Some people say that marriage is the grave of love, and even many people don't want to get married and don't believe in love, in fact, many people are wrong, two people in marriage may not have love, and love and marriage are not necessarily related.
Marriage is actually two people supporting each other, and the most important thing to have a happy marriage lies in the following points:
1.Two people must be fit to be together.
Some people think that I love him very much, I want to marry him, I want to be with her all the time, yes, if you love someone, you want to be with him all the time, and never think about the two ** together, so have we ever thought that you like or love someone, are you really suitable to live with him? Will you really be able to put up with his problems after that? Will you be able to love him all the time? Think about these questions, maybe we really think about marriage too simply, how many people get married and divorce quickly, or disappoint themselves and then leave with a chill, or even divorce after having a child regardless of the child's feelings, someone may know that I don't love him anymore, so why does this happen?
In the final analysis, two people do not agree on their views, their personalities do not match, or their family concepts do not match. Therefore, if you want to have a happy marriage, you must be cautious, get along with each other more, ask yourself if you can tolerate each other, whether two people are comfortable together, whether you can discuss well in life, and whether you have the same concept of family.
2.In the family aspect, the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can be resolved or avoided.
Sometimes two people in marriage are very comfortable together, very suitable, but there is one more mother-in-law, many people are not happy, this mother-in-law contradiction has existed since ancient times, it used to be said that there are many evil mothers-in-law, and now it is said that there are many evil daughters-in-law, I think this is also suitable for this statement, some mothers-in-law like virtuous, some like lively, some like elegant, some mother-in-law said that I don't like her is purely not right, if you meet an evil mother-in-law, what to say? Some people have no choice, but they want to serve their mother-in-law, like this, if there is a bad mother-in-law, there is a high probability that your husband is also cowardly, or very obedient to his mother, like this, from the beginning your husband should choose carefully, if you are married, you can consider moving out, or put your mind on work, and strive to have your own career, some people think what is the use of this? In fact, this is useful, when you are confident at home, you can also buy a house with your husband away from your mother-in-law, which naturally avoids the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, so the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is two words, stay away!
3.The economic conditions of both houses should be equal, or one party should be slightly higher than the other, and both parties should be self-motivated.
The economic conditions are not equal, one party will feel that it is at a loss, so that it has been belittling the other party, thinking that it has a sense of superiority, the other party will feel inferior, the mood will be depressed, and there will definitely be problems in life, at this time, if you do not understand each other, there will be more contradictions, greater, so the marriage object must not be much worse than your own conditions, too much difference will lead to psychological imbalance, and the marriage will also be shaky, which is especially reflected in the door-to-door son-in-law, many door-to-door sons-in-law are long-term depression, resulting in emotional outbursts, which is also very terrible, The same is true for the woman marrying a rich family, she will be belittled by the other party, the woman will endure it silently, and the marriage will also have problems.
Generally speaking, marriage is to choose a life partner, to a comprehensive assessment of the other party, to evaluate most of the conditions in line with their own standards, then it can almost become a happy marriage, here to mention, if you particularly believe in love, then to your love as the first standard, seeking love as the object of marriage, if I listen to what I said, do not cling to love, then these standards are suitable for you. (Of course, on top of that, there is love between you, and that is the most perfect marriage).
In the end, I hope everyone can find their own him/her.