Q: Teacher, what are the performances of husband and wife at the end of the journey?Family marital affection
Broken mirror reunion emotional mentor Mr. He:
When there are five signs in your relationship, if you don't adjust, your intimacy will come to an end.
Manifestation 1: There is no effective communication between the husband and wife.
Think back to the beginning of communication, it is through communication that you are brought closer and bring you into intimacy. When communication stops, your intimacy is gradually disintegrating. Communication is as important to intimacy as blood circulation is to good health.
Manifestation 2: Persistent quarrels between husband and wife.
Quarrels include not only verbal and physical intense conflicts, but also complete disregard for the presence of the other person and cold treatment. Constant arguing will continue to drain your life force and can also turn your partner and the relationship into a great fear or a great trauma.
Performance 3, the husband and wife have lost trust in each other.
Trust is an important watershed between ordinary and intimate relationships. Based on trust, we invite the other person into our lives, even into our hearts. When you no longer trust each other, it means that you have expelled diplomats from each other on a spiritual level, and deep dialogue has stopped.
Performance 4, the problem is never solved.
Intimacy is a process of constantly discovering, solving, and transcending problems. Happy couples continue to make breakthroughs and victories in the process, expanding each other's ability to know and love, while unhappy partners will be troubled by accumulated conflicts and problems, and their vitality will gradually fade.
Broken mirror reunion emotional mentor Mr. Lin:
The following four situations can show that the marriage relationship has reached an alley.
1. Serious problems in communication methods: Cold violence and lack of communication between husband and wife are the key ways to maintain relationships.
When feelings exist, husbands and wives confide in each other, but when love disappears, communication becomes boring, both parties are too lazy to talk, quarrels become more frequent, silence and cold violence become the norm, and the estrangement and resentment between the two parties continue to deepen.
2. Long-term sleeping in separate rooms: husband and wife during the day and neighbors at night.
Sex is very important for maintaining a marriage, it is an emotional lubricant. When the relationship exists, the two can enjoy the pleasure of sex every day and add color to life. But when love disappears, the relationship between husband and wife becomes a formal existence, with a husband and wife shelf during the day, and at night they sleep separately, without disturbing each other at all, and the mobile phone becomes a substitute for each other, without passion. Eventually, the relationship between husband and wife completely became neighborly.
3. Mutual dislike and accusation.
Marriage requires mutual understanding and tolerance to last. When the relationship exists, the other party only sees the advantages, but as time goes by, everything becomes a disadvantage, and sometimes even the other party feels a little obstructive. Men will feel that women are more and more nagging and become like middle-aged aunts, while women feel that men have become cautious, become valued, and dislike men and become industrious.
4. Principled issues: When men no longer love women, sometimes domestic violence and cheating will occur.
When they are dissatisfied, they will start beating people, using domestic violence as a way to vent their anger. No matter how much a woman pleads, a man will not pay attention. The feelings are gone. Once there is a problem between husband and wife, it will inevitably lead to disharmony in sexual life, and men will cheat because of their own physical needs. Even if you don't have feelings for other people of the opposite sex, you still can't control yourselfHow many of the above four manifestations do you have?
In fact, as a marriage repairer for many years, I don't think that this is "the end of the couple" and cannot be repaired, but the difficulty of repair is more difficult than daily quarrels and conflicts, and there are more things to do and efforts to make. Of course, if the husband and wife have already thought about it and don't want to work hard for each other, then divorce is also okay, it is better than anything else, let the marriage rot in the roots, torture each other, and torture the children.
In the final analysis, whether the marriage and love relationship can be happy depends on one's own efforts, not by complaining and avoiding.