As we reach middle age, we learn more and more lessons, but unfortunately, some lessons often come too late.
In the torrent of society, we are like drifting leaves, old, young, and involuntarily.
At this time, kindness has become our biggest **, but we also need to add a little edge to it.
It's too good to be grateful.
In this impetuous society, a ** family once said: "No matter who is too enthusiastic, you increase the likelihood of not being cherished." ”
Kindness should be true and powerful, not blind indulgence.
Once upon a time, the Gongzi City of the Song Kingdom, Huabao enemies, met on a narrow path. Although the city knew etiquette, it used this way to fight its enemies.
However, Hua Bao understands that kindness cannot be synonymous with weakness, so Seong-hee's trick is seen through by Hua Bao, and his goodness becomes his weakness.
Kindness needs to have boundaries, not blindness.
There is an old saying: "The brave who meet on a narrow road wins." This is not to encourage us to be timid in our relationships, but to remind us that kindness needs to have boundaries.
In the face of injustice and bullying, we should learn to defend ourselves with the sword instead of relying on etiquette.
We need to understand that kindness does not mean compromise and weakness, but rather a powerful expression.
On the contrary, you are kind, you don't resist, you don't do things that hurt others, and this kind of thought, once it gets into other people's minds, then what you do will be very passive.
Too much kindness can be taken for granted.
Continued goodwill is sometimes taken for granted.
A wise man once said, "Many people tend to make assumptions about the needs and needs of others, thinking that the feelings and investments that work for themselves must also be useful for others." ”
You think that if you help others, you will make others stand up, and you have reached the result of burning incense in the cold temple. But there are many people in the world who are immoral, they can't go up the wall, they turn a blind eye to goodness.
Therefore, we have to know how to be proportionate, not all kindness will be understood and appreciated.
Sharp kindness can help others, but also yourself.
There is a sentence in "Memories of the Stars": "Without the protection of the sword, the beauty of the world cannot fully bloom;Strong without tenderness, like a sword without a sheath;It will hurt itself. ”
This tells us that kindness needs an advantage in order to better help others. Kindness is like a double-edged sword that needs to be used skillfully to protect oneself and make beauty bloom.
Don't blame those who seem indifferent, it's also one way not to help.
In life, we often encounter some seemingly indifferent people who are not easy to lend a hand and are not willing to help casually. This does not mean that they lack kindness.
It's like someone falling into the water. You can't swim, but you don't dare to jump into the water easily. When someone is begging, you don't give money because you know it's probably going to be a **.
With so much trickery and fraud in life, they know to be cautious and protect themselves.
Therefore, we should understand the situation of different people and not easily blame those who appear indifferent, because sometimes, their indifference is also one.
When people reach middle age, they should give kindness to others.
The original intention of kindness is that a tree shakes a tree, and a flower encourages a flower. We need to find some equally kind people to help.
At the end of the Qin Dynasty, a woman who washed clothes gave half of her food money to the poor Han Xin, who later became one of the founding fathers of the Western Han Dynasty and repaid the woman's kindness.
A similar story was told by the Ming Emperor Zhu Yuanzhang, who had a relative who died at a young age, but who was helped by a landowner.
These stories teach us that the transmission of goodwill should be mutual, and that one party's efforts will be rewarded by the other.
Kindness is not rewarded, but it also requires respect.
When we help others, we don't necessarily have to reciprocate, but at least we need to be respected.
Poor but aspiring students, smart people who need to find a job, poor people who are rich at heart, people with disabilities, etc., these people are all worthy of our help.
However, giving kindness is not about making others take it for granted, but about being kind to oneself while being kind to others.
When people reach middle age, it is not easy to socialize, and it is not easy to try.
When people reach middle age, they must learn to learn from history and people. Don't try to get involved in bad people and bad things.
As the saying goes, "Good horses are ridden, good people are bullied." "In the face of the demons and monsters of society, we must make choices and remain human.
We can't do harm, but we have to protect ourselves. It is also a kind of kindness not to cause chaos in society.
When people reach middle age, a kind heart needs a sharp blade, and a good behavior needs a bottom line. Kindness is not weakness, but a powerful expression.
In this complex society, we should be kind to others as well as to ourselves.
A beautiful and heavy life requires us to carve with a sharp blade, so that the beautiful and heavy shine more dazzlingly.