I read a saying: "Be ruthless when you should be ruthless, and don't regret it until things are irreparable." ”
Human maturity actually begins with cruelty.
Because it's only when you become cruel that you're willing to make a change, and you're going to really understand this society and humanity more deeply.
Dream of Red Mansions says:
If you are not ruthless, it is difficult to become a traitor. ”
As a human being, you have to be cruel to yourself in order to be truly spiritually free.
At the same time, through unremitting self-discipline, training, and practice, you can become stronger and stronger.
Only then can your life truly be in your hands.
Be yourself.
In fact, as a person, it is very necessary to be ruthless with yourself.
For example, if you are strict enough with yourself, you will be able to cope with inexplicable emotions that bother you and hurt you.
It's hard to avoid problems if you're not cruel to yourself, but you might even want them.
Many people will think that there is no need to be cruel to themselves, just as there is no need to suffer.
But the truth is, everyone goes through growing pains.
However, the best way to cope with pain is to not compromise, not admit defeat, and not be afraid of pain.
Then be kind to yourself, don't be afraid of hardship, don't be afraid of hardship, so that your life will be bitter first and then sweet.
The Cautionary Tale says:
Without a placket, you can't wear shoes. ”
Suffering is ***, and growth is also painful.
But we can only allow ourselves to continue to endure hardship, and constantly transform the energy of suffering into food for our own growth.
Ultimately, being kind to yourself will help you become stronger.
As Dong Mingzhu said:
Be yourself, force yourself to work harder, and in five years you will appreciate today's efforts and hate yourself for being lazy and inferior today. ”
If you are not ruthless and have an unstable position, there will never be mercy for the weak in this world.
No matter when, you can only force yourself to be harder, force yourself to work harder, and make yourself work harder.
Only in this way can we give ourselves more opportunities in life and truly become stronger, more independent, and more confident.
Be cruel to others.
In the process of growing up, everyone will encounter things and people that make them feel distressed, hurt, and even angry.
At this time, we cannot tolerate this, let alone allow others to unscrupulously provoke and trample on our own principles and bottom line.
We must dare to turn our backs on those who do not deserve respect without fear of offending them.
Only then will those who bully you and fear others see your temper and realize how much it costs you to hurt you. Only by being ruthless can you be on your own and let others see your confidence and courage.
Otherwise, if we choose again and again to tolerate, endure even humiliation without dignity.
Then your life will definitely become more and more miserable.
Yu Hua said: When we treat the world harshly, the world suddenly becomes gentle. ”
Therefore, we must have the courage to turn our backs on others, prepare our own principles, our own results, and defend our own interests.
That way, you can say no when it's time to say no, and be brave enough to quit when it's time to say no.
Only by treating others with a cruel attitude and treating interpersonal relationships with an indifferent attitude can we truly live our current life calmly and calmly.
Be ruthless in life.
For most people, life is like a net. The more you try, the tighter and more uncomfortable it becomes.
However, if you want to be a fish that slips through the net, you have to be yourself, free yourself from limitations, and set your mind free.
Only in this way can we relax our minds, give ourselves a comprehensive physical examination, and timely ** stubborn diseases.
Break Away says:
There's nothing you can do about it, and you should end it;You are destined to be a person who has no fate, and you should let go;Those lingering desires and obsessions in your heart, you should let go. ”
In life, we must always maintain courage and confidence in the future, but at the same time, we must also open hope through practical actions.
Give yourself permission to truly move towards change, show determination and make a change.
As time goes by, our inner world becomes more and more peaceful.
No matter how many challenges and pressures you face, we take them with more stride.
Because when I allow myself to be ruthless, my heart becomes harder, stronger, and even non-toxic and harmless.