Communication is the process of transmission and feedback of thoughts and feelings between people and between people and groups, so as to reach a consensus of ideas and smooth feelings.
In the clinical nursing work of the Department of Psychology, such a phenomenon is often encountered: in a family, parents and children often cannot speak well, cannot communicate effectively, cannot speak to the child's heart, and the conversation collapses without saying a few words, and even there will be confrontation, and finally break up unhappily.
For this reason, my parents felt that they had grown up with a handful of and urine pulling him (her), but they didn't expect to treat themselves like this, and they felt very sad and sad in their hearts.
Some parents even become cautious when they get along with their children, for fear that any word or sentence will stimulate the child and cause him or her to change his or her mood.
As for the children, they feel that their parents do not understand them, and will only ask to do this and that, and only according to the wishes of their parents can it work, and they feel particularly aggrieved and helpless in their hearts.
So what can parents do to communicate effectively with their children?Here are a few things to try:
1. Awareness:In the process of communicating with children, parents should first be aware of their own emotions, and when negative emotions such as bad mood and anger appear, they should activate the pause button, do not be carried away by emotions, or wait until they have vented their emotions before realizing that they should not do so.
2. Dialogue:In the process of communication, it is very important to learn to listen, empathize, and clarify. Pay attention to your expressions, movements, tone, speed of speech, and intonation, truly express your feelings, distinguish which are your own needs and which are the needs of your children, and let love flow freely between each other in the field of co-creation.
3. Choice:We should respect the child's choice and let the child take responsibility for his own choice. Under the guise of being good for their children, some parents teach their children in a condescending manner: "I have walked more roads than you have crossed, and if you don't listen to me, you will take a detour, and the facts will prove that I am right and you are wrong." "Parents actually deprive their children of the right to choose, and ultimately let their children lose the opportunity to grow.
Fourth, the boundary:The child is an individual, not an appendage of the parent. And some parents think that their children are born by themselves, so they have to listen to themselves. In life, there is not enough living space for children.
In fact, a good parent-child relationship is to be able to separate and cooperate, so as to play a role in the ability to protect and support.
I hope that parents and friends can be inspired and enlightened when they see this. There is a saying that seeing is the beginning of change. Effective communication can be achieved through Xi practice.
Be a reasonable, caring and warm parent, and achieve effective communication with your child, and the parent-child relationship will be more harmonious. (Zhang Lili).