Recently, the son of a highly educated parent in Shanghai had a miserable English score, which made people feel confused. The husband and wife graduated from 985 University, is fluent in five languages and works in the foreign affairs department, and the wife is a returned international student working as an English teacher in a middle school in Shanghai. Their son is currently in the second grade of junior high school, but he is considered a stubborn demon king who does not listen to his parents. Since entering elementary school, the family has been in a state of chaos, with the father yelling loudly and the mother crying while the child looks indifferent every time he writes his homework. The end result was that my son's English score was only 28. By chance, a foreign friend was shocked to learn about his child's English results when he was a guest at their home, and questioned why they didn't send their child abroad to learn Xi English. However, his friend inadvertently revealed a situation that the daughter of a professor at Peking University was also only admitted to an ordinary university. This story is closely related to many parents' reflections on the concerns and pressures exerted on their children's education.
The son of a highly educated couple in Shanghai achieved disappointing results in the English test, which caused confusion among foreign friends. Both husband and wife have advanced education, the husband is a graduate of 985 University, and is fluent in several languages and works in the foreign affairs departmentHis wife is a returned international student who works as an English teacher at a middle school. Their son, who is currently in the second year of junior high school, is considered to be a stubborn demon lord of the world, and the family has been in a state of chaos since elementary school. Despite the father's frequent loud reprimands and the mother's tears, the child was indifferent. In the end, the child's English test score was only 28 points. By chance, a foreign friend expressed his shock when he learned of his child's grades while visiting their home, and questioned why they did not send their child abroad to learn Xi English.
But what this foreign friend did not realize is that even parents with high academic qualifications may face various difficulties and challenges in their children's education. Sluggish grades are not necessarily the result of parents' carelessness, but a more complex issue. Every child has their own personality and Xi learning style, and sometimes they may differ from their parents' expectations and approach to education. So, to better understand the question, let's take a look at the low grades of the daughter of a professor at Peking University.
There was a professor at Peking University named Ding Yanqing, who was a precocious prodigy when he was a child. He was able to memorize the entire Xinhua dictionary when he was 6 years old, and after graduating from high school, he was successfully admitted to Peking University. After graduating, Ding Yanqing went to Columbia University for further studies and received a doctorate in education. Now he is a professor and doctoral supervisor at Peking University. His wife is also a graduate of Peking University, and the daughter they gave birth to should be a model of academic excellence. However, surprisingly, Professor Ding's daughter was not outstanding, with average grades in primary school and even lower grades in junior high school, and could only go to an ordinary university in the end. Professor Ding once tried to improve his daughter's grades through various Xi make-up classes and pressure, but the result was counterproductive. The daughter eventually lost interest in Xi, had an emotional breakdown, and ran away from home on a rainy day. Professor Ding and his wife frantically searched for their daughter and finally found her in the rain. However, the daughter is reluctant to go home, and her accusation wakes them up: "I'm just an ordinary child, why can't you accept an ordinary daughter?".You just want a daughter who Xi good at school!These words made Professor Ding and his wife deeply realize the absurdity of their previous behavior.
This story teaches us that no matter how highly educated and intelligent a parent is, there are still challenges and dilemmas that can be faced when educating their children. Every child has their own characteristics and development trajectory, and parents should be more open and understanding, and don't just focus on academic Xi grades. Sometimes, excessive expectations and excessive pressure can lead to rebellion and Xi trouble.
Li from Zhengzhou is a Ph.D. graduate from 985 University, and his wife is a master's student at 211 University, and their son has been doing poorly in junior high school. His wife often cried because of this, and Li even smashed his desk when he was drunk. Still, we can't simply assume that this child has no future. Xi performance does not equal IQ and future development. There are many successful people who are not high-achieving students and who have shown their talents and potential in other fields. Parents should help their children discover their interests, hobbies and strengths, and give them appropriate support and encouragement, rather than overemphasizing Xi grades.
It is normal for parents to be concerned and put pressure on their children's education, and they want their children to have a better start and future. However, sometimes excessive attention and high expectations can be stressful and negative for children. Parents should be aware that each child is a unique individual with their own developmental trajectory and characteristics. They don't have to grow and develop according to their parents' expectations. Parents should respect their children's individuality and choices, and give them appropriate support and guidance. Education should focus on the cultivation of children's overall qualities and abilities, not just on academic Xi performance.
The low English scores of the children of highly educated parents do not mean that the parents do not pay attention to their children's education or that there is a problem with the education method. Every child has their own development trajectory and learning Xi, and parents should be more open and understanding, and not overemphasize Xi academic performance. Xi performance does not equal IQ and future development, parents should help their children discover their interests and strengths, and give them appropriate support and encouragement. Education should focus on the cultivation of children's overall qualities and abilities, not just on academic Xi performance.