Once upon a time, there was a song called "I Want to Have a Home", in which it sang: A place that doesn't need to be gorgeous, a place that doesn't need to be big......
We tend to pursue big houses and gorgeous decorations, but we forget the most important meaning of home - happiness and warmth, as well as giving people a sense of security and belonging.
If the family lacks the warmth of family affection, no matter how big and luxurious the house is, this house is still not a "home" in the real sense;But if you live in a small, broken place, and the family laughs and laughs happily, it can also give people warmth and strength.
How a family's fortune is, is not determined by the size and luxury of the house, as the saying goes, "the family has three immobility, good luck comes naturally", do you know what the "three immobility" refers to?First of all, this first immobility refers to "impulsive anger."
Lu Xun's younger brother, Mr. Zhou Zuoren, is also a famous writer, he once wrote a small story: In the Qing Dynasty, there was a common people whose family had a bad temper, and the family was noisy and noisy, and then there was a misunderstanding between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and the daughter-in-law beat the mother-in-law in anger, and the family did not stop it.
When the governor of the province learned about this incident, he was furious and ordered the county government to investigate thoroughly, and the couple was punished for the crime of unfilial piety, and even their elder brother was severely punished for not advising and teaching, so that only an elderly mother-in-law was left in the family to take care of him, and the county government was responsible for providing for the elderly. No one could have imagined that such a small anger would bring the whole family to prison.
This story, although it is only a story written by Zhou Zuoren, but in fact, in real society, things that bring disasters to the family because of anger often happen, and it is not easy to start a family, but destroying a family may only take one irrational anger. So, if you want to have good luck at home, remember: don't be angry!
The second of the three immovable in the family is: no untouching!Writer Zhang Ailing suffered from severe typhoid fever when she was a child, her parents divorced, Zhang Ailing lived with her mother, but her mother did not have a job, not only had to find a way to make a living, but also had to treat Zhang Ailing, so the mother and daughter had a very difficult time.
In the end, her mother couldn't stand this kind of pressure, and often angrily accused Zhang Ailing of dragging herself down, and even let her fend for herself. So later, when Zhang Ailing recalled her mother, she said that she only remembered her angry and complaining face, and the relationship between mother and daughter gradually drifted apart, until her mother was critically ill, Zhang Ailing did not visit.
Complaining and blaming are the most hurtful behaviors in family relationships, physical injuries can be healed sooner or later, and once the heart is hurt, it is difficult to repair. Good family luck should start from harmony, the ancients said that "the family is harmonious, although the food is not continued, there is also a surplus".
For example, parents should not always complain that their children are not good Xi at schooling, as a wife, do not complain that their husbands do not earn enough, and as husbands, do not complain that their wives are not virtuous enough.
The third point of the three immovable family fortunes is not to be greedy. As the saying goes, "each family has its own difficulties, and each family has its own good", but people's biggest shortcoming is that they often only see the good of others, but they stare at their own difficulties, and always want to compare with other families.
However, happiness is not something that can be obtained by comparison, on the contrary, comparison only brings pain and sorrow. If a family, children are greedy for fun, wives are greedy for money, and husbands are greedy for sex, then the family is destined to end up with the separation of wives. The high-flying bird dies from gluttony, the fish of the abyss dies from the bait, and the happiness of the family does not depend on how much wine and wealth can be enjoyed, but from the abundance of the heart.
In fact, we say that the luck of the family is good, the key is whether the family style is good or not, as long as there are correct values, and then do not be angry, not resentful, not desired, I think any family can live a very happy life, and the family will naturally prosper!
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