The son said: "The father is here, watch his will;."The father did not, and watched his deeds;Three years have not changed the way of the father, which can be described as filial piety. ”
What is filial piety in this paragraph, the ancient texts are relatively concise, and will not use one more word, because during the Spring and Autumn Period and the Warring States Period, it was engraved on the bamboo slips, and it was not easy to carve out each word, so it was as simple as possible, and it was precisely because of the simplicity that the ancient texts read very beautifully, and there was an unsurpassable charm of the vernacular text. And because it is too simplistic, many meanings, if you don't think about it carefully, you will ignore it, just like this first sentence, the father is there, in fact, it already includes the mother, and the parents are called, just for the sake of simplicity, the mother is omitted.
In the Analects, brothers are often mentioned, and when we talk about brothers, we actually include sisters, and everyone must know this truth, otherwise there will be a deviation in the understanding. Of course, before the minority, because of the young, the parents have to listen to what they say, and if they don't listen, they will be beaten, which is called having to listen, which is more about having to listen, which refers more to them when they become adults, although they can be independent in all aspects, but what the parents say, as long as it is right, the children must listen to it and respect their parents.
When I was about 20 years old, I entered the society, and suddenly found that the usual preaching of my family was right, which was the life experience of most of their lives, so it was right to listen to their parents.
Some people will also say that if the parents are bad people, for example, if they are a thief, do they have to listen to this, of course they can't, but after many years of observation, there are many bad people in society, there are thieves, there are **criminals, there are ruffians, although these people have moral problems, but they are not sloppy in educating their children, they will also educate their children, they must Xi study hard, they can't do bad things, they haven't seen it, **criminals have taught their sons how to since they were young, and thieves have not taught their sons to steal things since childhood.
These bad people, in fact, are not really bad in their hearts, they also know what is right and what is wrong, and they may let themselves go on the wrong path because of a temporary last resort, or unknown reasons such as being forced by life, so they don't want to let their children go their own way. But there are no absolutes in anything, and there may be a small number of people who will pull their children into the water. But the vast majority of them still won't pit their children. So there is no problem for parents to be there and listen to their parents.
Father no, look at his deeds, is after the death of parents, to see the person's behavior, can not be when the parents are there, listen to the words of the parents, after the death of the parents, but also the same as before the death, according to the words of the parents, can not because of the death of the parents, you can do nonsense, this is also the mean said, death is like life, death is like life, filial piety is also, the same reason.
Three years have not changed the way of the father, the funeral in ancient China, the death of the parents, to keep filial piety for the parents for three years, this is the ancient funeral, up to the emperor, down to the ordinary people, are the same, in these three years, the heart is still like the parents when they were alive, the heart at any time to read the parents, this is the three years of the way to change the parents.
If a person can do this, he can be called a filial son, and how difficult it is to become a filial son.