In China, drinking is a very important way to socialize, and it is an indispensable part of the workplace and social circle. However, the psychology behind the drinking game is often overlooked. Many people think that as long as they can drink and talk, they can be comfortable in the drinking game, but in fact, there is a deeper psychological factor behind this.
In traditional Chinese culture, wine is seen as a medium to communicate with the gods, as well as a way to express feelings and friendships. Therefore, in the drinking party, people tend to express their emotions and attitudes by drinking. However, this expression is not untargeted, but there are certain psychological routines to follow.
First of all, in a drinking party, people tend to show their friendliness and warmth by letting each other drink. This behavior is actually a kind of emotional projection, that is, projecting one's inner feelings onto the other person, thinking that the other person feels the same as oneself. However, this projection is often inaccurate because everyone's feelings and experiences are different. Therefore, in a drinking party, if a person keeps making the other person drink, it may not be a sincere expression, but a psychological manipulation.
Secondly, the psychological routines in the drinking game are also manifested in the behavior of toasting and persuading each other to drink. Toasting each other is a very common phenomenon in Chinese drinking bureaus. However, this behavior is actually a social Xi rather than a real expression of emotion. When toasting, people tend to say polite words or spectacle words, which are not really emotional exchanges. Conversely, this behavior may cause some people to drink excessively in order to cater to others, which can affect their physical and mental health.
So, how to avoid being manipulated by psychological routines in the drinking game? First of all, you should be clear about your drinking bottom line and principles. Don't drink too much because you cater to others, and don't easily change your bottom line because of others' persuasion. Second, learn to observe the actions and words of others. If you find that someone is drinking excessively or persuading others to drink, learn to politely refuse or change the subject. Finally, be mindful of your physical and mental health. If you feel like you've been drinking too much or are feeling unwell, stop drinking and seek help.
In short, the psychology behind the drinking game is complex and diverse. Understanding these routines can help us better navigate situations in the workplace and in our social circles. In the drinking party, it is necessary to maintain a clear mind and a healthy mindset in order to better face the challenges in life.