Vinny Sha Tu Nisha
People are good at being bullied, and horses are good at being ridden. ”
Although this sentence is old, it tells some truths in human nature that cannot be ignored.
In this complex world, there are times when being too kind can hurt us.
In order to protect ourselves, we need to retain some of the necessary edges. Let's talk about which five kinds of edges we can't discard in life.
1. The edge of wisdom: distinguish between right and wrong, and not be deceived
Those who know others are wise, and those who know themselves are clear. ”
In this age of information, we need to have the edge of wisdom to distinguish between right and wrong and not be blinded by false information.
For example, my old friend Lao Li, a few years ago, I encountered an investment **, fortunately, he usually reads more books and newspapers, and uses his wisdom to see through the trick of ** and avoid property losses.
Second, the edge of courage: dare to face, do not avoid difficulties
The brave are fearless, and the wise are not confused. "Courage is an indispensable edge when we face difficulties.
My niece Xiaoli suffered a family accident on the eve of the college entrance examination, but she was not defeated, but bravely faced the reality and was finally admitted to the ideal university.
Her experience teaches us that courage can keep us going in the face of adversity and see the glimmer of hope.
Third, the edge of the principle: stick to the bottom line, do not follow the crowd
A gentleman has something to do and something not to do. ”
In life, we need to stick to our principles and bottom line and not follow the crowd.
My colleague Xiao Zhang is a very principled person. Once, someone in the company made small moves for promotion, and Xiao Zhang resolutely did not participate, and although he finally lost some immediate benefits, he won the respect and trust of his colleagues.
Fourth, the edge of independence: independent thinking, not the clouds
The spirit of independence, the thought of freedom. ”
In this era when it is easy to be swayed, we need to have the edge of independent thinking. My cousin Xiao Wang is a very assertive person.
When choosing a major and career, she did not blindly follow the trend or follow her parents' arrangements, but made decisions based on her interests and strengths.
Now she is doing the job she loves, and every day is full and happy. Her example shows us that independent thinking and choices can help us find a path that truly suits us.
Fifth, the edge of self-love: love yourself, do not compromise
Only those who love themselves can be loved. ”
In interpersonal relationships, we need to have the edge of self-love and not compromise on perfection.
My neighbor Xiao Li used to be a "good old man", always refusing other people's requests, and as a result, he not only exhausted himself, but also did not get the gratitude and respect of others.
Later she learned to say no and say "no" and began to focus more on her feelings and needs. In this way, she has won the understanding and respect of others.
Conclusion:
You can't have the heart to hurt others, and you can't have the heart to defend people. ”
Kindness is a virtue, but being too kind can put us in harm's way.
Therefore, we need to retain some of the necessary edges to protect ourselves. These five edges – the edge of wisdom, the edge of courage, the edge of principle, the edge of independence and the edge of self-love – are what we cannot discard in life.
Only with these edges can we better cope with the challenges and difficulties in life, and protect ourselves while remaining kind.