and had difficulty sleeping. At her worst, she needed to take 4 sleeping pills every night to fall asleep.
In order to prevent her from thinking cranky and acting irrationally when she is alone, her friends take turns accompanying her.
It took Yang Lei a full 10 years to come out of this relationship trauma.
Yang Lei recalled that marriage full of scars: "Maybe I took the initiative to give the other party the opportunity to hurt me. At that time, I felt that as long as Dai Zhicheng was by my side, I could ignore my career and everything else. ”
Therefore, I completely abandoned myself, and this is the opportunity for someone else to hurt me, because you have already lost yourself completely.
With the company and encouragement of her friends, Yang Lei finally bravely walked on the stage again and faced the audience.
Yang Lei's era has long passed, and the situation today is completely different from the past. Song Dandan, Cai Ming and others have surpassed Yang Lei and become the queen of sketches in the minds of the audience.
It's a pity to lose the opportunity to have a prosperous career for the sake of a marriage.
Over the years, Dai Zhicheng has been living well. He and Jiang Kun often partner on the stage of the Spring Festival Gala and are frequent guests. 's marriage to Yuan Yin is also very happy, and he even treats his stepdaughter like his own daughter.
Guo Da and other old partners of the year always brought Yang Lei back to the performance during the performance.
When they performed in Changchun, Yang Lei met Dai Zhicheng again.
At that time, Dai Zhicheng happily knocked on the door and entered the dressing room, stretched out his hand to greet Yang Lei, and several of them were talking to each other in the dressing room.
He has no guilt, as if he has turned a blind eye to everything that has hurt Yang Lei.
Yang Lei stretched out her hand, shook hands with Dai Zhicheng, didn't say a word, and then turned to leave. Everyone present was dumbfounded, they thought that Yang Lei would not bother with Dai Zhicheng at all.
Yang Lei later explained to them: "I have long been relieved of that marriage, and now he is like a passerby to me." ”
The damage he did to me is irreparable, and I am not so generous, I can choose not to slander, but I will not forgive easily!
Yang Lei participated in the rehearsal of the CCTV Spring Festival Gala in 2015 and brought her long-rehearsal work "Selling Paintings". However, due to issues such as duration, this show ultimately failed to pass.
However, Yang Lei did not lose confidence, she regained her strength and embarked on the journey of her career again.
Yang Lei participated in Jia Ling's sketch "Hello, Li Huanying" in 2016, and her acting skills that brought tears to the audience's eyes moved everyone, showing the strength of the "sketch queen" who is still the best.
In 2017, Yang Lei appeared on the stage of Jiangsu Satellite TV's Spring Festival Gala. The following year, she also participated in the large-scale original cross talk drama "The Wind Blows the Water Layer by Layer" created by the China Radio Rap Troupe.
Yang Lei starred in the TV series "The Story of Happiness" in 2020, and in 2021, she played the role of "Cai Genxiang" in the rural drama "Through the Mountains and the Sea", both of which were loved by the audience.
Yang Lei and Dai Zhicheng have been divorced for 19 years, and their life trajectories have long gone in completely different directions.
After getting married, Dai Zhicheng and Yuan Yin's reputation in the cross talk circle has dropped a lot, and the invitations to perform have also decreased. Although he made less money than before, with Yuan Yin's company, his life was more fulfilling and beautiful.
Hou Yaowen died in 2007, leaving behind a rich inheritance to his daughter. Therefore, Dai Zhicheng and Yuan Yin do not have to worry about their daughter's education expenses at all.
As a stepfather, Dai Zhicheng takes impeccable care of his daughter Niuniu, even more than the average biological father.
After Yuan Yin and Dai Zhicheng got married, they did not have any more children, and she took care of her daughter Niuniu as her only child. She was afraid of breaking Niuniu in her hands, and she was afraid of melting her in her mouth.
After a failed marriage, Yang Lei decided not to seek her next relationship.
The 60-year-old is still unmarried and has no children, and is only accompanied by a pet cat. After the divorce, friendship and family affection became Yang Lei's strongest support.
Bi Shumin believes that it is more important to try to love yourself than to wait for others to love you.
After a series of setbacks, Yang Lei finally realized this truth and made herself stronger.
I hope that Yang Lei's future life can also become better here, and I wish her all the best!