"There is no beauty in the autumn, and it is a beautiful woman to the eye;The country and the city are shocked. It is a poem that describes the beauty of a woman.
The beauty we are going to talk about today, her appearance can be described as a country and a city, and it is not an exaggeration to describe it as a shy flower in the closed moon and a sinking fish and geese, she is known as "the first beauty in the world" Mrs. Du.
How much do you know about this Mrs. Du?
"The life of the parents, the words of the matchmaker".It is one of the most common methods and means for people to ask for marriage in ancient times. It is a way for both parents to find a good candidate and then introduce them to their children.
This is how Mrs. Du and his first husband met, got to know each other, and then fell in love. Speaking of his first husband, Qin Yilu, it is a big deal.
Qin Yilu was originally just a small city guard under Lu Bu, but because he was down-to-earth and capable, honest and honest, he was caught by Mrs. Du's parents and pulled a red line for the two.
So, what is the reason why Mrs. Du's parents want to marry their daughter to Qin Yilu, an ordinary person who has no status and no prominent family background?
As we all know, during the Eastern Han Dynasty, warlords fought in a chaotic manner, and the people's lives were also very difficult. Not only did they have to suffer from the oppression of the landlords, but they also had to pay taxes to the imperial court.
It is in such an era that the Du couple feel even more that an honest and honest person like Qin Yilu is the person whose daughter can be entrusted for life.
Therefore, although Qin Yilu has no achievements in his career, he can be said to be like a fish in water in love. The two are also very sweet after marriage, Mrs. Du not only gave birth to a child for Qin Yilu, but also gave him face with her outstanding appearance.
Mrs. Du's beauty was also comparable to Diao Chan, the first of the four beauties, at that time, so most people who had seen Mrs. Du's appearance would sigh and sigh that Qin Yilu had a good life and married such a beautiful person.
It is precisely because of this that his wife was separated, his head was in a different place, and he died under Zhang Feidao's tragic ending.
Because Mrs. Du was married to a powerless and powerless Qin Yilu, Qin Yilu was seeking a job under Lu Bu at that time, and Lu Bu was lustful, so when he heard that his subordinates had married a beautiful woman, he summoned him to see him, and Lu Bu was also moved by compassion when he saw this.
Although Qin Yilu was unhappy, he was forced by the situation to turn a blind eye. Fortunately, Cao Cao led an army to support Liu Bei to help him take Lü Bu.
Because he was outnumbered, Lu Bu sent Qin Yilu to seek Yuan Shu's help, which made Qin Yilu take his wife and children back, settle them at home first, and then go to find Yuan Shu's rescue.
Somehow, Xiang Yu also coveted Mrs. Du's beauty, and even asked Cao Cao to allow him to take Lu Bu and marry Qin Yilu's wife to him under the pretext that his wife was unable to have children.
When Cao Cao heard this, he didn't think much about it, so he readily agreed. But on the day of the broken city, when Xiang Yu asked again, this also aroused Cao Cao's suspicions.
Therefore, Cao Cao secretly summoned Mrs. Du, but he didn't expect that Mrs. Du's beauty was three points more beautiful than Diao Chan, the head of the four beauties, which made Cao Cao have the selfish intention of taking Mrs. Du as his own.
Immediately, Cao Cao took Mrs. Du as his concubine and favored her well, not only that, but Cao Cao was also very generous to Mrs. Du and her ex-husband's children.
After learning that his wife had become Cao Cao's concubine, Qin Yilu hurriedly defected to Cao Cao, hoping that one day his wife could return to his side. Cao Cao was generous, not only did he not care, but also rewarded Qin Yilu with an official position.
It happened that Liu Bei and Zhang Fei passed by Qin Yilu's house, Zhang Fei was upright, so he said:"A man takes your wife, and for it is long, but if it is evil, let me go."
Immediately, Qin Yilu went to crusade against Cao Cao with Liu Bei and Zhang Fei, but who knows. Qin Yilu repented halfway, Zhang Fei was angry, and beheaded him, and Qin Yilu's life ended hastily.
Cao Cao also said with emotion:"No one is better than me for my ex-husband's children".This similar discourse. Mrs. Du also gave birth to a daughter and two sons for Cao Cao. can be regarded as not ignoring Cao Cao's treatment of her so well.
Maybe everyone will have a question in their hearts, why didn't Mrs. Du choose to resist?
It is said that when Qin Yilu sought help from Yuan Shu, Yuan Shu married a woman from the Zong clan of the Eastern Han Dynasty to Qin Yilu, so Mrs. Du was disheartened by her.
It is also said that it was because Mrs. Du discovered Qin Yilu's cowardice and incompetence, and in the face of forces and magnates, she chose to bow her head and give herself to others.
The ancients:"Man dies for money, birds die for food".And that's right. In these turbulent times, people can still seek a safe shelter, let alone a weak woman who is helpless
We may admire Mrs. Mi's choice to commit suicide by jumping into a well for the sake of innocence, but looking back, Mrs. Du chose to obey rather than resist, which is also partly because of the different education since childhood, which makes Mrs. Du think more comprehensively when thinking about problems.
This is not only for yourself, but also for your children. Cao Cao held a lot of power, and in the Eastern Han Dynasty, an era of warfare and separation, it was not a bad choice to choose to be attached to Cao Cao.
Mrs. Du also knew that her appearance was too good, and instead of being contested, it was better to hold the initiative in her own hands and be obedient appropriately, which was also a survival skill at that time.
In ancient times, young girls in the boudoir hoped that they could marry and teach their children after marrying each other, of course, Mrs. Du was no exception, so Mrs. Du chose to be obedient and become a wife, which can also make sense.
"Natural selection, survival of the fittest".In the era of princes competing for hegemony, only by conforming to the strong can they survive better, and perhaps Mrs. Du has already understood the true meaning of this sentence.
Having a beautiful appearance is certainly what everyone is looking forBut when God bestows beauty on ordinary people, it can only be regarded as a vase, an ornament, and a tool for the powerful to compete for.
Perhaps we will lament that Qin Yilu's life is too weak and miserable;I sigh at Mrs. Du's courage and overall view, but this is often not to explain to us"The weak have no choice".Is this the truth?
Looking back on history, most of the beauties who were forced to become political tools ended in pessimism, and although Mrs. Du's life seems to have suffered a lot, I have to say that her ending is a happy one.
She not only personally accompanied and participated in the growth of her children, but also witnessed the formation of their children's families. I have to say that Mrs. Du has lived the life we ideally yearn for.