Lai Shuxian is a mother of four, and despite leaving the world at the age of 46, that doesn't mean she doesn't love her children.
In fact, it is out of her deep love for children that she has given birth to so many children. Today, we're going to focus on the details of Lai's relationship with her sons to understand how she takes on the role of mother.
Overall, Lai attaches great importance to the development of children, and she celebrates their birthdays to make them feel the love of their parents.
Even though she has remarried, she still cares for her four children wholeheartedly, and does not only pay attention to the son of her remarried husband Xu Zhizheng.
Even in order to take better care of the children, Li Shuxian gave up her career and made considerable sacrifices.
First of all, Lai Shuxian made her sons feel motherly love, and the children's birthdays were celebrated by her.
Lai, who is really good at creating memories of her sons, is a mother who can make unforgettable memories. Many parents think that celebrating a birthday is a hassle, or that they don't need to bother preparing when their family is financially strapped for it.
However, in the eyes of many children, a sense of ritual may represent something special about them and the love of their parents, so it is not optional.
Even if she is sick or in poor health, Lai, in the first few months, invites everyone to celebrate the children's birthdays.
She gives her sons a full sense of ritual experience and makes them feel the importance of being loved. The four sons are very lucky to enjoy the birthday celebration organized by their mother every year.
Secondly, Lai Shuxian made all four of her sons feel treated fairly.
Of Lai's four sons, two were born to her ex-husband Lo Wai Kwong, and the other two were born to her current husband, Hui Zhizheng.
Generally speaking, in order to maintain her current marital relationship, the mother will mostly remain indifferent to her ex-husband's children, or visit them secretly, so as not to make the current husband feel that she is still attached to the ex-husband's family.
Lai Shuxian herself and Lo Wai Kwong are divorced, but she still loves their son. She often finds time to pick up Lu Huiguang's two sons to play with Xu Zhizheng's two sons at home.
Even when Xu Zhizheng has time, he is willing to spend quality time with his stepsons. Although these four children have different fathers, they all enjoy the same selfless love from their mothers.
For the sake of the children, Lai Shuxian even took the initiative to communicate well with Xu Zhizheng to ensure that the stepson can live at home or get along with his stepfather.
In any case, Lai's dedication to the children reflects the fairness of maternal love and the absence of favoritism.
Third, Li Shuxian chose to give up her career to accompany the children.
Lai had a break in her first marriage, mainly during the birth of children. Lu Huiguang doesn't make much money, so Li Shuxian has to work herself, otherwise the family can't even afford to buy a house.
But after she and Xu Zhizheng got married, if she still had to go to work, she wouldn't be able to take care of her four children.
In order to take better care of the children and make them feel motherly, Lai Shuxian basically became a full-time wife after remarrying, relying on her husband to support the family.
She was under tremendous pressure, because it was estimated that her husband Xu Zhizheng did not give much money, and she needed to manage it. Therefore, when it was discovered that Xu Zhizheng was unfaithful to his marriage, Li Shuxian did not dare to choose divorce.
After all, she has been a housewife for a long time and has the responsibility of raising four children. In the event of a divorce, you may lose custody of your children and will not be able to meet with them or provide support.
In this case, it may also be difficult for Lai Shuxian to live a good life on her own.
In general, Lai Shuxian is really thinking and practicing how to be a good mother, whether it is to make her sons feel loved, to make her sons feel equal, or to give her sons full company.