Girlfriends are the most intimate symbol of friendship between women.
However, in real life, sometimes we will meet some "fake girlfriends" who are intimate on the surface, feel how good they are with us, as if they are our relatives, but in fact, they are hypocritical, fall into the well, and secretly calculate behind the scenes.
Such a person may not easily see her "true face" when we are prosperous or smooth, but once we encounter difficulties, then what she does will make us very sad and chilling.
Here's how to spot some fake girlfriends and how to protect yourself from harm.
1. The obvious characteristics of fake girlfriends
1. One set on the surface and one set on the back.
Fake girlfriends usually like to talk about it, and they will act very caring in front of you and care about your life and feelings. However, as soon as you are not present, they will immediately put on a different face and talk about your shortcomings and secrets, or even belittle and ridicule you.
2. Use your resources without actual reciprocal feedback.
Fake girlfriends often use your network, social status, or wealth to their advantage. They will borrow money from you, ask you to recommend good relationships, resources, or always use your banner and name to improve her own social status.
They often say very nice words, how grateful and grateful to you, and even that you are their great benefactor, and promise how to repay you, but in reality, they do not take any action, and even when you ask them to pay back the money, or when something happens to confront them, they lie a lot, or they can't find anyone at all.
3. Lack of sincerity and support.
Fake girlfriends will only share joys and sorrows, not bitterness. When they are in trouble, they will think of asking you for help, but when you are in trouble or need help, they often choose to stand by and watch.
Not only that, but they will also find all kinds of excuses to avoid helping you and even betraying you when you need support the most.
2. How to identify fake girlfriends
1. Observe the consistency of her words and deeds.
A sincere friend will be consistent in words and deeds. If she often says one thing in front of you and does another behind her back, then she is most likely a fake girlfriend.
2. Notice the change in her attitude towards you.
If a person's attitude towards you often changes with time and circumstances, or according to your financial resources, how much you can do, then she is not a trustworthy friend.
Real girlfriends only identify you as a person, and will not discriminate against you because of how you are or how much money you have, not only that, they will give you timely firm support and effective comfort when you need it.
3. Pay attention to her motivations.
Paying attention to one's motivations is the key to identifying fake girlfriends.
A sincere friend will help you out of concern and support, while a fake girlfriend will deliberately approach you, flatter you, and be nice to you just to take advantage of you or satisfy her own selfish desires.
4. Listen to intuition and the opinions of others.
Sometimes, our intuition tells us if someone is sincere or not. If you feel that a friend may not be genuinely treating you, don't ignore that feeling. At the same time, listen to other friends to see if they have observed similar behaviors.
5. Look at how she behaved during difficult times.
There is a saying that adversity sees the truth.
When faced with difficulties or challenges, a true friend will firmly support you, while a fake girlfriend will choose to run away or betray. By observing how a person behaves during your difficult times, or when you are at a low point, you can get a clearer picture of who she really is.
3. How to protect yourself from fake girlfriends
1. Be vigilant and rational in judgment.
Always be vigilant, don't trust the sweet words of others, and don't let your guard down because you are soft-hearted. Identify the characteristics and behavior patterns of fake girlfriends through rational observation and judgment.
2. Stick to principles and bottom lines.
In interpersonal communication, you must stick to your own principles and bottom line, and don't be easily confused by other people's rhetoric. Dare to say "no" to insincere actions and words.
3. Expand your social circle and make friends with people who have similar values to you.
Expand your social circle and make some good friends with similar values. This will increase your chances of meeting a sincere friend and reduce the risk of being hurt by a fake girlfriend.
4. Stop loss and ask for help in time.
Once you find out that a friend is a fake girlfriend, you should stop the loss in time and reduce the emotional burden from her. Don't listen to any of her excuses or crying, dare to tear your face and block her decisively, and never see her again.
It takes a certain amount of wisdom and courage to spot fake girlfriends and protect yourself from harm.
Methods such as observing consistency between words and actions, noticing changes in attitudes, paying attention to motivations for behavior, listening to intuition and other people's opinions, and seeing how she behaves during difficult times can help us identify fake girlfriends.
In addition, we must also remain vigilant and rational judgment, stick to our own principles and bottom line, do not trust people too easily, and cannot be deceived by rhetoric.