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As the saying goes: where there are people, there are rivers and lakes, and where there are rivers and lakes, there is commerce. In today's era of "attention economy", the place where you can see is a must for businesses, and the school gate is one of them.
Whether it's a variety of influencer bloggers on social media, a variety of treasure chests and skills in online games, or some events held in offline stores, businesses have only one purpose, and that is to firmly attract customers' attention to themselves.
Children's resistance is very weak, and many businesses focus on students. The shops at the entrance of the campus have a variety of toys, blind boxes, scratch cards, and golden egg smashing ...... that make children obsessed
* Gambling" is quietly luring children.
Last weekend, I took my kids to buy stationery, and six or seven teenage kids were having fun in front of a store.
From time to time, there were bursts of laughter, and the boss stood aside happily settling the account, I won and I won, this time it was 3 yuan. One of the children complained: I offended anyone today, I didn't hit any of them, I don't believe it, and the boss will come with another 10 yuan, it can't be empty.
I took a closer look, and it turned out to be a version of the ball in **. The rule is that after winning, you can take the money you win and buy the designated toys, and if you don't win, it will be considered consumption. Adults are all good at first glance, and if there is a probability, it should not be high. The kid who gambled 10 yuan ended up with no suspense and was empty.
I watched for more than ten minutes, and the children spent thirty or forty yuan back and forth, and finally a few people left a bag of jumping candy and left scolding.
I was curious to talk to the boss, and the boss said: scratch cards, blind boxes, ** these students like to play very much, and a few of them are regulars, and they come every day.
I was thinking all the way, isn't this just gambling?Don't parents know?I searched on the Internet and found out that it has been popular for a long time, and there have been complaints from parents, and the news has also reported.
When the reporter interviewed, the child said: It's fun to smoke this, you can't smoke it again, it's normal, it's also cheap, you have two pieces, and you won't go bankrupt anyway.
Many parents also know that their children collect cards and buy blind boxes, but they don't know that this is a toy with a "gambling nature".
There are also a small number of parents who think that their classmates are playing, and if their children are not playing, they are worried that their children will not be able to make friends and will be isolated. A few dollars, let him go!
Does it really matter?You must know that children's brains are developing, and it is difficult for them to control their "addictive behavior", and once the brain forms a "Xi circuit", it is really difficult to change it.
Addictive behaviors" are cut off as early as possible.
Don't care about children drawing blind boxes, collecting cards, and smashing golden eggs, and be sure to intervene in time, once addicted, it is especially detrimental to children's brain development.
What controls addiction in humans is the area of the brain called "volcanic barrier". The researchers found that as long as they clicked on this area of the mice, the lab rats were so excited that they did not eat or drink, and were in a state of euphoria for many days in a row.
In fact, when people like to do something, most of them are because the brain secretes dopamine, which can make people feel happy, and behavioral addiction is based on this physiological principle. When the "parabarrier" is stimulated, it will secrete more dopamine, and people will become addicted.
One problem is that once addicted, the secretion of dopamine will increase more and more.
It is not difficult to understand why those gamblers are getting more and more out of control in the end, until they go bankrupt. And those drug addicts are looking for a dopamine rush in the brain.
The most terrible thing after addiction is not the secretion of dopamine, even if you cut off ** and forcibly quit, but the behavior of addiction has been retained by brain Xi, once there is a little temptation, it can be rekindled immediately. This is the reason why many people who have been in and out of drug rehabilitation centers many times.
Many children are addicted to playing games, and children who are really addicted may also find that they are not playing the right games at a certain time, but when they reach the point, they are controlled by addictive behaviors and cannot control themselves at all.
These toys with the nature of "gambling", whether they can smash golden eggs, whether they can get cash, and get the cards they want, it is this uncertainty that stimulates the estrangement and makes people addicted.
That's why it's important to cut off your child's habit of escalating addiction Xi time.
How to help your child get back to normal.
Since the harm is so great, what can we, as parents, do to put an end to children's addiction?
There are three points for everything to happen, ability, motivation and triggers, and knowing these three factors can control a person's subsequent behavior.
Don't give your child these abilities.
In fact, it will not have a big impact if children in the first and second grades do not give pocket money, if the students generally have pocket money. For example, if the child wants to buy school Xi supplies by himself, then the money should not be too much, just enough.
At the same time, let children develop the Xi of bookkeeping and do not buy goods that are not useful. Mom and dad can buy toys with their children, and don't buy those fake and shoddy products on their own.
Help your child understand motivations.
In fact, many children don't like it very much, as the item they get, what they care about is the surprise of the moment they open. Parents help their children think calmly about their motives, let them know that these small games, the ultimate goal is to confuse themselves and waste all the money in the shop.
I believe that most children can still accept this unreasonable motivation and stop participating in these stupid games.
Do not touch the trigger condition.
For example, we adults like to brush **, if we are too busy with our own things, or the mobile phone is out of battery, is it not qualified to brush **.
When picking up and dropping off children from school, we can choose a route with fewer shops or fewer merchants. As long as the child can't see, the inner curiosity will not be awakened, and slowly the child will not be obsessed with these games.
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