In the desert of life, we sometimes fall into the whirlpool of loneliness, feeling boundless fear, confusion and despair.
Especially when we have been bathed in the love and companionship of relatives and friends, the pain of loneliness is like frost and snow in the cold winter, cold to the heart.
As the philosopher Diderot said, "Man cannot be isolated, for isolation is dangerous." ”
Life is a long journey, and we all encounter moments of isolation from the crowd to a greater or lesser extent.
However, even when we are lonely, we should not easily give up our beliefs and pursuits, let alone distort ourselves in order to please others.
In the face of isolation, the right thing to do is to fit in with the group, it doesn't matter, do the following three things, and good luck will come.
1. Work quietly to make yourself worthwhile
On the stage of life, we are all the protagonists of our own lives. Only when you have enough value and ability can you win the respect and recognition of others.
When faced with difficulties, we should not rely on the help of others, but should find the strength to break through from ourselves.
By learning new skills, improving productivity, and tapping into new opportunities, we can continue to improve our self-worth, make ourselves shining stars, and attract the attention and recognition of others.
In this ever-changing world, we can only shine on the stage of life by making ourselves more valuable.
2. Actively adjust the mentality, and there is no need to "force" to be gregarious or ungregarious
When you are isolated, mired in negative emotions, you feel like a lonely boat, helpless and ununderstood.
But remember, you don't have to force yourself to fit in with a group that isn't you. Accepting and respecting one's own uniqueness is like appreciating a unique painting, which, although it is different from other paintings, has its own unique charm and value.
You can regulate your mindset through exercise, reading, traveling, etc., just like planting seeds in a barren land and waiting for them to take root.
These activities will not only help you relax and unwind, but also help you find confidence and strength.
Don't let other people's opinions and evaluations sway your heart, trust your own feelings and judgments, just like the Big Dipper in the night sky, no matter how the wind and clouds change, always unswervingly guide the way.
Remember, you are unique, and your worth and significance do not need to be proven by the approval of others. Believe in yourself, move forward firmly, and you will eventually find your own piece of sky.
3. Enlarge the pattern and embrace everything in life
When you find yourself isolated, there will inevitably be a wave of loneliness and loss in your heart. However, at this time, you should remember the multiple values of life and not allow yourself to be narrowly seen. You can choose to acquire new knowledge, develop new hobbies, or focus on social hotspots to broaden your horizons and mind.
When you zoom in on your pattern, you will find that you are gradually becoming more tolerant and open. Many of the original unnecessary troubles and confusions will gradually dissipate into the invisible in the process. And you will become more mature and confident as a result. In the face of life's challenges and dilemmas, you will show unprecedented calmness and tenacity.
In short, being isolated by the people around you does not mean that you have reached the end of the world.
As long as we strive to change from the above three aspects, we will definitely be able to get out of this predicament.
Remember, the most important thing in life is not the approval of others, but the firmness and value of our hearts.