The marriage between Gu Jia and Xu Huanshan, because of a pair of socks, a glass of fruit and vegetable juice and various constraints in life, Gu Jia forced Xu Huanshan into the arms of the junior step by step.
In the eyes of outsiders, Xu Huanshan has a happy family, and marrying a wife with high emotional intelligence like Gu Jia not only does everything she can, but also can help him solve the company's problems, which is simply a "perfect" wife.
But he still went to find the mistress, and finally broke up his marriage and was imprisoned. Xu Huanshan must have repented of his intestines.
But in fact, part of Xu Huanshan's derailment was "forced" by Gu Jia.
Lin Youyou said, in her place,Xu Huanshan is free and happy. But here Gu Jia, her perfectionist lifestyle suffocated Xu Huanshan.
Gu Jia is a person who demands perfection in everything, she once said that she must be excellent in everything, which means that everything must be perfect.
Her perfection is not onlydemanded himself, and also asked Xu Huanshan. Ask the husband to live according to her perfect standards. Therefore, Gu Jia's control forced Xu Huanshan to leave him step by step.
From the beginning, we can find that Xu Huanshan doesn't even have the freedom to wear a pair of socks.
Gu Jia thought about the CEO of a company, who lived in a high-end community, and had to pay attention to basic etiquette, and he couldn't wear short socks when wearing a suit.
But in Xu Huanshan's heart, the socks are not worn properly, as long as he is comfortable, it has little to do with whether he is the boss or not.
When the two were inconsistent, he always compromised for a second and obeyed Gu Jia's arrangement.
When Xu Huanshan was diagnosed with fatty liver, Gu Jia asked Xu Huanshan to drink only a glass of fruit and vegetable juice for dinner, and Xu Huanshan could only obey.
In them, I see the feeling as it isA strong mother is in charge of her son, and what the mother says, the son can't refute it, so he can only obediently do it.
Even such a trivial thing in life, when Xu Huanshan can't be free and do what he wants, after a long time, he will inevitably get tired.
Brought into the life of Xu Huanshan, we have lived with people like Gu Jia for a long time, and we must have the same feelingsI want to escape from such a bondage
Gu Jia also has one of the biggest "weaknesses" in marriageis strong and does not show weakness, solves problems by herself, does not seek help from men, and even helps her husband wipe her buttocks.
In fact, in marriage,Such an approach will leave the man with no sense of accomplishment.
When Gu Jia heard from the nanny that her son was taken to celebrate her birthday by Muzi's mother in the kindergarten, Gu Jia knew that she had offended Muzi's mother in the kindergarten, so she hurriedly came to Muzi's house to find her son.
When he arrived at Muzi's house, he found that Xu Ziyan was locked in a room, the door of the room was locked, and Xu Ziyan's heart-rending cry came from inside.
Seeing her son being bullied, Gu Jia lost her dignity for the first time, pushed the two masterminds' mothers into the room and beat them violently.
After returning home, Gu Jia was in a bad mood. Drinking alcohol on the balcony, her hand was injured and not bandaged, when Xu Huanshan cared about her, although she was full of grievances about everything that happened today, but in front of her husband, she didn't say a word.
Keeping one's grievances and not showing weakness to outsiders may be related to Gu Jia's family from childhood to adulthood.
But Xu Huanshan is her closest person, and a woman has been wronged outside, shouldn't she talk to the closest person and find comfort? But Gu Jia didn't.
Judging from the relationship between Gu Jia and Xu Huanshan, Gu Jia is the strong person, Xu Huanshan's entrepreneurship was promoted by him and her, and she also promoted the change of big house, and even when the company encountered a crisis, Gu Jia came forward to solve it.
When Xu Huanshan faced the unreasonable demand put forward by President Wan of Party A, he didn't want to curry favor or negotiate, and directly picked on his son, and the problem was naturally left to Gu Jia to solve. And Gu Jia successfully solved the problem through high emotional intelligence negotiation.
There is no doubt that Gu Jia is strong, capable, and emotionally intelligent, and she is indeed more capable than her husband.
However, in such an environment where men are weak and women are strong, women should show weakness appropriately and seek help from men, which is more conducive to the stability of marriageMen in the family need to have a proper sense of accomplishment and be needed
Therefore, Xu Huanshan couldn't get the sense of accomplishment he wanted from Gu Jia, but he got great satisfaction from Lin Youyou.
Gu Jia's femininism and disrespect for the other party's feelings pushed Xu Huanshan farther and farther step by step.
For her husband's fatty liver, she chose not to let her husband eat dinnerXu Huanshan only has one cup of fruit and vegetable juice every night.
Although Gu Jia was hungry with him in the name of love, this way made the other party very uncomfortable.
A person with high emotional intelligence like Gu Jia is good at solving all kinds of problems. If you put it on an outsider,She definitely has a good way to work it out.
But in the person closest to her, she forcefully asked her husband to listen to him, without asking Xu Huanshan if he agreed, and directly forced Xu Huanshan to skip dinner.
When Xu Huanshan and Gu Jia quarreled, he once said that he felt that he had no freedom, could not eat, could not play football, and could not live according to his own heart.
In fact, Gu Jia can choose a better way in this matter, such as making decisions after communicating together, exercising together to fight fatty liver, and adjusting diet together, so that Xu Huanshan may be more acceptable.
Therefore, in marriage, we especially cannot make choices for each other without any communication, and let the other party listen to your arrangement.
A married woman must learn to give a sense of relaxation to life and the people around her, not to be limited and controlled in the name of love, and no one must live according to the standards set by someone.
After a long time, men will have a rebellious mentality and want to get rid of such an oppressive rhythm of life.
It is not a pleasure to live in a perfect standard. Since life is so stressful, let's give life a little relaxation!
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