The Douban score is as high as 9"Parents' Love", which has a score of 5, is not only limited to the love between parents, but an outstanding drama series that deeply depicts real life and depicts delicate details, which has resonated with the audience. While appreciating the beautiful, we also have to face the complexity and distractions of reality. Jiang Defu and An Jie in the original book had eight children together, but fate was unfair to the last son, and he failed to come to this world. Seven children may be a beautiful sight to behold now, but they were the norm in those days. The author Liu Jing's An Jie is not perfect as a mother, she lacks patience with her children, and relatively speaking, children are more inclined to get along with their fathers. An Jie is a person who is clear about her own pursuits, and what she pursues is the happiness of her own life, which is far more than family responsibilities. Although she does not care much about her children, she is still a dutiful mother.
During her years on the island, she felt overwhelmed by the lack of a job, and as an independent and strong woman, she desperately needed a sense of accomplishment to satisfy her sense of superiority. When the eldest son brought his girlfriend home for the first time, An Jie failed to prepare for his mother-in-law and gave the other party a look. However, the eldest son soon brought back another woman, allowing An Jie to gradually adapt to this new role. She suddenly realizes that she has another identity - mother. She was ecstatic when she found that she could find a sense of accomplishment in her children's marriage. For AnJie, re-experiencing this sense of accomplishment is like getting a new lease of life. She attaches great importance to the marriage of her children and treats it as a major event in her life. She successfully arranged the marriage of her eldest and second sisters so that they married someone who met her expectations, which multiplied her sense of accomplishment. However, with the changes of the situation, An Jie, a sensitive person, began to face new challenges.
At the moment of Jiang Defu's retirement, who will bear the burden of the family makes An Jie feel an unprecedented sense of crisis. She knew that the fate of her eldest and second daughters was a foregone conclusion, and that they could not lend a helping hand in times of need. So, An Jie pinned his hopes on his third daughter. For her first two daughters, she considered their aesthetics and the family background of their future partner;But for the third daughter, she is more from the perspective of family maintenance.
With An Jie's ingenuity, she quickly targeted a cadre with unlimited potential - Director Meng. In her eyes, Director Meng is the best candidate. When An Jie announced this decision to her obedient third daughter, her attitude seemed to be "this matter is settled". However, such an arrangement was not fair to the third daughter. She already has a sweetheart, but she is bound by her family's expectations.
Jiang Defu rationally proposed: "The melon that is twisted is not sweet. However, An Jie retorted: "Aren't we just twisted melons?"”。Her insistence is based on a wrong concept: since her marriage with Jiang Defu is twisted, the combination of her daughter and Director Meng will definitely become sweet.
In order to make her daughter give in, An Jie kept looking for her, but never got a good response. After many setbacks, the third daughter reluctantly confessed to her mother: "Don't bother anymore, I already have a partner." And her sweetheart is Wang Haiyang, the "gentleman" in Jiang Defu's mouth. Compared with Director Meng, Wang Haiyang is far from An Jie's expectations.
Although Jiang Defu has reservations about the union of Director Meng and his daughter, he also does not support his daughter being with Wang Haiyang. This kind of love that is not blessed by parents, in addition to not being favored, is also difficult to enter the palace of marriage. For many couples, the attitude of parents is a difficult hurdle to overcome. At that time, Wang Haiyang did not have a good reputation, even if Director Meng was not considered, he was not a good marriage partner.
Wang Haiyang's father expressed dissatisfaction with Jiang Defu's call on his son as a "gentleman." He thinks that a few stinky girls are starting to know the height of the sky, and there are many people who look down on them, and they don't look down on those who think very highly of themselves. A fox never gets to eat sweet grapes, and this one-sided problem gradually evolves into a conflict between the two families. This hard-working couple has long been unable to turn back. Wang Haiyang, perhaps because of Jiang Defu and An Jie's words such as "leprosy" and "fox", felt belittled, so he chose to escape and temporarily went to his aunt's house to seek peace. The third daughter faced both families alone, and the pressure was huge. Under multiple pressures, she chose self-harm as a rebellion, and this silent ** was a heavy blow to her parents.
Luckily, Anjie discovered her suicide attempt in time to save her daughter from despair. Jiang Defu recalled that at that moment, An Jie's eyes instantly lost their light, full of dazed and helpless. She was originally full of confidence, but suddenly felt that her efforts had come to naught. An Jie was originally for family harmony, but her daughter's independent thinking made her realize that she couldn't treat children as puppets. An Jie quickly adjusted her mentality, and when her youngest daughter said that she wanted to marry Wang Haiyang, she instead persuaded Jiang Defu to relax. She understands that it is not wise to force her children to choose, and that if they don't get it right, they will lose both. Anjie's wakefulness stems from the fear that her youngest daughter may repeat her mistakes.
However, not every family is so fortunate that they can awaken their parents to reflection with their children's self-harm. Let us be vigilant and not let the love of parents become a shackle for our children, so that they can fly freely on the road of growth. The love of parents and the choice of their children are not opposites, but a balance between love and independence.